To Hate most Humans

[Aquarius1234]

Anyone else?

I hear you, I'd choose animals over people any day.

Aquarians aren't supposed to love people. We're here as an example to show them how they're meant to be living their lives 😂

Once you accept your own imperfections without feeling like they make you a lesser human it becomes far easier to like other people. Most people are just like you; trying to do the best they can with what they have.

I avoid the few people I don't like very much and limit my contact with those who are draining. Generally I think the majority of people are decent even if they may not be my cup of tea.

Can’t stand people or animals. My retirement is gonna be me on a small boat mainly out on the ocean. Keep away.

Is this one of those “if everyone in your life acts like an arsehole maybe you’re the arsehole” situations?

I don’t hate them but I do find a lot of people profoundly irritating!

Dogs are IMO preferable to many humans.

'Can’t stand people or animals. My retirement is gonna be me on a small boat mainly out on the ocean. Keep away.'

😁 There are definitely times when I might agree with you!

Someone upthread mentioned working with the general public, and that can indeed be enough to suck every bit of love for your fellow humans right out of your soul. Forever

I think most people are fine, some are awful, some are really lovely. Personally, I can't begin to understand people who say they prefer animals over humans, but I'm really not an animal lover. I do like dogs, but would choose human company every time

Another clickbait post from this OP

It seems to be quite the fashion on social media these days to say how much you hate people. There are lots of memes around. You are in good company OP.

I like quite a few people. Nobody is perfect. Not even me. But I get something positive and different from each person I choose to have in my life; no one is the full ‘package’ but overall I get something positive from them being in my life. Developing relationships with others takes time, effort, tolerance and sometimes forgiveness, but for me this yields rewards.

My kids are due to leave home soon. And I am glad I have put in the effort with others as the next phase of life starts.

Yeah, I like very few people. I'm a miserable cow on the whole, though. However I do love animals.

I also often wonder if it’s a defensive strategy. ‘I am insecure and scared nobody will like me, so I say I hate others and refuse to socialise so I don’t have to experience that rejection’.

I think human beings are parasites! But as I'm one of them then I have a handful I like and everyone else I tolerate.

Oh it's you again, OP!
Well spotted, PAFMO.
Also I seem to recall: people in relationships at all, people asking you to cheer up, people ever being in your parent's home, etc, etc.

I'd be really keen to know what or who you actually DO like. I suspect it's a far shorter list than all of these endless sulky attention seeking threads you post.

I prefer animals to humans.

I don't hate anyone, just strongly dislike most people.

Not hate exactly (well some) but no not really a fan. The list of humans I genuinely like/love/care about is very short.
I love every animal I meet though.

Funny everyone feels the need for the “I love animals” qualifier given the op never once mentioned them.

This is what made me dislike people . The general public are morons

I don’t hate humans but I do think the planet would probably be better off without them! In all these years of being, we’re still having wars, we still have slavery, we’re still destroying everything around us, everything is about money and power.

I’m not sure most people are fundamentally “good”. Most of us are really only out for ourselves (and our loved ones), we don’t truly care that much about anyone else. People are easily corrupted. It’s quite sad when you actually think about it.

I don't have to click with them to know that without them I'd have nothing to eat, no house to live in, no utilities, not to mention being dead through lack of them saving my life when I needed it. The odd glimpses we get of strangers, the heinous deeds that make the news, and some flakey friends and toxic family members don't tell our whole story.
It's a depressing mind set OP. Seeking out positive stories of human kindness, achievement and endeavour might help give some perspective, seeing as you're stuck with us anyway.

I love people. I find them endlessly fascinating. However they can be incredibly tricky to deal with. I have learned that most people want to have positive interactions with others but sometimes issues and experiences beyond the control of the two people present can give rise to difficulties. Try not to take someone else’s issues, even their issues with you specifically personally unless you believe that there are aspects to yourself that you do need to work on. Their issues are about them. You aren’t a work in progress to meet someone else’s needs.

I grew up in a very dysfunctional family and it took me a long time to figure out that I was chasing friendships that mirrored that experience. Once I did figure that out I have had the enormous and immense pleasure of ruthlessly ruling out those kinds of people and chasing other/better types of people for me. They exist in vast numbers it turns out.

I also think its an attitude that indicates a huge level of arrogance, narcissism even. People who say such things are basically saying they are so unique and superior all others of their kind are a disappointment, and their disillusionment with the world and their lives is the fault of others.

I think it’s often a bit attention-seeking.

As you say it can come with an arrogance as they seem to forget that they too are ‘people’.

I’m not sure most people are fundamentally “good”.

I absolutely believe people are a mix of strengths and weakness and good and bad but I do believe that every person on the planet wants to have good emotional experiences.

The problem is that many people through their experiences and through the experiences of people around them have had to build up defences along the way against negative experiences they have had and very often it is those defences we encounter and we put up against others that leads to our difficulties with others.

There is no magic wand to wave to make this right though. You can’t drop your defences against someone who will harm you unless they can drop theirs.

@Nicanabanana completely agree with you. People are fascinating and they bring me joy.

I don't know if I believe in star signs (I'm Libra) apparently that means I'm happy around people.

My mum's aquarius and we joke that if 99% of the world does it this way, she (as part of the 1%) will do it differently (on purpose).

I know there's arseholes, I meet many everyday but I just think they might have personal struggles and we are all different.

I love people's stories too. An elderly relative this week told me about life post war and I was enthralled. I've also had strangers be really helpful and to me this cancels out any negative encounters.

Are you ok @Aquarius1234 ?

I know someone who says they hate others but it's just a soundbite, because when you discuss it, it's more complex than that. They do actually like some people, love their family, but they are neurodivergent so find others they don't know and don't have a connection with exhausting which in turn can cause irritation and those negative feelings.