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Driving test fail

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user07677 · 16/01/2023 15:49

Feeling really disappointed today, as I failed my first driving test and it has really knocked my confidence, it was something so silly and the instructor had said it was a shame as it was a really nice drive but I had taken a small side street a tiny bit to widely, I can't help beat myself up about it because it was something so little that definitely could have been avoided and is just super disappointing, I have booked another test and lucking have managed to get another test for in two weeks time but now I'm more nervous to do it again then going into it blindly so to speak. Any tips on confidence after failing would be great!

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LazyLara · 16/01/2023 15:54

Hey OP, the average for passing a driving test in this country is on the 2nd attempt. So basically you're pretty standard so far and not an awful driver as most pass on their 2nd attempt! So try not to let it knock your confidence. Can you do a couple more lessons before your next test to build your confidence back up?

Smoky1107 · 16/01/2023 15:55

My daughter didn't pass recently due to something I perceived as silly, she passed second time round and is a really lovely driver. Good luck

AFS1 · 16/01/2023 15:57

I failed first time.
Passed on my next attempt and never looked back.
you’ve got this.

RufusthefIoraImissingreindeer · 16/01/2023 15:57

Ds2 failed his first test and if you'd asked anyone they would have told you that out of my three he was the most likely to pass first time

If I'm honest I've no fuclong idea how the other two managed it

I also passed 2nd time 😀

But you are right, don't beat yourself up about it and the very best of luck for next time

RufusthefIoraImissingreindeer · 16/01/2023 15:58

Fucking....why has my phone gone all non- sweary 😳

Aprilx · 16/01/2023 16:17

It is nothing to beat yourself up about, I don’t know the statistics but I would take a guess that most people have more than one test. I think it is an opportunity to practice more and get better before unleashing yourself solo on the roads. It took me three attempts.

whowhatwerewhy · 16/01/2023 16:17

How disappointing for you . Don't be to hard on yourself.
DS failed on minor things, he was upset and doubted he would ever pass , but he did (4th attempt) he's never looked back .
Have faith , good luck 🤞 for two weeks time .

Coasterfan · 16/01/2023 16:19

Don’t beat yourself up about it, keep going! I had five and I m a great driver 😀

CornishGem1975 · 16/01/2023 16:20

For some reason failing your driving test is really bloody crushing. I don't know why we put SO much weight on it. I didn't pass first time ever and I was really down about it. Pick yourself up, dust yourself down. You'll probably smash it next time!

JadeSeahorse · 16/01/2023 16:27

TBH passing first time, as I did, isn't always a great thing, (Apart from the ego boost.)

I had a bump within the first two weeks of passing and then took me years to feel confident. Still not great at parking either - although they didn't teach parking in my day - 40 plus years later despite spending 20 years in a job where I had to drive 100's of miles every week.

If you only made the one silly error you should be fine next time and especially with it only being two weeks away. Good luck!

JadeSeahorse · 16/01/2023 16:28

Aprilx · 16/01/2023 16:17

It is nothing to beat yourself up about, I don’t know the statistics but I would take a guess that most people have more than one test. I think it is an opportunity to practice more and get better before unleashing yourself solo on the roads. It took me three attempts.

This definitely!

Roselilly36 · 16/01/2023 16:30

Sounds like you drove well OP, good luck for next time (I passed second time)

mrsmoppp · 16/01/2023 16:44

My daughter failed today too. Her instructor has advised she has to wait 10 days before rebooking her next test. You've done well to get another one booked so soon

Spanielsarepainless · 16/01/2023 16:46

I passed on my fourth attempt nearly 40 years ago (parking still crap as didn't teach it then). But I can still remember the devastation I felt after the first fail. You'll get there in the end and be a better driver. I've never had an accident, partly because I can hear my final instructor talking in my head...

Fink · 16/01/2023 16:48

Honestly, I think a lot of it is down to the individual examiner you get. I sat my test four times before I finally passed (although there was a gap of several years between the first and second attempts). I definitely drove worst on the one that I passed, but I got through.

