I am half asking on behalf of DH, half asking WIBU for being so flatly in one jobs corner.
DH is currently stuck between a rock and a hard place making a decision whether to take a new role or not, I am very much in the camp of one job in particular, but we are disagreeing so wanted to get some external input.
Job 1 - his current role
been there for 17 months
salary - £68,000 plus 10% bonus yearly (was 20% but they’ve reduced it)
he is miserable in role, pretty much a glorified handyman, not valued but is seen as ‘useful’ snr management are very difficult to get along with, but he likes his peers and the team he manages.
Rumours swirling that the company is going to be sold within the next 6-12 months - and due to DHs job/sector being down valued in the past few years he would struggle to find another job in a hurry if made redundant (which would be likely if the company sold up) so not secure
limited to no flexibility, they get funny about WFH (apparently you can only motivate a team by sitting next to them, but that doesn’t apply for snr management who are in once a month if that)
Job 2 -
A role he has been in the process of starting for nearly a year (needed high levels of vetting so it’s been 11 months since getting an offer to being able to start)
civil service job, he has wanted to get back into the civil service since leaving 6 years ago
salary - here is the issue, a role was advertised at £45k-£66k dependant on experience, DH is somewhat over qualified for the role (which the hiring manager raised) so asked for the top of the band, was told the top of the band is for x years served so not actually achievable for new starters (so why advertise at that) and was verbally offered £55k. He was then approached for a different role with the same organisation, was told (again verbally) as it’s the same band the salary would be similar. He went for the other role as it was a better fit, and got a formal offer of £43k, which he queried, it was then raised to £45k and now is sitting at £47k which is their ‘final offer’
The people in HR he is dealing with are being quite difficult and it’s putting him off accepting.
Flexibility - very flexible, more WFH than in the office/on location, also offers compressed hours from day one if you like (so DH would plan to do 4 day weeks, which would help with childcare costs, and general work life balance)
Although he hasn’t started yet he had a few days in to spend time with the team he’d be leading, they are all lovely and he likes them.
It’s also working on a site that has sentimental meaning to him, as way back when his grandfather also worked at this location and always talked about how much he loved it etc.
Personally I am very pro job 2, we are due our first child in 8 days time and the flexibility would be helpful all round, he also gets more holiday with job 2 and I think it would be a job he is happy in, he hasn’t been ‘happy’ in a job since leaving the civil service and it really gets him down. I earn well, so salary imo isn’t the most important factor, but DH grew up ‘poor’ so is struggling to take such a large pay cut during a COL crisis.
So wise MNers
YABU - Job 1
YANBU - Job 2