Page 4 | To sometimes wonder what my mum was thinking?

AintNobodyHereButUsChickens · 2023-01-15T22:52:55+00:00

I was born in '91 to give you an idea of just how young I was. She used to let me stay up and watch murder shows with her like Jonathan Creek and Midsomer Murders [confused] I'd actually go into my primary school the next day and discuss the previous nights episode with the dinner lady who also watched MM! I have an 11yr old and I wouldn't dream of letting her watch either of those shows! She'd also record stuff like South Park and Stressed Eric etc (she watched them herself so she knew full well what they were like!) so we could watch them in the mornings. There is a particular episode of JC that gave me nightmares for years, I man had (I think) been trapped in a cellar which flooded and he drowned. I still remember the moment they opened the door and he was at the top of the stairs with his arm outstretched, and he was all yellow and waxy looking 🤢 It's only recently that I've begun to wonder what on earth she was thinking! I'm not sure if there's even any point asking her because she'd probably get all defensive and tell me I was attacking her parenting 🙄

Eyerollcentral · 16/01/2023 00:19

Nat6999 · 16/01/2023 00:17

Ds watched Scott & Bailey age 8 & was obsessed with watching it. He still has every episode stored on his Xbox age 19. After a trip to Manchester Airport he had me driving round to the location of the police station so he could take pictures.

Ha ha ha this is hilarious

MsRosley · 16/01/2023 00:20

It's nothing to what the average kid is now finding on the internet.

sjpkgp1 · 16/01/2023 00:22

elfd · 15/01/2023 23:28

I was born in 1981 and used to stay up to watch prisoner cell block H, full of grown up topics that must of gone straight over my head, sometimes it didn't finish until 1am onwards. I remember falling asleep and my Dad carrying me up the stairs. I also remember staying up to watch I think it was called great expectations, I loved the music and video at the beginning. A silhouette of a black female figure dancing possibly in a flame. Also remember the equaliser. Some evenings we would go to the local social club for a game of bingo, I used to take my homework for in between games, that went on until 11pm. I was never late for school. In those days people smoked indoors and I remember the social clubs being Smokey places, I must of stunk of smoke afterwards.

@elfd it was Tales of the Unexpected. I can still hear the music in my head. Aired between 1979 and 1988 and I can remember watching it in the earlier years, but only when my parents went out and we had a baby sitter (I was born '68, my sister 70) we really loved it - a tiny bit scary for our age and the time, I don't remember us having nightmares though. As a more general point, not sure where I am on on all the censor-ness of things though. For all I am not advocating young people are exposed to something they shouldn't be, unless you are going to be REALLY careful they are going to see something eventually that you would rather they didn't. Better they do it with you and you can explain its just for the telly. The news is sometimes worse I think. My four (all grown up now) have always been better than me at watching stuff, esp Most Haunted which they have hysterics at the phoniness (admittedly they were not 5 years old !). In later years, Blair witch, Paranormal activity, and even Ashes to Ashes have left me shaky for far too long afterwards while they are busy microwaving snacks and making jokes and saying "aw, stop the teasing now, poor mum is actually scared". Again, they weren't 5, but young people have a better capacity for this stuff than we sometimes think.

CanofCant · 16/01/2023 00:22

PlaitBilledDuckyPuss · 16/01/2023 00:06

The thing that gave me nightmares was actually a sitcom episode - no idea which, but one of the seemingly endless run of 1980s sitcoms about middle-class people in middle-class situations - a couple knocked down their chimney breast and found a skeleton behind it. For some reason that terrified me to the extent I woke up screaming about it.

(If anyone recognises that and knows what it was, I would love to find out)

Off the top of my head that sounds like 2.4 Children.

TerraNostra · 16/01/2023 00:23

Eyerollcentral · 15/01/2023 23:41

I used to love going to stay at my aunt’s as they let me stay up to watch prisoner too. Loved it, though as you say half it went right over my head. We were always sent to bed as soon as Cagney and Lacey started but that was only because my mum loved it and wanted to watch it in peace 🤣

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Fond memories of watching Cagney and Lacey with my Mum. No idea how old I was, maybe 8? The flasher in the opening credits, my Mum explaining what an alcoholic was (because Christine was one), Mary Beth getting cancer, I don’t really remember any of the police plots, except that they were always going into buildings brandishing guns and I thought that was a pretty cool thing off Mum-aged ladies to do!

