To think people need to stop over sharing SO MUCH on social media

[yorkshirepudsx]

People share wayyyy too much online. Particularly about their kids.

I was just sat having a scroll of Facebook and came across a post this lady made, photos of her daughter (5 or 6 years old) led in a hospital bed. Then there were selfies of herself in the post, with a filter and pouting whilst the daughter is in the background super unwell!!

I went onto her profile and had a nosey and every little bit of information was on there! Which hospital, which ward, what was wrong, etc etc.

Then I realised after having a nosey on other peoples profiles etc, so many parents do it!! And it makes me sad 😩

Albums titled with the child's full name, date of birth, then photos of their children in their school uniform showing the logo and everything.
Then they post exactly where they are and when, whenever they go the gym, supermarket, work, etc, they check in, and tell everybody exactly what they're doing.

And the worst part is half of the stuff on their Facebook is set to 'public' - and then they have tiktok, Instagram, all set to public too.

All I can think is how unsafe this could potentially be for children?
Absolutely anybody could go onto their profiles, find out all the information they need on the children, what school they go to in which town, etc, they can easily get photos of the kids too - know everything about the children's parent's, where the parents are on what days of the week, etc etc.

It just makes me feel uneasy and a bit p*ssed off on behalf of their kids too.

I barely ever post anything on Facebook, all of my social media profiles are set to private anyway, but still, people didn't know I was pregnant until they saw me in person with a massive bump/pushing a pram 🙈 but I feel as though some people take it way too far.

I'd of cringed so much and would have felt so pissed off, if now, as an adult, my mum was on Facebook with photos of me in a hospital bed suffering with sepsis whilst she posed next to me, or if she was sharing memories on Facebook of photos of me sat in the bath, etc, for the whole world to see 🤦‍♀️

Is it just me?? Am I the weird one for being super conscious of what I post online?
I just feel like there's a limit. I understand people sharing their good news, or sharing the odd photos of their children/loved ones, but I just can't understand the need to overshare so much. It's quite sad really

How massively attention seeking. The poor sick child! Mum should be focussed on being there for her, not drumming up likes on Facebook.

I never post anything, extremely private, never posted a single photo or post on Facebook or any social media and never will.

They can always delete the posts later. Just do your thing OP. Most people have their accounts set to private. I doubt they would be bullied for what their parents posted many years ago on social media. Kids aren’t likely to find someone else’s parents and friend them.

100% agree.

However regardless of privacy settings, once a picture is on the internet it's there forever. So i find it a bit annoying when people use the privacy settings as an excuse to post loads about their kids.

Have you ever lost a child? People react and grieve very differently. Perhaps it gave them comfort to talk about their child and see her images in the media after she died - keeping her legacy/memory alive. There is no right or wrong when it comes to bereavement. Many people never get over it and continue to talk about the deceased for the rest of their lives.

I belong to a few FB groups, hiking, no over sharing here and then a sort of chat/friendship group. It’s a bit like a MN site but with your face, if it’s actually them. One woman way over shared a few months ago. She then wrote a long ranty mail about people complaining that she wrote on it too much, due to her people are only allowed to post original posts a couple of times a day.

Totally on board with you here OP. And not even so much for safety reasons - I just think it’s wrong to share images of your kids publicly until they’re old enough to give you consent. One day they’ll be adults with their own opinions, styles, temperaments, sexualities, jobs etc and they might not want to be associated with the versions of them that were presented on a parent’s insta profile.

No one forces you to have a social media profile. You don't have to have one. Then you can ask about their holiday.
I would rather see holiday pics that an evening meal