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To expect that a hospital should be able to meet my dietary needs?

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Balloonsandroses · 14/01/2023 17:45

Pretty sure I’m not being unreasonable! Been in hospital 24 hours now and just been to eat a meal for the first time (my choice). There is nothing gluten free. I have coeliac disease which they’ve known since admission. Gluten makes me vomit. So I can literally eat pepper, cucumber and lettuce. To add insult to injury this is a psych ward and I was admitted under section (still furious about this) so I can’t even leave and go and buy some food.

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Nicecow · 14/01/2023 20:18

Endofmytether2020 · 14/01/2023 20:12

Unfortunately people with diabetes are frequently given food that is difficult for them to manage and may not be allowed to administer the insulin that they need to take with the meal. Most people I know with diabetes are very very scared of going into hospital because of the high rate of harms through inappropriate care.

To the OP's question - not being unreasonable at all. They should be able to cater to your medical need. Can someone bring you some GF food in?

I was diabetic and didn't get a diabetic meal, I just managed. Understand OP has some mental issues so that might be causing extra stress. Fair enough. I just wonder how many things they'd have to cater to, diabetic, vegetarian, vegan, coeliac, gluten free etc etc I wonder if that's even possible

newtb · 14/01/2023 20:18

If you were in prison and this happened you'd have a lawyer raising hell about your human rights and demanding compensation. It's well known that hospitals spend less on patients' food than prisons do on prisoners' and has been the case for over 40 years.
Worse is the administration of drugs completely against the instructions on the pack. I've a thyroid problem. You have to wait 30 mins after medication before food, or it doesn't get absorbed properly. Waste of money. Got bollocked for pointing it out, and discharged myself after 4 days having developed shingles which weren't treated. This was in France !

crackofdoom · 14/01/2023 20:20

Absolutely the menu should be vegetarian / vegan in the main in hospitals. It would be cheaper for the NHS and fewer worries re storage and the religious aspects of meat eating.

That makes so much sense. Meals that nearly everyone could eat. Those on daft, faddy meat eating diets could always order in to supplement their meals if they didn't like it Grin

lljkk · 14/01/2023 20:20

I know ppl who would be horrified & very upset about being given a vegan/vegtn diet in hospital.

ElephantInTheKitchen · 14/01/2023 20:20

Balloonsandroses · 14/01/2023 20:01

It’s not exactly unusual foods - it includes cheddar cheese for example!

suspect you’re right that I wouldn’t be allowed near a tin opener / open tin though 😞. All so crap and horrible.

Often you can find foods in alternative packaging - Heinz baked beans are gf and can be bought in plastic "snap pots"
www.sainsburys.co.uk/gol-ui/product/food-cupboard-essentials/heinz-baked-beans-snap-pots-4-pack-800g

Likewise New Covent Garden soups come in tetrapaks (but do need refrigeration) and at least some flavours appear to be gf
www.sainsburys.co.uk/gol-ui/product/new-covent-garden-wild-mushroom-soup-600g

This risotto is pretty nice and doesn't need a fridge, nor is it in a tin, and it appears gf (they do other flavours too)
www.tesco.com/groceries/en-GB/products/311276140

I haven't cross checked them for all your MAOI restrictions but hopefully it's some ideas for you that only need a microwave and don't involve a tin.

crackofdoom · 14/01/2023 20:24

I know ppl who would be horrified & very upset about being given a vegan/vegtn diet in hospital.

"Horrified" ...oh no! How would they ever get over it?!

Do they never eat a cheese sandwich out of sheer principle?? Beans on toast? A portion of chips?? A banana?? Must be tough for them Grin

ScottishMum03 · 14/01/2023 20:25

I’m sorry you’re having a hard time @Balloonsandroses. And I hope they get food sorted for you for tomorrow.

