Which parent grew the two children..

[Secondchildregret]

Guess the parent who birthed the children 😀 salaries per year.

IABU = X
IANBU = Y

What years were the children born ?

@PeekAtYou any guesses? 🥹

Woman is parent Y? Child born in 2019?

What? I don’t get it 😂

Parent Y 2019 and 2020

I don't really get the point of post?

I think the point is that salaries weren't so far apart at the start but got much bigger by the end of the data.

Are these real figures for a real couple? What do you want out of this thread?

Assuming it is real... the answer is not obvious.
But statistically men earn more so I'd guess that X is the man and Y is the woman, simply because X has consistently earned more from start to finish.
Either way there was no drop in income for either parent at any point, so the mother must have not taken a long maternity leave or must have a generous enhanced maternity pay package.
X's Income did not increase in 2023 and Y's income did not increase in 2020 but apart from that, both their incomes have increased every year.

(PS I have assumed a straight couple btw but I guess it could also be a lesbian couple in which case I have no idea or maybe they birthed one child each?!)

Unless they both do the same job you can’t make a comparison.

This is too complicated. I don’t know what I’m supposed to be doing! What’s the AIBU?

I’m more interested in how they’ve both more than doubled their salaries in 5 years. Especially the one who would have taken two periods of maternity leave.

Y is the parent who grew the two children.

Unless one child was born before you started comparing, there's no great deficit presented here. The salary for X in 2022 is 2.3x the salary in 2017. The salary for Y is 2.2x the 2017 salary in 2022. Are you the same age, with the same years under your belt in 2017?

There is a huge cost to women having children, but this isn't a good example.

It’s a list of annual salary by years for two people (x and y). The op is asking you to look at the salaries and decide which (x or y) is the woman.

Identical jobs? Because that's the only way it's indicative of anything.

Whats the jobs? Is one a social media influencer?

Definitely Y but I think 2018 and 2020

Obviously one of the salaries is increasing much faster than the other.

You're either pissed at your husband that you're both having children and being the main bread winner, or you're pissed at your husband that his salary is increasing much faster than yours as you can't dedicate yourself fully to your career due to having children. Hard to guess which one it is, really.

Yes that's why it doesn't seem real to me

This.

Although I appreciate that salary doesn't tell the whole story, and that 25 Vs 20 feels much better than 60 Vs 47.

I'm with @MyOpinion1978 too.
I don't really care which is which, I'm wondering how someone starting out on £25K ish 5 years ago is on so much now.

Progression in both cases
its not a linear salary increase with experience

@PeekAtYou has got it, there is a difference between the start and end salaries of someone who didn’t take 2 years out raising humans (the next generation) and the person who did

Did person Y return to work on a reduced hours basis? Is person Y in a job that typically has lower pay or slower progression anyway? Has person X been successful in applying for promotions or changed role?

This post proves absolutely nothing other than OP has an axe to grind.

I don’t understand what the gotcha in this post is? Two maternity leaves pretty much back to back is going to stagnate earnings. That makes sense and isn’t inherently wrong. Looks like Person Y is on track to keep growing their salary now back into work so I don’t see this issue?

I've doubled my salary, including two lots of mat leave, in six years. It's not unusual amongst my peers who are early 30s either.