To think if you give money to one of your children you should give it to all?

[Pippyi]

I share a child with my husband and I also have a stepdaughter too who is my husband's daughter from a previous relationship.

Both children are still young and live at home i.e. not adults!

My husband has started putting money in his daughters savings account every month but not our child's.

Am I being unreasonable to think if he's putting money in his daughters savings account, he should be putting money in our child's too? (Who also has a savings account but he's never put anything in).

For clarity I'm aware older children have more need for their own money but that isn't this. This is savings, DSD also gets pocket money (she's 10) that I wouldn't expect DH to give to our 4yo but I think if you're saving for one child you should be doing it for all of them.

YANBU. Did you speak to him?

As long as he does the same for his other child when they reach the age of 10 I don't see any problem.

Same. I save for joint DC. Husband doesn't save for my SD but then he also doesn't save for our joint DC. In that respect it is fair. I think what my husband does for the DC he should do for SD - though theyre an adult and gap between the kids is huge so our circumstances may be different by the time ours are adults. What I do for my DC i shouldn't be expected to do for SD as she has a mum, but thats different to what DH should do.

On the other hand, not very fair if he saves for your child from ages 4 up and for your step daughter only from ages 10 up. If it's a one off, he should make it to both. If it's regular saving then he should do it for the same number of years. And waiting until your child is 10 seems an easy way to do that.

Yes of course he should! If he won't I'd take his share out of the family money as a bill and save that.

If you have more than one child you have to be fair.

This is going to sound shit, but it come often be the case, some guys think of their 'first' family as more important. Heir snd a spare type thing. Of course it very often is the other way around and guys will only financially support the child they current live with even if they have other children.
(When I say guys, I mean dickheads).

@Bestcatmum that's bloody terrible. I don't blame you for being angry.