Six siblings between us and not a single card for my 1 year old's birthday

[lyson]

Aibu to think that's a bit shit?

Never mind, I know people have lots going on in their own lives but it's a shame.

And it's our second! Does that matter?

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They've acknowledged the birthday, that's all I'd expect tbh. Cards are very much dying out.

Where does everyone stand on presents?

I do t value cards at all, just more rubbish in the house. Pils are the only ones still sending cards - no one cares for the cards - for the kids it’s all about the presents.
a message it a call works just as well in my opinion.

Presents depends on the family. In mine, we would give nieces and nephews a birthday present, and give it to them the first time we saw them after their birthday or pass on via grandparents etc. No expectation to post.

Also, for a first birthday a family party would be fairly typical.

To those saying cards are dying out I don’t get this at all - surely birthday cards, especially for kids,are still a thing…? We’ve got 3 nephews/nieces between us and all get presents and cards.

I think text messages are lazy and don’t even get me started on Facebook messages. Urgh.

A card is thoughtful and they should treat your second just like your first. I’ve kept all the 1st birthday cards. Imagine if you did that for DC1 and DC2 had none?

People have gotten lazy since covid, standards are slipping.

WTF is a nibbling/nibble? Is this another made up word I've not heard of before?

OP, DH and I have 8 siblings between us, 22 nieces and nephews ranging from 3 to 26 and none of us have ever missed sending a birthday card/gift

I would never send a card to a small child who couldn't read it. I think it's ridiculous to expect one for a 1 year old.

For older ones, I think it also ridiculous to complain that while you received birthday wishes, it wasn't in a handwritten format. Someone remembered your child and thought to wish them happy birthday. That's it.

Imagining someone long ago complaining that while their birthday was acknowledged, their unworthy relative sent one of these newly mass manufactured cards and didn't bother to write a letter. Someone sent a letter and not a nice traditional clay tablet.

I think there is some value in a handwritten personal message from an older relative, which can be a memento of a loved one when they're dead. But that's a generous assumption for most birthday cards. Some people send pre-addressed Happy birthday ones and only put 'To X' at the top and 'From Y' at the bottom, which is so impersonal and I think worthless.

I did keep all the cards for my first... can't do that for the second!

In their defence, we had a party for our first's first birthday, we haven't for our second

☹️ Whether people believe in sending cards or not, they should treat everyone fairly. We have three nieces with the same parents and they all get a card and present each birthday and always have!

People should remember its not just for the 1 year old either it’s for the parents and mother to celebrate the first birthday. One whole year of being alive and still very new to the world!

That is rubbish. Maybe they are waiting until the see your DC?

I don't send cards for 1yo birthdays & wouldn't expect one for my child either...

Unless you have a bday party maybe, but otherwise no.

If they sent a message I don't get why it would be a big deal

I've never sent a card to a niece or nephew ever. Or a brother or sister. I do send the occasional one to older generations, who still seem to set some store by it ( over 70s) but I also consider them a huge waste of time, money and the planets resources

People are putting less and less emphasis on cards and replacing them with electronic methods. They are slowly dying out as technology moves on, I personally dont mind as I find them very wasteful.

All of these po faced people who don’t send cards because ‘think of the environment’ whilst posting on social media.
You do know the internet consumes vast amounts of electricity?

I think I must live in another world 🤣 ... never do messages always send cards well at least to my close friends/family members.

Did any of them send presents? I have 8 nieces and nephews and all live far away from me, several in different countries. I have never sent any of them birthday cards as I just don’t have the time and I’m not really a fan of birthday or Christmas cards. I always send a gift via Amazon prime and then send a birthday text to them, or to their parents if they are too young. And yes I’ll admit on a couple of occasions I have been a day of two late.
If none of the 6 sent a gift and didn’t send a message then you have reason to be upset.

Sorry I think they are a waste of paper and money - a one year old can't read a card so its just you that is feeling left out and its not your birthday.

No presents, no cards, but they did all message

Yes I’d be upset too if no presents. X

I think that's rude op, esp the siblings for whom you buy nieces and nephews

It might be the post. Ours can come two weeks after things were posted. We don't have local family. But will get a pile of cards late., It's like they collect them up at the sorting office. Been like that for past 3 years.

I think cards are going out of fashion because of the waste to environment