Just that really. I am a happy mum who went through a lot including a bad postnatal depression with my first child which triggered my anxiety. My kids have always been very emotional and vocal and in the family we always talk through different feelings and analyse them and don't label things as bad or good , black or white. We moved to the UK quite recently and I feel a lot more 'mum judgement' here than I ever felt in my kids entire life.
I am quite a chaotic mum and perhaps I am a bit loud when I speak or express myself so if you don't know me personally and see me somewhere on my 'bad day' you might think that I don't have anything under control but it's just a fragment of my life really. Recently my youngest been going through some emotional crisis and having quite a lot of tantrums involving falling on the floor on her back , crying etc especially when overtired. I never shout on my kids or use threats so mostly try to calm the situation and somehow support myself and my kid through it and then try to leave and get fresh air. However recently I been getting quite a lot of side looks and comments from complete strangers when they see me in the middle of a stressful situation or something.
Again it might simply be that where I come from kids tantrums are quite normal and nobody would blink an eye seeing a slightly stressed mum trying to keep it together. Examples in the past week I can think of in the local play and dance event where I took my youngest it was a bit overwhelming so she had a tantrum and 2 random women just came to me telling me 'it's a struggle isn't it do you need some help'. It actually confused me as I didn't know them and it came across quite patronising cause they kept on saying to one another and smiling and laughing whilst standing on top of me how 'we all been there ' whilst my daughter was screaming hysterically and we both clearly needed space .
I feel like whenever my kids are having a big feelings moment people just stare or almost judge the ways you are dealing with it which adds really to the anxiety any mother probably is dealing with.
Does that happen to you or you got it mostly under control when out and about?