He slept with someone else during a break and I can’t forgive him…

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I’ve been on and off with my partner for a while because things have been rocky. On our last break which lasted about a month, he then confessed that he slept with someone he barely knew after a couple of weeks.

Technically yes we were on a break with the view to take some space and time apart from each other but then try and resolve the issue so I guess it’s not classed as cheating, but I just can’t see how he done that - I can’t even bring myself to kiss another person let alone do that!

Why another thread on this? Was it an accident?

Is that you, Rachel?

You are unreasonable to start a second thread for the same topic

Also unreasonable for not realising that a break is exactly that - a break from their relationship

I haven’t started another thread? This must of happened by accident sorry!

If this is the second break, just leave it, it's not working. What's the point?

Clearly he doesn’t respect your relationship and having time apart - he’s seen this as an opportunity or naturally he’s just moved on mentally enough to give himself to someone else.

I would take this as another sign it isn’t working and try move forward with your life and let him get on with his. If it was meant to be I doubt he would have slept with someone else and you wouldn’t need to take so many breaks from each other

Maybe it should be permanently off. No relationship is worth all this stress.

I'm a firm believer that if you need a break you need to end the relationship. People who want to be together don't suggest having a break from each other.

If you can't move on, then you need to leave.

(It's not a question of forgiving .... you can't control what someone you are not dating chooses to do! )

Instead of taking a break, just break up.

It’s not meant to be this hard.

I honestly don’t think some people even understand the basic premise of a relationship.

You’re meant to like each other and care for each other, which means all this ‘break taking’ isn’t needed or necessary.

Hardly a relationship worth staying for if your break that much. Cmon get your self worth together, he clearly doesn't have much affection for you break or no break sleeping with someonelse so quickly and watever else he hasn't told you probably. Get some inner strength actually break and wait a while and hey presto you will meet someone who will work for you.

@Firstbornunicorn when I saw the thread title, all I could think of was "WE WERE ON A BREAK!!!!"

What were the ground rules ? Did you agree that you were having space but still committed ?

This relationship clearly needs to permanently end.

The OP's posted this thread twice, in error, so we're closing this one and directing people over to this longer one - www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4726279-he-slept-with-someone-else-during-a-break-and-i-cant-forgive-him