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AintNobodyHereButUsChickens · 16/01/2023 00:23

Eyerollcentral · 16/01/2023 00:18

You’ve still nothing to complain about and sound like you are trying to find some kind of grievance against your mum. Has she criticised your parenting or something?

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God, plenty of grievances tbh I wouldn't even know where to start 🙃

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EconomyClassRockstar · 16/01/2023 00:24

Yeah, try watching Day of the Triffids at 10 and come back and tell me about your Midsomer Murders trauma. 😂

Hariborrrrr · 16/01/2023 00:24

As a side note, my son (now 24) used to watch park life, around age 12! I even bought him the box sets..... thought it was like the Simpsons, I didn't think to check🤣🙈 only now I realise it's definitely not like the simpsons! I'm mortified, but he's fine and we laugh about it now 😅

trulyunruly01 · 16/01/2023 00:25

Quincy was a staple in our house. Funnily enough, Mum didn't seem to mind too much about murder, blood and gore. However, if S-E-X were involved it was a no-go.
She once walked in on my sister and I watching a pirated copy of An Officer and a Gentleman (my sister was 18, I was 15) and went totally ballistic at us (and not because it was a pirate copy).

SilliusSoddus · 16/01/2023 00:25

InTheFutilityRoomEatingBiscuits · 15/01/2023 23:22

I thought you were going to say she let you watch horror films. I’d expect any 11 year old to be fine with Jonathan Creek (consider 11 prime age for some crime-mystery-lite like that with a big reveal) never really watched midsummer murders.

I remember going into primary and talking about what we’d seen on TV a lot, yes we were watching South Park, friends, bad girls, band of gold.

My age 10-13 sleepovers were all based on watching The Crow, the craft, Halloween, Nightmare on Elm Street, Scream, The Silence of the Lambs, Arachnophobia, Tremors, childs play, Alien, Candyman…..

Did we go to the same sleepovers?

We always used to watch a really scary horror at them at about the same age.

ChopSuey2 · 16/01/2023 00:26

AintNobodyHereButUsChickens · 15/01/2023 23:08

Really? I can't remember much about JC apart from that one awful episode but MM was pretty graphic for a kid who was old enough to understand what death and murder was. Bearing in mind, I was born in 91 and both shows started in 97, when I was 5-6. There was always multiple bodies shown in each episode and it showed the murders happening too.

What was that show where there were two detectives but one of them was actually a ghost? We watched that too, I THINK it was that show where a victim was cut in half (long ways) with a chainsaw or something and the camera showed the cut sides. That haunted me for a while too.

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You're thinking of Randall and Hopkirk (Deceased). I used to love that as a kid! I also watched that and JC in primary school (before age 8). I don't think they were in anyway shocking or disturbing. I also watched forensic science/psychology programmes on the discovery channel late at night about real life murders which I think was probably less suitable for a kid under 10 but I found them fascinating (I now work with offenders).

AzureOrchid · 16/01/2023 00:27

SilliusSoddus · 16/01/2023 00:25

Did we go to the same sleepovers?

We always used to watch a really scary horror at them at about the same age.

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Same , every sleepover was an 18 film
But to be fair , I think the old clunky horrors with no CGI were probably just not that scary ?

FrozenGhost · 16/01/2023 00:27

I doubt I would have been interested at 5 but I agree those type of shows are family viewing really. I have really fond memories of watching touch of frost, inspector Morse and miss marple with my parents, we all used to enjoy them.

LiarLiarKnickersAblaze · 16/01/2023 00:27

@AintNobodyHereButUsChickens I’ve watched pretty much every episode of MM (watched a lot with my Mum) and there’s only been one murder that moderately frightened me.

Casualty frightened me more!

