Six siblings between us and not a single card for my 1 year old's birthday

[lyson]

Aibu to think that's a bit shit?

Never mind, I know people have lots going on in their own lives but it's a shame.

And it's our second! Does that matter?

Many people don't send cards at all now. They would e-mail or text- and not to a 1-year-old! A 1-year-old is unlikely to appreciate a card either, for that matter. And they don't have a concept of their birthday. Even when cards were more of a thing, I don't think they were usually sent for first birthdays, unless a party was involved. Unless your siblings/ ILs are generally indifferent to your child, I wouldn't worry about the lack of cards

And because of the fantastic cost of postage!

I'm surprised at the replies. YANBU, OP. We always send a card and present/money for all niblings. All of our siblings buy for our DC too.

I can't remember the last card I sent. Do you exchange presents usually?

My second baby is about to turn one and I'd be very surprised if my siblings remembered the date unless I reminded them. I don't expect my dad will remember either. This doesn't bother me at all - I know they care about her and us regardless of whether they remember birthdays. Matters more when the kids are old enough to know.

A 1 year old is not on Facebook or Instagram. A card is definitely needed. A nice card with your one today on. Its a cop out sensing a text, how lazy and inconsiderate.
YANBU Op
You've got chappy siblings.

I'd be disappointed too. I kept all of the new baby and 1st birthday cards for both of my children. Now they are older I don't tend to keep them all but my 5 year old loves getting cards in the post.

And for the environmental warriors out there we cut them up and use for crafts so I don't feel too wracked with guilt.

Let’s be real. Cards aren’t ‘going out of fashion’ because of the environment or the price of stamps… 🙄

It’s because lazy-arsed people won’t put themselves out to do anything that takes more effort than tapping out six words on a text or FB. Actually go to a shop, buy a card, write words and post? Far too much effort for lazy selfish people to go to.

YANBU op.

Cards are absolutely dying out. Social media is taking over, and the increased cost of postage has also taken a toll.

I think it's sad. A message is read and then forgotten. Having your birthday cards on display is a kind of affirmation for a few days that you have people who care about you and love you. Of course hopefully you know that on one level, but there's a reason we send/sent cards and that is "we love and care about you". And for the recipient..."these people care enough to think of me and send a card"

A social media message is entirely different. It's no more than a few seconds of typing, often prompted by a reminder from Facebook or the like.
Going out to choose a card that the recipient will like, writing in it and posting it, says 'this person matters to me'

It’s because lazy-arsed people won’t put themselves out to do anything that takes more effort than tapping out six words on a text or FB. Actually go to a shop, buy a card, write words and post? Far too much effort for lazy selfish people to go to.

^ you've said it much better than me. Also, to answer the PP, a nibbling is a new word in the world of denying biological sex matters.

Strange why the card shops and supermarkets have loads of them really.

I get it OP . I have a scrap book of all my children birthday cards until they were about 10 ! They are adults now and very occasionally they look and reminisce about the people that sent them .
Always sent cards to nephews and nieces but appreciate that cards are disappearing !
It’s my sons birthday tomorrow and I was only thinking today that no cards have come in the post 😞

I don’t think I’ve always sent cards when friend’s / siblings kids are 1 or even 2 - I’d get something, but it’s not like they can read or know what’s going on.

They are probably in the post. Some of the Christmas cards I sent early December have only arrived in the past week! Royal Mail are awful these days.
Your siblings may also be wondering why you didn't message to say thanks for the gifts!

Exactly and cards aren't even e pensive now. 5 for a pound.

Absolutely! I've hidden my birthday from my Facebook profile and it really makes me appreciate the people who actually remember it's my birthday and either post a card or send a nice text message. I do not want a generic Facebook told me to say happy birthday so I'm going to.

I’d stop sending cards to them too.