To think people need to stop over sharing SO MUCH on social media

[yorkshirepudsx]

People share wayyyy too much online. Particularly about their kids.

I was just sat having a scroll of Facebook and came across a post this lady made, photos of her daughter (5 or 6 years old) led in a hospital bed. Then there were selfies of herself in the post, with a filter and pouting whilst the daughter is in the background super unwell!!

I went onto her profile and had a nosey and every little bit of information was on there! Which hospital, which ward, what was wrong, etc etc.

Then I realised after having a nosey on other peoples profiles etc, so many parents do it!! And it makes me sad 😩

Albums titled with the child's full name, date of birth, then photos of their children in their school uniform showing the logo and everything.
Then they post exactly where they are and when, whenever they go the gym, supermarket, work, etc, they check in, and tell everybody exactly what they're doing.

And the worst part is half of the stuff on their Facebook is set to 'public' - and then they have tiktok, Instagram, all set to public too.

All I can think is how unsafe this could potentially be for children?
Absolutely anybody could go onto their profiles, find out all the information they need on the children, what school they go to in which town, etc, they can easily get photos of the kids too - know everything about the children's parent's, where the parents are on what days of the week, etc etc.

It just makes me feel uneasy and a bit p*ssed off on behalf of their kids too.

I barely ever post anything on Facebook, all of my social media profiles are set to private anyway, but still, people didn't know I was pregnant until they saw me in person with a massive bump/pushing a pram 🙈 but I feel as though some people take it way too far.

I'd of cringed so much and would have felt so pissed off, if now, as an adult, my mum was on Facebook with photos of me in a hospital bed suffering with sepsis whilst she posed next to me, or if she was sharing memories on Facebook of photos of me sat in the bath, etc, for the whole world to see 🤦‍♀️

Is it just me?? Am I the weird one for being super conscious of what I post online?
I just feel like there's a limit. I understand people sharing their good news, or sharing the odd photos of their children/loved ones, but I just can't understand the need to overshare so much. It's quite sad really

Oh yes and the present brag posts 🤮

Oooh yes the Mount Everest pile of presents around the Christmas tree

It's no secret that facebook is for old people now and most under-35s wouldn't touch it with a bargepole but I'm still surprised at how many on here still seem hooked.

I have an account I visit maybe once ever couple of weeks with about 400 friends and it's a complete ghost-town. So much so that the newsfeed is just shitty memes from third parties because there's nothing else to show. The site's decline is terminal.

100%!!
Some moments should be kept private.

I don't share a lot on social media at all, and 99% of the time I don't remember to take photos because I'm too busy 'in the moment'

I think it's good, when people use it sensibly, or if people have their settings to private and share things for family to see, but I have private group chats on WhatsApp with our families to share photos of stuff, or for the family members that don't use it (like my partners grandparents) I just get photos printed every few months to give to them

That's very strang, posting faeces pics 😳
I agree with OP as well. I don't post pictures and my older child said, "mum please don't put my pictures on FB will you? I hereby do not consent". She actually said that, I was very proud of her.

sleeplessinengland I’m definitely an old fogey and I’m probably addicted to Facebook but not to see friends - people rarely use it to update their friends. I belong to a few sales groups, autism support groups and local groups so it is still the best way to keep up with local news, weather etc. But even this morning someone posted a ‘hilarious’ —not— post of a mess their dh had made on a group that has 10,000 local members. It had a photo and was really striking. I’d never forgive dp if he thought it was ok to share something about our home life to our local community - which would undoubtedly have people on it who know me.

@Sweetnsourtoday I love that she said that!! I'd be proud too!🥰

It's attention seeking. People think that they and their children are some sort of superstars.

Someone I know puts every little move their toddler makes on FB.
Disgusting has the toddler given their consent to have their face plastered all over Facebook.

Our dd was in hospital for a small operation recently. We witnessed the family in the bed opposite posing their child to take pics for I'm presuming social Media. Taking selfies with them while they were still coming round from their anesthetic. "Hold you hand on your belly so we can see your drip" then once again taking pics.

Turned our stomachs

I removed someone recently because she had shared a post showing photos of paramedics in her house treating her 2 year old who was struggling to breathe

I just thought there is nothing about that post or the parent posting it that I agree with so ill go quietly!

