To think my husband is selfish?

[Wantsummerback]

Im up with the baby probably 2 times in a night I then get up in the morning with the kids. Shower get them dressed breakfast. He will stay in bed until death nearly until it’s time to leave. He will then chuck some clothes on do the school run and usually goes out for breakfast with his brother 2-3 times a week. I’m then left at home with the same screeching baby I’ve been with for the past how ever many hours.

We run 2 online businesses together which kind of run theirselves now and to be honest I probably put more work in than he does these days. But that isn’t the issue as I enjoy work!

However I just feel that the mornings are a joke and a huge slap in the face. The mornings are so intense running around I’ve got 2 kids to sort out and a screaming baby that wants feeding and he’s just lying there in bed.

Your man is crap.

Lots of men aren't. Probably the vast majority aren't.

Over 30 years ago my husband was amazing with our children. If I han't been breastfeeding and had bottle refusers I would have happily left our children with him, even when they were very young.

Posts like yours just re-enforce the idea that we can't expect better from men. We certainly can and should.

Is he definitely going to see his brother

@Ladybug14 call it AM I Being entitled?

Here we have a deal; if I am up at night with baby (now toddler who still wakes), DH lets me lie until 9am in the mornings. HE gets up, feeds kids and takes them to school.
It is a life saver for my mental health, as I couldn’t function on broken sleep.
please demand the same.

They're really not. Lazy men are crap with newborns and kids. That is such a crap get out of jail free card.

My dad, who had a full time job and no paternity leave, sat up with my mother for night feeds until she told him to stop because he was exhausted. My husband did night feeds with our first and does just as much care as I do with our two kids.

People are crap if they are lazy and selfish. If you let them away with it unchallenged, that's on your own head. But it doesn't have to be that way.

Yes, your husband is selfish. No, you are not being controlling. A couple times a week he needs to get up and get the children ready for school, just like you do. That would be fair. He could also take the baby out to breakfast with his brother occasionally. I see my brother around 3 times a year, so him seeing his brother 3 times a week is seeing him regularly and you shouldn’t accept that as an an excuse for him swanning off.
You really need to sit down and tell your husband what the new schedule will be, don’t ask him to “help”, they’re his children too and he needs to do the morning parenting as well.

‘Men are crap with newborns/babies/children’

I’m reading this thread on my iPad in the bath whilst slowly turning pruny as I have been with a sick, clingy baby all day. That baby is currently with her father, my DH, downstairs and will have been fed, burped and changed a couple of times before I venture out of the bathroom when my battery dies. And DH is doing all of this after a full day’s work.

Is my DH a prince among men? No.

He is just a loving husband and father.

Get yourself some standards and a spine!!!

Such a typical MN response. Women can be selfish too. Let's not brand all men the same.

Wow. Just wow. I wouldnt be able to get past that. I love myself too much!