How do people who don’t want or like sex, or are asexual, date?

[AceNotInSpace]

Serious question.

I live in a small country, also not very tech-savvy, but I haven’t veen able to find any place I could try and find a partner.
’Normal’ apps / online, nevermind real life doesn’t work, even if I’m honest from the beginning - they either don’t believe me / think they can change me or shout abuse at me.

It’s really starting to get me and it’s getting harder and harder to keep believing that live even exist ⬅️ That’s me being dramatic right now, I’m just really low today.

So, I’d just like to know if anyone knows anyone or is someone who managed to find love, and sex isin’t demanded.

Try asking your question here......
www.asexuality.org/en/

There is a site called asexual cupid www.asexualcupid.com/ which isn't just the UK. I don't know how many countries it covers. I think they have a Reddit forum too. I considered it once but then realised I'm happy enough on my own. But you are far from alone in having this dilemma!

Yeah, what about it?

Even your small country will have at least one or two large-ish cities. In reality, many LGBT people who live in areas where there’s little to no LGBT community relocate away to towns and cities where there are more opportunities for dating and love: if finding an asexual relationship is a priority for you in your life, relocating to somewhere where there’s more of a “rainbow umbrella” community and opportunities to socialise and meet with other asexual people might be something you need to consider.

Sounds like you don’t want a partner and are just after a friend?

LGBT events are probably your best bet. Once you meet a few people they might be able to introduce you to other people with less typical preferences.

Why can't a couple have a full partnership relationship that includes every aspect of a full committed relationship just without sex? It's not nearly as unusual as you think - consider the majority of older couples where either one or both have completely lost their libido s part of the normal aging process.

No. Asexual partnerships are just as valid as sexual partnerships. Sex is not the only difference between friendship and partnership.

They date other asexual people, usually having met them socially or online...I know a lovely young couple who are both asexual and are in what they call a QPR (queer platonic relationship). They're a couple in every way, they just don't do the physical stuff. They met online in a D&D discord server, I think.

I know someone like this and she found a guy whom is also ‘asexual’ and they act like a couple other than having sex.
However, she’s deffo gay but in denial
and he certainly seems the same tho I don’t know him as well, so I do think I’m a few years time they’ll just come out and find partners they are comfortable being sexually intimate with.

I don't date. I have no interest in men or the horse they rode in on but then I'm not looking for asexual love. I can't see the point, that what I have friends for.

You're not alone in wondering this OP.
I would love to have a committed relationship just like any other person but without the sex.
I don't enjoy it and never have but I miss all the other parts of having a relationship.

The clear difference is that you have no interest in men but an asexual person has no interest in sex. 🙄

Do you mind me asking, and I don’t mean to be rude or anything, but don’t you want company?
Someone who shares their life with you etc?

To me friends just isin’t enough. They build their lives with someone else…

OP ignore the poster who can't be bothered to educate themselves.

It's not unusual and I know of an asexual couple, I think they met online via a group.

I know of two asexual couples, both met online gaming, friends of dd

Just date other asexual people? And Google where to find them?

For me it was a development of the relationship. We met at 18 and did the full ‘normal’ relationship. I gradually came to appreciate that I don’t like sex. So we don’t have sex but other than that nothing changed. Granted I maybe just hit the jackpot in a soul mate who can set aside his desire for sex entirely, but that’s how it worked for us. We’ve been together for 15 years - I’d guess at least 7 of those with no sex whatsoever. It works for us. We love each other, we care for each other. Sex is not a deal breaker.

I think asexual people still have romantic relationships that are different to friendships. They aren't sexually attracted to that person (or anyone) but the attraction then love they feel is different to that towards a friend.
Many married couples end up asexual...orcas good as.

An intentional community or communal living might meet your needs. It depends if you want an intimate relationship or just to live with people close and supporting.

I think there arw 2 key things here. Firstly it needs to be made crystal clear at the get go. Secondly you need to cast your net wider. It's a niche requirement so the market will he smaller and living in a small place compounds this. Its really a numbers game.
I'd suggest thinking seriously about how important it is to you and consider moving to increase your chance of happiness.
People move for careers, family, climate etc....why not to find love?

I think asexual people still have romantic relationships that are different to friendships. They aren't sexually attracted to that person (or anyone) but the attraction then love they feel is different to that towards a friend.
Many married couples end up asexual...orcas good as

l think I’m asexual. I have little it no interest in sex. But l would only have an asexual relationship with someone l found attractive. I want the cuddles and even kisses, but just no sex.

Call me naive but lm unfamiliar with that phrase. What does 'the horse they rode in on' mean?

www.mentalfloss.com/article/521049/where-does-phrase-and-horse-you-rode-come

'I'm not interested in you, anything you have to say or anything about you' basically.