To be hurt by colleague?

[TheLostNights]

Been confiding in her a lot about difficult colleagues and she has always had my back.
There was a mix up where she expected me to be back from a work lunch at a certain time and I was not but I had told the other colleagues but they were not listening and were also wondering where I was. So she ended up leaving the office late. Then when I apologised by text she seemed a bit off and today has barely said a word to me and when I tried explaining what had happened, she didn't say anything, just sort of nodded and walked off. Aibu to say she should be talking to me if there is an issue and not behaving so sullen?

She's cross and in a bad mood. Give her space. We are all allowed a bad mood.

So you have her phone number and you knew it would affect her but you didn’t make any attempt to let her know directly, just relied on colleagues you already felt are difficult and you’ve been talking about to her.

Id be pissed off too if I were her.

As I said, I had told the others so if they had listened, they would have relayed this back to her. It was their fault for not listening.

“and they chose to ignore you”.

Wonder why…

starting to question if this is genuine.

she has to stay late because you are late from lunch, but it’s ok because you told everyone EXCEPT HER that was the case??

they aren’t your messengers. You should have told/asked her directly.

I do think you need to stop talking about colleagues behind their backs like that. It probably comes across as bitching.

Do we all not need a good bitch about colleague now and again? How is one to survive otherwise? A few of mine drive me absolutely mad.

Surely it was your fault for being back late?

Why didn’t you text her? You can’t assume people have heard you, sometimes people have zoned out doing other things.

Maybe don't treat her like a friend you confide in and pull it back to professional coworker level.

This sounds too intense for work. Colleagues shouldn't be able to hurt you emotionally.