To ask partner to not have a drink on a Sunday?

[Misscf81]

Just that really, my partner and I enjoy a drink, it’s pretty much kept to weekends and not really in the week, but I tend to have a drink Friday and/or Saturday if I have a drink and not on a Sunday, but it’s as if he’s not capable of having a booze free Sunday.

it’s only 4/5 drinks, he’s never nasty etc. with it, but it’s getting me down that he can’t go a Sunday without a beer.

we’re early 40s, no children, been together 11 years, but I’m starting to resent him and it’s pissing my off to be quiet honest.

it’s only 4/5 drinks, he’s never nasty etc. with it, but it’s getting me down that he can’t go a Sunday without a beer.

Why?

Yabu. You can't expect him to only drink the same time as you.

Difficult to answer without a bit more info- if it doesn't make him into a dick and you enjoy a drink yourself, why does it bother you?

As above. You haven't said 'why' this bothers you.

Unless he becomes abusive or it means that he cannot complete any family or work commitments then YABVU

He is an adult and can do as he wants. From your post there is very little reason apart from you don’t want him to. That’s a bit controlling and I can imagine the responses if it was the other way round

So he’s only allowed to drink on the days that you drink?

I don’t see why he’s allowed on a Friday and Saturday but not a Sunday.

I don't get this, is there an actual reason why he shouldn't drink on a Sunday or do you just want his actions to be the same as yours every day of the week?

I think because that’s when the OP wants to drink. She wants him doing exactly what she wants.

Why on Earth should he only drink when you do?
If it’s not causing any problems you’re being very unreasonable - just let him enjoy a few beers ffs

With the information given, yes YABU. He shouldnt have to be on your booze schedule.

Well havnt we hit a stage in time where a fella can't enjoy a few pints on a Sunday 😂

Does he work hard all week?

If he's not pissed up, staggering around, coming in at all hours then yes UABVU

I only drink at the weekend and that includes a Sunday. I would be mightily pissed off if my DH dictated that I must no longer have a few glasses of wine on Sunday evening just because he disapproved. Yabvu. And you sound uptight.

You haven’t given a valid, or any reason for why exactly it pisses you off. If he’s not unpleasant to be around, hasn’t got kids to mind, manages to get up for work on Monday then what’s the issue here? If it’s just that you don’t like it because you choose not to then yes, YABU

Very controlling (you). I love a couple of glasses of a nice red on a Sunday afternoon either in a cosy pub or chilling at home on the sofa. Anyone who has an issue with it can do one.

What's the problem with him drinking on a Sunday night?

So controlling of you!! What if he said 'you can only drink on a Sunday now when I drink'?

Why does it bother you? What impact does it have?

Maybe he’d prefer you to abstain on a Friday and/or Saturday but keeps quiet about it!?

Based only on your OP you're being very unreasonable and also weird

He’s not your twin or a child but an adult who is still pleasant to be with when he’s had a drink. He shouldn’t have to abide by your rules or be controlled by you. Back off.

Do you police any other activity that he does?

You can imagine the outcry here if a woman posted that her husband wouldn’t let her enjoy a few drinks on a Sunday. It’d be “LTB” all over the place.

Why?!

Totally unreasonable. I hope it’s not a reverse, I hate those.

YABU. I sometimes have a glass or two of wine on a Sunday evening, never to excess. DH sometimes joins me, more often doesn't, but he would NEVER think to dictate what I choose to do.