Everyone’s different and has different thresholds. If you were frightened at the time, fair enough if you want to tell your mum that but why would you want to, in the grand scheme of things? Sounds like you’re being a bit of a dick to her.

I could give my parents a long list of weird shit they raised us with. What’s the point? Everyone’s so serious nowadays, everything’s trauma that needs apologising for. Lighten up.

polorider · 16/01/2023 00:28

Honestly Jonathan Creek is pretty tame and fine for a kid. I saw the texas chainsaw massacre when I was in primary as well as lots of horror movies from the 1930s to the 1980s. I was scared but I also have a lot of fond memories of watching them and love to rematch them again. I think it was good for me to see that stuff, good for the imagination...BOO!

Jas5mum · 16/01/2023 00:28

I was born in '89. Never had a bedtime and used to watch prisoner cell block H.
I dont remember much of it but do remember writing about it when you had you had to write what I did at the weekend.

Eyerollcentral · 16/01/2023 00:28

TerraNostra · 16/01/2023 00:23

Fond memories of watching Cagney and Lacey with my Mum. No idea how old I was, maybe 8? The flasher in the opening credits, my Mum explaining what an alcoholic was (because Christine was one), Mary Beth getting cancer, I don’t really remember any of the police plots, except that they were always going into buildings brandishing guns and I thought that was a pretty cool thing off Mum-aged ladies to do!

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The flasher!!!! I watched it all a few years ago and I thought it was so good! Also always thought that Christine was the height of glamour and sophistication

TerraNostra · 16/01/2023 00:30

@elfd

Very Bond-influenced

Eyerollcentral · 16/01/2023 00:30

AintNobodyHereButUsChickens · 16/01/2023 00:23

God, plenty of grievances tbh I wouldn't even know where to start 🙃

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Lol not sure why you started here then!

ChopSuey2 · 16/01/2023 00:31

You know what did traumatise me? Those safety videos school showed before the school holidays about not playing on train tracks, at power stations, bonfires etc!

BadNomad · 16/01/2023 00:31

My parents were like that. And grandparents. I specifically remember watching Jaws as a 5-year-old and my grandfather grabbing me from behind during the scene where the severed head floats into view. I've had a lifelong fear of water ever since. Couldn't even go near the deep end of the swimming pool for years.

Other than that, none of the scary stuff did me any harm. (But I do wonder what was going through my family's heads for them to think this was alright.) I was more traumatised by those safety adverts that used to be shown in the 80s and 90s in Scotland. The kid climbing onto the pylon to get his ball. The baby who pulled the hot iron down onto itself. The kid who picked up the hot end of a sparkler. 😱😱😱

TerraNostra · 16/01/2023 00:31

trythisforsize · 15/01/2023 23:58

well they swear a lot, talk about shagging a lot, drink a lot and have really over the top violent fights like setting each other on fire.

Not for a 4 year old. No. Your husband is a bell end.

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It’s really old, what an odd thing for him to be watching.

smileladiesplease · 16/01/2023 00:32

Omg! Tales of the unexpected was terrifying. Used to watch with my parents aged 7! Also cop shows like starskey and hutch 😂😂 showing my age.

Sounds fine to me op but you parent how you see fit

ladycarlotta · 16/01/2023 00:32

AintNobodyHereButUsChickens · 15/01/2023 23:08

Really? I can't remember much about JC apart from that one awful episode but MM was pretty graphic for a kid who was old enough to understand what death and murder was. Bearing in mind, I was born in 91 and both shows started in 97, when I was 5-6. There was always multiple bodies shown in each episode and it showed the murders happening too.

What was that show where there were two detectives but one of them was actually a ghost? We watched that too, I THINK it was that show where a victim was cut in half (long ways) with a chainsaw or something and the camera showed the cut sides. That haunted me for a while too.

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Randall and Hopkirk?! Come on now... YABVU. I remember watching that on a Friday evening after Captain Scarlet. It was great. Definitely not inappropriate.

TooBigForMyBoots · 16/01/2023 00:32

I watched Roots and Tenko with my granny.😱