I had to be induced unexpectedly when I was pregnant in 2020. I was kept in at a routine check up so had nothing with me and DH wasn’t allowed into the hospital because of the lockdowns. I’m lactose intolerant and they had nothing at all that I could eat!! Couldn’t give me a sandwich with no butter, a plain baked potato, plain toast 😳 I asked for a slice of plain toast and they brought me it buttered 😔 I was in for almost 40 hours before being moved to the delivery suite and my DH was allowed to join me. He brought be food and then I wasn’t allowed to eat 🙄😬 I was then there for a further 17 hours before giving birth and being allowed to eat 😔
After being moved back onto the ward and DH being sent home, they again had nothing that I could eat. I was trying to breastfeed after having one sandwich and a couple of cereal bars in 3 days. And I wasn’t allowed any visitors. I ended up having to discharge myself and my baby because I actually felt so ill!

MakingTheVeganYorkshirePud · 14/01/2023 20:27

'It's a hospital, not a hotel'.

Correct. I'd be at a hotel by choice. I would think the majority of individuals do not choose to be admitted to hospital.

It's not difficult to cater to all diets. As a vegan, I'd hardly expect a 3 course meal, but a jacket potato with beans, and a bit of dairy free butter isn't too much of an ask.

If you are allergic to a certain food, I think it is shocking it is difficult to get a meal in a bloody hospital.

YADNBU OP, and I hope you get something decent to eat shortly.

FriendofDorothy · 14/01/2023 20:28

Have they put you on an Monoamine Oxidase Inhibitors because they have tried all other options?

Busybutbored · 14/01/2023 20:30

Sorry as I genuinely don't know, but can't anyone eat fruit or vegetables, so can't you just get two or three meals and pick these bits out??

ZeilanBlueSky · 14/01/2023 20:32

Nicecow · 14/01/2023 20:18

I was diabetic and didn't get a diabetic meal, I just managed. Understand OP has some mental issues so that might be causing extra stress. Fair enough. I just wonder how many things they'd have to cater to, diabetic, vegetarian, vegan, coeliac, gluten free etc etc I wonder if that's even possible

Schools manage, often by using a framework contract via a central purchasing organisation. These frameworks are set up to cover this kind of thing, and are also open to hospitals to use. They can make sure kids have food appropriate to their dietary requirements.

But many hospitals and trusts (and NHS central commissioning units) are just going for cheapest bids, while at the same time not properly holding the contractors to account.

SommerTen · 14/01/2023 20:32

In my hospital trust we cater for anyone gluten free, if you order off the 'standard menu' then items with a 'G' are gluten free such as jacket potatoes or we use a card to change the menu totally 'Gluten free' and you can get plain chicken breast with vegetables for example.
We can also order gluten free bread, biscuits, cakes & various milks from the kitchen.

My advice is I think you need to find out who the auxiliary nurses / healthcare support workers are.

They will be the ones who will have the knowledge about how to sort out your menu choices, not the staff nurses.

If a relative can bring anything in then that's helpful but bear in mind that in many hospitals they are not allowed to heat up food or keep food in the ward fridge for you for new food hygiene guidance reasons.

BringerOfDoom · 14/01/2023 20:33

Busybutbored · 14/01/2023 20:30

Sorry as I genuinely don't know, but can't anyone eat fruit or vegetables, so can't you just get two or three meals and pick these bits out??

I'm allergic to a medication called sulfa. I'm so allergic the pharmacy has to check my scripts to make sure that any medication I get was not even produced in the same factory/lab. If they don't I know because I'll be covered in hives and vomiting for the next two weeks. Celiacs are very similar. So no she can't just pick the bits out. She will get sick from even touching it.

FuckFuckGo · 14/01/2023 20:35

Hi OP

This is terrible. I don’t have coeliac disease but I’ve been sectioned a few times for depression and also take MAOIs. I know it’s not the point of the thread but wanted to say that if you don’t feel you should be under section I would recommend speaking to a mental health act advocate. I really hope you feel better soon.

ElephantInTheKitchen · 14/01/2023 20:36

Busybutbored · 14/01/2023 20:30

Sorry as I genuinely don't know, but can't anyone eat fruit or vegetables, so can't you just get two or three meals and pick these bits out??

If they've been part of a meal touching gluten containing items (e.g. anything containing wheat flour - which can be anything from bread crumbs to pasta to sauces thickened with flour) then they would be dangerous for the OP to eat, and it would cause both short and long term damage to her body.

