SNORING!!

[Icanflyhigh]

When it is considered appropriate to murder DH for snoring?

I'm now on night 3 of listening to his fucking nasal and raspy throat snores while I lay here wide awake.

Last night I had him on my right and the joy of listening to his fucking father who snores just as loud through the wall on my left.

I am tired, irritable, TOTM is overdue, and I'm just so fucking grumpy I could cry. Also dry January was a bad idea!!!😂😂

I've turned him over, I've held his nose, I've dug him in the ribs, it stops him for a second or two.

It's like he is bragging really loudly about what a lovely fucking sleep he is having and here I am wide awake club. Again.

Arghhhhhhh!

Yeah, let that grumpy flag fly! Might I suggest snarkiness?

I'm sorry @Tempone

We all snore - honestly! Even when I'm really irritated with DH, and am kept awake with his snoring, I do - genuinely - know that he can't help it. He doesn't have any medical conditions either. It's just the position that he's lying in that means he's likely to snore.

But you shouldn't be made to sleep on the couch because of it. You need to stop doing that! Your needs for sleep are important! If he chooses to stay awake, that's his look out.

And if he won't be more considerate or understanding, then ...

I have the same issue with my DH - guess why I'm awake now? I wear foam earplugs but they're not enough to block it out. The times it's so bad I'm feeling murderous I wake him up and he goes and sleeps on the sofa.

The only reason I'm awake right now is due to DW snoring like some kind of train full of motors being delivered across an erupting volcano.

I have earplugs but occasionally, like tonight, the noise is so loud that it comes through them.

My alarm is going off in 5 hours 😐

Have just BF baby son in his room, and have returned to my bedroom to find husband snoring 😐 also considering a jab in the ribs!!

Ear plugs have been amazing for me. DP has to poke me awake when my alarm goes off because I can't hear a thing.

That must be hideous. I had a boyfriend like that and it always amazed me how he would start snoring as soon as his head hit the pillow.

I would make DH move into his dad's room so they can wake each other up, instead of you.

This is the exact reason that we no longer share a bed or bedroom. I miss him but not that noise. We had neighbours knock one summers night to ask us to close our windows because he was THAT loud!

My OH is the same, says he never snores because he's asleep !

😂😂😂

I've seen my husband start snoring while he's still awake

When my DH woke up to literally find me hovering with a pillow only inches from his face, after 7 nights on the trot without sleep due to his snoring, we knew we had to do something. Now we sleep in separate rooms - HEAVEN!

Separate rooms here too! Looking back I can't believe I suffered with it so long

Gosh, I’ve found my people 😭🙌🏻 I wish I’d picked up my phone during the night now 🤣

DH is a hideous snorer. Always has been. Like others, he’s not overweight & has no medical issue that can be found. We’ve tried every device and remedy on the market. It’s been horrendous.

He works away for a few weeks at a time and sleeps on a working boat in very noisy conditions when he’s away. His theory is that he snores loudly to drown out the noise at work so he’s like his own white noise machine 🙄😅 so I get a few weeks with no snoring but still broken sleep as we have a toddler that doesn’t sleep through. And then a few weeks where I have DH snoring and a toddler that doesn’t sleep through.

DH is absolutely dead to the world at night. Once he’s snoring he’s unbelievably hard to wake. Never once woke when we had a newborn screaming at night, and still now can’t hear DS shouting on us in the night, even with a baby monitor right next to his head. Genuinely can’t hear him at all, not even just “shitty dad pretending not to hear”. If I manage to wake him he’ll absolutely go and take his turn resettling DS but tbh, it’s less effort for me just to get up than it is to go through the whole waking up effort.

We’ve also just downsized slightly to get into a good school catchment and into a nice housing area - the sacrifice? My bedroom 😭 We were pretty much 90% in separate rooms before the move so that I could get some kind of sleep but the only option now is the couch 😴 DH does sleep there from the get-go some nights which at least gives me peace from the snoring, but also means I don’t even have the option of help with the toddler 🙄

If anyone has any magic solutions (preferably that don’t involve divorce 😁) or punching him in the throat 😬 then I’m all ears 😭

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I could've written your post myself op but last night dh tried these for the first time and no more snoring!

18 months of hell over for me.

It must be worth a try.

My sympathies op

That sucks :-(
I'm not actually annoyed with DH for snoring, he can't help it and he doesn't do it on purpose.

Separate rooms and white noise playing on repeat. It literally saved my sanity (and our marriage). I appreciate separate rooms isn't always possible but lack of sleep is a form of torture isn't it?

DH sleeps in our spare room now. He doesn't love it, but it's better that being married to someone who wants to smother him with a pillow.

Well I've laid on the sofa since midnight. DH just got up and went to work, not a word to me, nothing, so I'm now assuming I've upset him by going to the sofa.

I'm so tired I could cry and I need to work today.

Has he looked into if he has sleep apnoea? It’s a condition with potentially serious health issues.

DH has started the testing process for determining whether he has it; he has snored for years and just thought it was one of those things as his DM snores badly too.

Mine is like yours but then has the nerve to be really stroppy with me when I make him roll over/poke him.

so I'm now assuming I've upset him by going to the sofa.

Tough. His snoring means you can't sleep. What exactly does he expect you to do?

Has he spoken to the GP about his snoring? DH's snoring got worse and worse before developing into severe obstructive sleep apnoea. He was having 50 non breathing episodes an hour some of them lasting up to two minutes.

He now has a CPAP machine and we both get a good night's sleep.

CPAP machines are almost silent BTW.

Mine makes the house shake.

Ear plugs were great before DC.
Now im in the spare room every night.

I feel your pain, I am the snorer in our house and can't help it either, I think it's to do with having v narrow airwaves in my case, have been to the doctors a few times but they don't seem to be able to do anything. I wear nasal strips which help a bit but I feel so guilty. I often just go into the spare room once I've been nudged and woken up a couple of times.

@tempone sorry to hear this. I am a snorer and my ex used to be horrible about it. It wasn't like he didn't snore, but he was convinced that my snoring was on purpose. I tried everything. In the end I saw a ENT specialist who told me that my airway was very compromised because of 'the widest, fattest tongue he'd ever seen'. He described it as a wedge. And he went on to say that there was nothing he could do. I came to realise that my ex was using this as an excuse to be horrible to me - jokes would have been fine, but hard shoves and shouting in the night were quite frightening in the end.