The first test, for example, I failed for undue hesitation for an incident on the approach to a huge roundabout (it is now controlled by traffic lights, but wasn't at the time): there were cars approaching from my right that kept on turning off the junction before they reached me, but without indicating. I was second and third guessing what to do. I knew that if I had been driving in real life on my own, I would absolutely have pulled out knowing that they were turning off, but I wondered whether in the test I should act as though they might be coming past me, because they weren't indicating. And I was in the right hand lane of the approach, so I needed all four lanes of the roundabout to be clear enough to pull out. I was there for ages. I'm not saying I shouldn't have failed the test, but it was annoying to fail on something that only happened because it was a test situation and wasn't how I would ordinarily have driven. I still hate that roundabout now, I don't often have to drive on it (that was another issue, the test was in a place I wasn't familiar with) but I still resent it!

By contrast, in the test that I passed I actually was about to pull out from a lay-by into an oncoming HGV. I hadn;t checked my mirrors at all. The examiner told me to pull out when I was ready, and for some reason I took that to mean that he had checked it was safe. He had to use the dual controls to do an emergency stop. And I passed that test. I don't know how, I 100% thought I'd failed after that so I barely made any effort on any of the manouevres. I even asked the examiner about it incredulously when he said I'd passed. He said he could see that I wouldn't ordinarily do that, it was just nerves.

I'm a decent driver now, mainly due to years of practice after passing the test. I wasn't great when I first passed. But I maintain that a huge factor in passing the test is just the examiner you happen to get.

Good luck!

JohnNutLips · 16/01/2023 17:03

7th time lucky for me 😂 OP I think you’ve done the best thing and booked another test ASAP. I’m sure you’ll be fine. I ended up having massive gaps between tests as I let the fails put me off, I’m sure if I had got a retest quickly then I’d have been fine!

OneTC · 16/01/2023 17:06

Second one is gonna be easier because it's a known quantity. If you were that close on first try you'll fly through number 2

I only got it third go 😂i failed my second go because I forgot to book a lesson and then found someone last minute but I'd only driven the car for about half an hour before doing the test

Bluevelvetsofa · 16/01/2023 17:07

I had several goes over the course of a few years. For one test, the examiner said that there would be another examiner in the back, who was examining him. A large man in the back of a mini was not fun. I wasn’t asked if I minded, just told that’s what was happening. I complained and got the cost of the test refunded.

user07677 · 16/01/2023 20:40

@mrsmoppp yes the cancellation app has been a life saver! Was looking at mid March to be able to book another test but managed to find one for in two weeks time with the app, obviously is quite pricey but definitely worth the money!

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JustDanceAddict · 16/01/2023 20:43

Sorry to hear, but loads of people fail their first test. It’s a bit of the unknown. DS has his this week - we’re trying to manage his expectations!!

user07677 · 16/01/2023 20:45

Thank you everyone for all the lovely comments! Gonna just give it my best shot in two weeks time and hope for the best but not put to much pressure on myself either way , I get out a lot practicing a lot so hopefully will pay off!

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ApocalypseNowt · 16/01/2023 20:45

People who pass first time are terrible drivers OP!

All the best people pass 2nd time Wink

Parisj · 16/01/2023 20:47

Ah, its good to have setbacks. You have to rise to the challenge of trying again and persisting and you learn a lot. Plus all the best people take more than once to pass ;)

illiterato · 16/01/2023 20:50

I failed my driving test because I did an emergency stop to avoid running over a squirrel. Harsh.

Floralnomad · 16/01/2023 20:52

I passed first time almost 40 yrs ago ( and I can park anywhere ! ) , my mum took at least 10 tests before she passed and was a terrible driver , my husband and our son passed 2 nd time and our very anxious daughter is starting lessons on Wednesday . Good luck for your next test @user07677