What you've described would be about the worst case of cross contamination imaginable.

Balloonsandroses · 14/01/2023 20:37

@Nicecow nothing to do with mental issues (except it means I don’t care that much about not eating tonight). I could have had a dinner consisting of:
pepper
cucumber
lettuce

and there wasn’t much of any of those either. How do you just cope with that?

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Simonjt · 14/01/2023 20:40

Busybutbored · 14/01/2023 20:30

Sorry as I genuinely don't know, but can't anyone eat fruit or vegetables, so can't you just get two or three meals and pick these bits out??

The hospital are unlikely to give one person multiple meals at each sitting, the fruit/veg would also be contaminated.

FuckFuckGo · 14/01/2023 20:42

lljkk · 14/01/2023 20:04

mostly unusual, like Gouda (I eat that when I can find it).

Cottage cheese would be ok, I think? Yogurt? Bananas. Cashews or nut butters?

It’s not ‘unusual’ foods at all. It’s mature cheeses, red wine, certain beers, marmite, many processed meats, anything fermented, pickled, hung. Soy sauce, anything containing soy sauce, dried fruit, overripe fruit, pseudoephedrine (Sudafed), certain cough medicines.

Why do people say this stuff when they don’t have a clue what they’re talking about?

ANiceBigCupOfTea · 14/01/2023 20:42

Hospital food is so poor, and has been for so long

In 2010 my sister was hospitalised with eating disorder related issues (the same eating disorder which sadly ended her life), and the 'food' they served was shocking. Sloppy, stodgy, very un-heart healthy.
I hope you have someone to bring in things for you, and that you're on the mend soon.

walkinthewoodstoday · 14/01/2023 20:48

How long have you been sectioned for? Did a family member press for this? Sounds like it's going to make you worse. When my relative was very unwell we thought she should be sectioned, realised despite how bad she was that it would be unlikely and also thought that she would get less care in a psych ward and be more at risk.

Nicecow · 14/01/2023 20:49

Balloonsandroses · 14/01/2023 20:37

@Nicecow nothing to do with mental issues (except it means I don’t care that much about not eating tonight). I could have had a dinner consisting of:
pepper
cucumber
lettuce

and there wasn’t much of any of those either. How do you just cope with that?

I think I'd be fine tbh, but I dont have a huge appetite all the time and I'm cynical too, so wouldn't have expected much (and haven't from my own hospital visits and visiting other people, I always take them food because it is so foul).
Hopefully if you've let them know they can sort you out tomorrow or someone else can bring you something. Is there anyway you could ask another patient or visitor to get you something (although I'm guessing not by where you are).
I hope you get better soon.

emotionalmotionsicknesss · 14/01/2023 20:50

As a fellow coeliac I send you all the support.

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 14/01/2023 20:50

It wouldn’t be so bad if this was a planned admission with visitors possible. Hearing how bad it can be, I think if I was GF I’d try to have some cupboardy/long life food at home I could grab if there was a risk of admission to hospital. It is appalling that you’re there under section and there’s nothing to eat. Is there anyone DH can ask to bring you food? Or to mind the kids so he can do it?

walkinthewoodstoday · 14/01/2023 20:51

@WeepingSomnambulist do you have any idea about coeliac disease. It's called a disease for a reason. Gluten attacks her body and means she can't absorb nutrients but much more than that she is not exaggerating when she says she will vomit violently and probably have diahrea and feel dreadful if she eats gluten. It isn't like an intolerance.

NestingSparrow · 14/01/2023 20:52

Jo586 · 14/01/2023 18:10

Daft vegan diet, no, but if you are intolerant, then 100% they should cater for you.

Coeliac disease is not an intolerance, it is an autoimmune disorder.
Eating even a tiny crumb of gluten, or food that has been cooked in oil that has previously had gluten containing food in, or cross contamination from surfaces or knives/serving implements etc will cause the body to have a whole body auto immune reaction.
Repeated gluten exposure results in cancer.
An intolerance means someone might get a stomach upset if they eat something. Very different to what happens to a Coeliac.

www.coeliac.org.uk/information-and-support/coeliac-disease/coeliac-disease-faqs/

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