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AIBU?

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To consider re home for dog

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ZED55JAX0 · 15/01/2023 06:21

I have crippling pnd a newborn and struggling my dh had to go back to work no choice or no money he’s had a month off as long as he possibly could. Our older dc are not old enough to help out still primary/& pre school age

we have two dogs an older rescue who’s chilled and lazy very low maintenance and would happily not be walked and not be bothered in the slightest

and one younger rescue is almost 18 months
(got her two month before I found out I was pregnant )

she’s a small terrier type and as a result is so hyper- so much bouncing energy!! Her temperament though is unbelievable amazing!! She fine when I was walking her theee hours a day but now I’m lucky if I manage half an hour

my parents say she’s need re homing she’s bored started barking digging and whining and chewing

im worried I’ll regret it when feeling better but I may not feel better for a while and
plus don’t know how I’ll manage with two dogs and kids
I feel really overwhelmed as it is

now I have family that say they would take her but it means we won’t get her back an see her they live five hours away a cousin I am in touch with by social media only!
and my parents said a local friend they know would take her but again we’d not see her too far away and don’t know them
however we’d receive updates I’m sure!!

so Aibu to find her a better life I think she’ll have more attention walks outdoors time etc.
or selfishly keep her because I feel bad at the thought of giving her up and should I just wait it out and see how I go and hope that the future works out?” With juggling life!
i feel like my heads swimming and I can’t think straight at all

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PourOnTheHeat · 15/01/2023 12:32

DoNotIron · 15/01/2023 12:30

What on earth are you on about? This is a dog. A dog. Not a child. And she is not abandoning it. She wants the dog to be happy and she isn't in a position to facilitate that. There's no need for this type of guilt tripping and hyperbole.

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Dogs do matter too. Thankfully OP realises that. Can’t stand the just a dog type people, they’re often not too great to people either.

MrsSkylerWhite · 15/01/2023 12:34

BeeDavis · Today 07:03
The whole point of rescuing a dog is to look after and commit to it for it’s whole life. Poor thing would you abandon your children when they got a little bit too much for you?“

Don’t be stupid. OP didn’t seek to acquire another Tracy, she stepped in when an elderly neighbour was taken ill and basically got lumbered. Something a lot of less kind people wouldn’t do.

OP, it all sounds to much. You and your husband are doing your best but the young dog isn’t happy. Yes, re-homing is the best option for all.

GininMcGlass · 15/01/2023 12:53

My sister had severe pnd, she had a 19 month old and a newborn. Fortunately I was living fairly close by and could drop in every day. I looked after the children for an hour while my sister took a walk with their dog. Getting away from the kids and out in the fresh air seemed to have a really positive effect on her mental health. Is there someone who could help you in this way?

SolitudeNotLoneliness · 15/01/2023 12:55

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The op said it was helping an elderly neighbour out but he passed s they couldn't give it back.

rookiemere · 15/01/2023 13:12

Cornelious · 15/01/2023 12:26

How about signing up to borrow my doggy. Perhaps someone can walk dog a few times per week to ease the burden.

I don't think this will work here. Borrowmydoggy is wonderful and we use it, but as a supplement to a paid dog walker and many walks by ourselves. By its very nature it's for people who want the upside of walking a dog without the commitment or cost, so walks are often cancelled if it's raining or windy.

I do think rehoming here sounds like the best solution for everybody.

MrsSkylerWhite · 15/01/2023 13:13

Tracy?!
Rescue, that should have said.

NellietheElephantpackedhertrunks · 15/01/2023 13:22

Normally I would say YABU to re-home the dog but, if you have two offers of homes with reliable owners which you honestly believe would be good ones (and homes for life) then you probably should.

DoNotIron · 15/01/2023 13:45

@PourOnTheHeat I didn't say just a dog. I said it is not a child. There's a world of difference between the two. You're making a whole lot of assumptions about me there, when you know precisely nothing. I am well aware that the OP is concerned about her dog. I said she wants the dog to be happy. Seriously, try thinking before you type crap.

Lavender14 · 15/01/2023 13:52

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What a horrible post. Unkind and unnecessary @BeeDavis. Normally I advocate trying to push through with a rescue but op I was 100% with you from your first sentence. You had no way to know this would happen so beedavis's point is redundant. You would not be unreasonable to remote, pnd is so difficult and you've a lot on your plate.

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