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Would you split the money?

126 replies

BridgertonLady · 16/01/2023 19:30

If you referred a good friend for a job in your company, they got it and you were paid a fee of £5K would you keep it or split it 50/50?

I’m in this position now and I’m going to split it (friend has no idea about the fee) but I told a colleague and they were quite shocked.

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blacktreacles · 16/01/2023 22:05

take your mate out for a nice lunch on their first week

SandyY2K · 16/01/2023 22:07

The fee is for you as the referer. No...I wouldn't split it and if I was the friend, I wouldn't expect any. Unless it was discussed beforehand.

Emmamoo89 · 16/01/2023 22:11

I'd split it

Glorianna · 16/01/2023 22:12

BridgertonLady · 16/01/2023 21:21

When did I say it bothered me?

I just never considered keeping it but colleague friend seemed kind of shocked by that.

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Really, you never considered keeping it? Really? 🤔

RedRobyn2021 · 16/01/2023 22:13

Yeah why not, you're still £2.5K better off than you were

Motheranddaughtertotwo · 16/01/2023 22:15

It wouldn’t occur to me to split it and I wouldn’t expect or accept it either. They have a new job out of it, I’m sure they’re over the moon.

bonzaitree · 16/01/2023 22:21

I’ve been in this situation. First person was an acquaintance. I kept the money.

second time around a ride or die pal- we went out for dinner and theatre and split the rest. But she is like maid of honour material.

OnTheBoardwalk · 16/01/2023 22:35

If you give her some money then demand 10% of every referral she makes in the future. It’s down to you she got the job

start a pyramid referral scheme

DulcetTones · 16/01/2023 22:37

Their "reward" is getting the job. I doubt I'd split it, though I might buy them a nice congratulatory gift.

TiaraBoo · 16/01/2023 22:38

Friend might get a sign on bonus if your referral fee is that high.

Ours went up from £500 to £3k and I thought that was high!

DrunkenSailor · 16/01/2023 22:39

This has happened to me ie a friend was paid a referral fee (around 5k) for referring me, after my probationary period ended. They didnt share or get me anything. I didn't expect them to either, and find it surprising to read here that many people would have shared. Now I feel left out!

TenoringBehind · 16/01/2023 22:43

I’d keep it all.

lljkk · 16/01/2023 22:48

mightymam · 16/01/2023 19:40

Of course you don't split it!!! They've used you as part of their recruitment process and you've given them someone who they feel can do the job. You keep the money for your efforts! Your friend wouldn't split the money if they were given it for finding someone else.

That.

StoneofDestiny · 16/01/2023 22:49

It's a finders fee - so it's yours.

determinedtomakethiswork · 16/01/2023 22:49

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No, of course they don't! It is a reward for the person who does the recommending, not a reward for the person getting the new job.

NalaNana · 16/01/2023 22:52

I'd split it, these are common in my area of work and everyone I know who has received it has split it, seems to be the done thing. They will know about the referral fee once they start the job anyway!

theGooHasGone · 16/01/2023 23:03

Someone's got one hell of a racket going convincing people that it's "normal" to split a referral bonus with the person you're referring! Definitely an exception and not the rule.

thing47 · 16/01/2023 23:04

@BridgertonLady you're looking at this in completely the wrong way. The referral fee is a thank-you from your company as it has benefited from you finding them the best candidate for the job and saving them time and money on the recruitment process (which could potentially be far more than £5K).

Your friend has also benefited as she has got a job she wanted on (presumably) an increased salary.

The referral fee is your benefit. Or do you think you are the only person in the process who shouldn't benefit? If so, you are a much better person than me!

TheCraicDealer · 16/01/2023 23:05

Most people move jobs for better money or T’s&C’s, to me that’s reward enough in itself. DH got one last year but it wasn’t anywhere near that- more like £1,500. He didn’t split it with the guy he referred and tbh never even occurred to either of us that he should. The fella got a decent job straight out of the army (which has a year long notice period, so seamless moves are rare) during the pandemic and DH spent a lot of time discussing the recruitment process with him to guide him through.

I get performance based bonuses and did used to get my previous admin assistant/v close friend vouchers or dinner because she really helped me with invoicing so I could get fees out the door, but nowhere near half.

NoBiscuitsLeftInMyTin · 16/01/2023 23:12

I’d keep it, what if they leave after you get it - would they give your share back to you?

mrstea301 · 16/01/2023 23:13

Interested to see the answers here, I've been debating a very similar situation!

Although the referral fee is much lower - £1k and it will be taxed. Does it change your answer if the move resulted in a £7k salary increase for the person? And they will most likely get a pay rise / bonus in March this year?

I'm leaving towards splitting but not necessarily a 50/50 split...

melmos · 16/01/2023 23:17

Split it - let me know where to send my CV 😂

JustAnotherManicMomday · 16/01/2023 23:19

Do remember if you split it sou need to work out how much tax and national insurance etc comes off it first. You will be paying that not them as will come straight off.

frazzledasarock · 16/01/2023 23:20

We have a referral scheme at work, I wouldn’t split the money I wouldn’t expect to have the money split with me either if a friend referred me and I got a job. I’d see it as benefitting both of us. I got a new job she got a bonus.