Slovenly Saturdays

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I'm wondering if anyone else does this as my DD maintains nobody else does but I don't think it's much different than duvet days. About twice over winter (one being today) I have what we call Slovenly Saturday. I make sure that it's a Saturday that my DC who don't drive are not in work/study or else other DC or DH who can drive are around to drop them and pick them up. Four DC who are in school/college/work mid teens to early twenties. The food shop is done, plenty in fridge and freezer. Laundry is up to date. House is clean. I buy treat food, magazines, books and lovely bath goodies for myself. Basically I stay in bed, someone brings me breakfast/coffee/tea. I read, catch up on phone calls, watch movie and snooze. When I decide to get up I'll have a bath and put on fresh PJ's or my oldest comfiest clothes, holey leggings and sweatshirt. I don't leave the house unless I decide to walk in the garden. Large garden and no neighbours so nobody sees me. Someone makes lunch or they all just sort themselves out. I lie on the couch watching movies, reading magazines and have chocolate. Dinner is a takeaway unless hubby decides to do one of his big pots of food. DC's friends often appear when they know it's slovenly Saturday and chill out with us ( I think the takeaway is the attraction). The evening is spent chilling in front of the TV, eating, chatting and just relaxing. DC's normally stay in these nights but it's entirely their choice but they know I won't taxi them. I literally do nothing all day just relax. I know this is not possible with smaller younger children. I plan for the times I know I'm not on call for anyone. I'm normally rushing and racing especially over Christmas so I really enjoy these days off and feel relaxed after them. Anyone else do this or am I just a lazy cow as I was told by someone (not DD.). Sunday then life returns to normal.

@Nutsabouttopic WHO said you were lazy?

who makes you feel like you have to 'prep' for it like that?

the only bit that made me bristle a bit is being 'waited on'. But maybe that was just the way you wrote it?

why only 2 Saturdays a winter?

I think it's totally reasonable to say to teenagers, I'm not driving anywhere on Saturday/Saturday night, you'll need to make alternative plans, FAR more often than twice a winter!!! (But I'm also happy to be Saturday night driver picking up their friends too most of the time)

Sounds bloody lovely! Why shouldn't you enjoy a leisurely day?

Sounds brilliant.

I do this sometimes except I call it a slummy mummy day.

I do that on Sundays mostly sometimes. It's a relatively new thing for me as like you I always feel/felt I ought to be doing something (exercising if nothing else). But I love days like that. I clean the house on Saturdays so can't do it until the house is clean.

I couldn't have done it when my children were younger I don't think - they would have gone mad, but it's ok when they can sort themselves out for food and everything all day.

I do do this, but I don't prep for it, and I don't name it. I never do housework for two days at the weekend anyway.

Sounds like excellent self care! Enjoy. I’m in the little children/babies season of life but I look forward to joining you at some point in the next 2 decades 😂

Absolutely. Literally doing it now.

I will drive dd to her mates if she wants though.

Ugh this sounds like bliss. I'm pregnant with a toddler and a house full of junk to sort out, but I will be doing this in about ten years... and it certainly won't be only twice a year!

Well it is 4.30 pm and i am lying in bed with the electric blanket on and have read all day. Daughter on her tablet beside me and we are eating sweets, crisps and drinking pepsi. The weather is horrible. Sons either at work or at cinema with their dad. Bringing back chips hopefully! Contemplating lighting the fire and moving to the sofa but no rush! Does no harm. There are no jobs that cannot wait until tomorrow! (Apart from getting the Sunday roast out of the freezer)!

Twice a winter?! that’s a bit Spartan! Up it to twice a month!

YANBU. These are my favourite Saturdays. Everything is so busy and stressful so it's lovely to do nothing.

Sounds bloody brilliant. I think you should do it more often. To be fair, my Saturdays are not massively different except I normally cook as we have takeaway on Friday night after school. I’m currently sitting in my onesie waiting for the smashed potatoes to crisp up, watching reruns of the office!
Bet your kids and their friends love you so much for doing it.

Oh yes, perfectly acceptable thing to do.
We had our kids in our early 20s, they are 17 & 19 now. It’s fabulous, they care for themselves at weekends and I spend at least one sat/sun a month doing just this.

if I want to I can do a park run and be back in time for croissants and coffee with DH. Shower and back into bed for movies/Tv/reading/sleeping. I throughly enjoy it.

'About twice every winter' .. Only twice and it has a fancy name?!!

If your kids are old enough to fend themselves, relax all you like, you deserve it.

I aim for twice a month but my two are 7&4 so even 10 mins without someone needing me is a bloody miracle

I used to look forward to one day like this in the days between Christmas and new year. Just one pyjama day, with the kids playing with new toys and us snacking and watching tv with no reason to go out! Now they’re older but want lifts to part time jobs/friends it’s harder to achieve. Good for you OP, enjoy it.

I think this is genius and want to copy you!

I went out for breakfast this morning.
Have spent a delicious afternoon tucked up in bed, sleeping, watching shite and mumsnetting. Good Times

Sounds wonderful and (almost) makes me regret getting our dog - only spanner in the not-leaving-the-house-all-Saturday works!

I love these days and I can understand why you want everything sorted first, it's more of a treat when you know the house is clean and you don't have a load of stuff to do. I wouldn't want to see any other people on these days though!

Sounds great. No judgement here for any of the way people spend their Saturdays.

I have a version of this, but mine involves me doing all the jobs on said Saturday so come Saturday pm, house is perfect , everything ‘done’ and I can shower / bath , get fresh pjs on and have a lovely take away snacks and chill.

but very often my MIL would come round and be very sneery asking if I am having a ‘lazy day’ . And would tell people how I stay in my pyjamas all day , such was my laziness. She got bored after 10 years of realising it didn’t get the response she hoped. I LOVE my Saturdays.

Sounds bloody lush.
I struggle to relax too so this sounds like something I would love.

I would hate to do this weekly but every now and then it sounds fab!

“lazy” is a horrible term. I think very few people are lazy. Overwhelmed, unmotivated, relaxing, prioritising rest etc but not lazy.

I do this almost every Sunday throughout the year 😂I will do a quick tidy up in the morning and take a quick shower, and will then spend the rest of the day lounging about, reading, watching TV, napping, eating snacks. I love it.

YANBU.
This morning DS woke up at 7.30am, much to my dismay. I was hoping my hints at "a lovely lie in tomorrow" would have worked 🤦‍♀️He has ADHD and was like the Energizer bunny from the second he opened his eyes. He had a drink, a bite to eat and his medication and had me hunt down some very specific toys he hasn't touched for years and we got back in bed. I thought I'd chance an extra half an hour's sleep... The little legend took himself off to play and didn't wake me up until 11.45am! We've since had a very lazy day with way too much screen time for both of us and the only reason I am fully dressed was because I didn't want the Uber Eats delivery guy to judge me for still being in my tatty PJs at 2pm when he brought our McDonald's order 😂

I'm retired and enjoy a day like this about once a fortnight, usually at a weekend. I had 35 years of getting up at 6.30am and running around after other people. Now I do what I want. It's fucking BLISS.