It's really, really odd. It must happen at least once or twice a month that I open Facebook to find that her 8 year old son has once again 'hilariously' done a poop in a plant pot, or her 5 year old daughter has smeared poop all over the toilet as a prank.
Don't get me wrong, as a mum of three I am very used to toilet humour, but it's just bizarre. Also, other mums at the school gate comment to each other about it in obviously concerned tones, and we all said that wouldn't invite her kids round to our houses incase they did one of these hilarious 'pranks'!!

I still use FB and post the odd photos of my kids/what we’ve been up to. But I have privacy filters so only family and close friends can see (so people who my kids physically know and are part of their lives) so they don’t have randoms from my work etc seeing what they’re up to! I also always check with my DC if they’re okay with me loading the photo on.

Definitely agree the younger generations don’t use Facebook that much. My grandparents post the most day-to-day stuff and photos more than anyone else!

But I still see a lot of people on public instagrams and TikTok accounts showing a lot of their kids lives. I do wonder how we’ll look back on this sort of stuff once that generation of babies/kids have grown into adults themselves.

You see it on here too. So many threads from Mumsnet end up in the tabloids, yet people continue to post so much identifiable information.

Fb now just seems to be ads or oversharing about kids. It's totally useless as social media at this point.

You just reminded me, I have an older family member (she's in her 70s I think!) and she gets Facebook and Google search mixed up sometimes, and will post statuses of things she wants to Google 🤣

Do I want my parents to now go through 32 years of pics and upload every memory we have to Facebook? No I don’t. Which is why I won’t do it to my child either! DH and I have agreed to share the odd thing but probably not DC’s face (due in April). So we will be very selective too.

I do have social media but I’m very private, for example I don’t know that you could even tell I was married from mine, I think DH features once on my instagram!

Although I also understand not everyone is like that and that’s their choice too, I just don’t really understand documenting everything about your children from the first scan picture to present!

No way that's sad 😓 I've been unfriending alot over the last couple of weeks x

I don't know who you're looking at but I find the opposite that most of my friends don't post anything, especially not pictures of their kids . It makes me sad because I have friends all over the country and world and would love to see what they're up to and how their kids are growing up. I post pictures of my kids (not in the bath!) And don't stress about their uniform etc. Anyone walking down the street can see what school they go to. I'm not sure what advantage a random person on Facebook would have from knowing. Also I am only Facebook friends with people I actually know. I don't understand why you would have "friends" you don't actually know. I certainly don't understand anyone who makes personal posts public.

For me it's not what they share, it's their assumption that anyone else cares.

You sound very similar to me!!

I bumped into one of my friends a while back and she asked me what's happened between me and my partner ... so I said nothing?? Why?👀 and she said "you don't post him on your story or anything and it doesn't have you as in a relationship, so I thought you had left him"

He's very much the same as me too though, barely ever posts! He uses YouTube mainly and sends me funny videos on his break at work and that's the peak of our social media relationship (and I love that)

I have come off FB because the lack of dignity people afford their DC and their dying/dead relatives. Looking at photos of terminally ill people's hands being gripped by the Facebooker, the 'Fly high' balloon releases and pictures of graves was just too much.

There was a very high profile murder in our town and the families public FB posts were astounding to me - sharing very grim details about both the victim and perpetrator. It made me really uncomfortable to be party to that window into grief and trauma. Who is this for? Maybe it is a part of grief and shock I don't understand but I felt wrong for accessing it.

Ha Ha good one. Most of it is repetitive rubbish and dull.
Oh look here I am having a coffee while I'm out. So.

I agree, although I’ve not been on it for years now for that very reason. Some people just like to spread their business around, their kids are the same as it’s the only thing they’ve ever known. But it does come in useful sometimes. When I wanted to send my Onco a personalized card I was able to find out all sorts of things after 10 mins on FB & Twitter. Bloody brilliant card it was!

It's just purely shocking how some people have no boundaries at all. Some of the stuff I've seen people share has been horrific!

Then there's also the ones that share every itty bitty little detail of their love life, which can be amusing especially when they start to publicly argue haha, but some people just fully step over a line!

Oooh for me, it's useful to find out birthdays! (Or to find out if I've forgotten them 🤣)