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Slovenly Saturdays

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Nutsabouttopic · 14/01/2023 15:32

I'm wondering if anyone else does this as my DD maintains nobody else does but I don't think it's much different than duvet days. About twice over winter (one being today) I have what we call Slovenly Saturday. I make sure that it's a Saturday that my DC who don't drive are not in work/study or else other DC or DH who can drive are around to drop them and pick them up. Four DC who are in school/college/work mid teens to early twenties. The food shop is done, plenty in fridge and freezer. Laundry is up to date. House is clean. I buy treat food, magazines, books and lovely bath goodies for myself. Basically I stay in bed, someone brings me breakfast/coffee/tea. I read, catch up on phone calls, watch movie and snooze. When I decide to get up I'll have a bath and put on fresh PJ's or my oldest comfiest clothes, holey leggings and sweatshirt. I don't leave the house unless I decide to walk in the garden. Large garden and no neighbours so nobody sees me. Someone makes lunch or they all just sort themselves out. I lie on the couch watching movies, reading magazines and have chocolate. Dinner is a takeaway unless hubby decides to do one of his big pots of food. DC's friends often appear when they know it's slovenly Saturday and chill out with us ( I think the takeaway is the attraction). The evening is spent chilling in front of the TV, eating, chatting and just relaxing. DC's normally stay in these nights but it's entirely their choice but they know I won't taxi them. I literally do nothing all day just relax. I know this is not possible with smaller younger children. I plan for the times I know I'm not on call for anyone. I'm normally rushing and racing especially over Christmas so I really enjoy these days off and feel relaxed after them. Anyone else do this or am I just a lazy cow as I was told by someone (not DD.). Sunday then life returns to normal.

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kittenkipping · 14/01/2023 15:41

Yanbu. It's perfectly reasonable to relax in any way you want on any day you want. This almost reads as a stealth boast though- I have many slovenly Saturdays and sometimes Sundays, and my pjs are not always fresh, my laundry not always all done, the house certainly not all cleaned and fridge stocked. I'm a slob even when all the chores are not done! You do you op. Sod what anyone else thinks.

Blinkingheckythump · 14/01/2023 15:47

kittenkipping · 14/01/2023 15:41

Yanbu. It's perfectly reasonable to relax in any way you want on any day you want. This almost reads as a stealth boast though- I have many slovenly Saturdays and sometimes Sundays, and my pjs are not always fresh, my laundry not always all done, the house certainly not all cleaned and fridge stocked. I'm a slob even when all the chores are not done! You do you op. Sod what anyone else thinks.

Couldn't agree more.

Bonjovispyjamas · 14/01/2023 15:47

Most of my weekends are like that 🤣

Neveranynamesleft · 14/01/2023 15:47

Sounds absolutely wonderful.

Nobody's business but yours.

GrimDamnFanjo · 14/01/2023 15:49

I do this every Saturday!

Ragwort · 14/01/2023 15:51

Much of my free time is like that Grin but I don't make a big thing of calling it 'Slovenly Saturday' ... having one today actually, although I did go to work this morning, picked up a bag of chips on the way home, sitting on the sofa with a glass of wine and planning to do nothing until I cook tomorrow's evening meal (house completely to myself for 48 hours).

SydneyCarton · 14/01/2023 15:52

Christ, this is my absolute bloody dream. Crack on

CavalierApproach · 14/01/2023 15:52

You don't need anyone's permission to take a day off occasionally. Clearly nobody should be calling you a lazy cow under any circumstances.

It doesn't need a special name and you don't have to make such a huge thing of how considerately you arrange it before daring to relax.

CarolDunne · 14/01/2023 15:53

I don't work Mondays and spend every Monday let this

I only do want pleases me, doesn't matter to me if the house is filthy with piled of dirty clothes

Squamata · 14/01/2023 15:57

This is basically my plan for when DC (3 and 6) are older.

You're living the dream op, I still have to get up at 6 at weekends and referee DC arguing about which paw patrol character is the best ;)

uncomfortablydumb53 · 14/01/2023 15:58

Sounds perfect... You are definitely not Lazy! Call it self care

TheRookie · 14/01/2023 16:00

Pre kids I did this often not 'two Saturdays every winter'. I would do it now but my 1 and 4 year old don't like to chill 😂

AtrociousCircumstance · 14/01/2023 16:01

Who has cast aspersions on your slovenly Saturdays?!

Sounds heaven.

TheaBrandt · 14/01/2023 16:02

This is most winter Sundays for us though we cook a roast. It’s grey and miz our house is lovely why leave it?

Cariadz · 14/01/2023 16:03

Op, I wish everyone could have a day of complete rest like this.

Enjoy your day. And here’s to the next one.

I love my do nothing days and now that I’m older I can please myself as to how many of them I have. Once a week is about normal for me.

MaverickGooseGoose · 14/01/2023 16:03

That's my Sundays. We have enough stuff going on the rest of the week. I do get out hopefully with the kids in tow for a dog walk but that's it. We are out all day Saturday at the horse yard. I don't feel bad about my Sundays!

itsgettingweird · 14/01/2023 16:04

Perfectly normal and acceptable.

I took da to his swim training this morning (we get up at 5!) and since we've been home I've been in PJs and laying in bed.

I've slept on and off and we have an Asda order coming at 5/6ish.

We often spend whole days lazing around when we have no plans because ds swimming means we can also spend whole weekends travelling up to 200 miles away.

I don't call them anything though. But without them I'd not function Grin

Notimeforaname · 14/01/2023 16:07

Like many here, that's what my Saturdays usually look like unless I absolutely have to do something. I made the bed at 8.30 this morning but I've been flaked out on it all day. Just finished pizza hut.
Do it more often op
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Nutsabouttopic · 14/01/2023 16:07

I didn't mean it to come across as a boast. I meant that I can't relax until certain things are done, my own problem. I was reared in a house where you were always expected to be busy very little down time. My parents were wonderful but very active people. My mum at 81 still runs around all day between fitness class, crafts, she plays bridge and travels. One of DC's friends passed the comment that his mother wished that she could have a day to sit around doing nothing all day. He was just chatting late teen. I have no intention of stopping my days off. It was of the DC's who named it Slovenly Saturday a few years ago. He was watching horrible history and heard the word slovenly and loved it.

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NoSquirrels · 14/01/2023 16:08

Doesn’t sound particularly slovenly to me!

Great that you have the household trained to serve you on these Saturdays, though- excellent.

If I were you I’d extend it into a Sunday too.

NoSquirrels · 14/01/2023 16:09

One of DC's friends passed the comment that his mother wished that she could have a day to sit around doing nothing all day.

Tell the teen that he should help his mother get one of these days - he can do her chores, bring her food and generally make it happen for her.

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Nutsabouttopic · 14/01/2023 16:09

@ragwort now I want chips, hot vinegary chips

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Nutsabouttopic · 14/01/2023 16:12

@TheRookie I would love more but unfortunately due to work/study/sport on Saturdays and DH working there's not opportunity for more

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SweetSakura · 14/01/2023 16:12

You definitely didn't need to explain that you are totally up to date with the laundry and have a pristine house etc first etc etc. It's fine to even veg out even if the house isn't perfect you know.

LordSugarTits · 14/01/2023 16:12

It's not a proper slovenly day if their mates come round for a takeaway and a chat! That's work. The door needs to be locked and the curtains closed 😆