Ex taking the kids away

[Starsandsky23]

so my ex sees the kids once a week. 5 and 3 year old.
That’s 52 times a year. Add on 15-20 days for when he’s taking them more.

So I’m obviously the full time parent. I’ve tried my absolute hardest for him to have the kids more to no avail.

he’s a good dad ‘when’ he has them.
he’s in another relationship (just over a year) I like the new girlfriend. She’s good with my kids that’s all I want.
anyway my ex has asked to take the kids to Lapland. I’ve said no. I want to be the one to experience it with the children first.
If he had the children more and didn’t just play ‘fun dad’ for 24 hours then I wouldn’t mind. Why should he have that glory?! AIBU

Sort out the maintenance asap. There is no reason to let him off the hook for that.

I'll go £10 🤣

Then tell teu dad to take them to Disney , I f they like competing with each other at least the kids will have plenty to enjoy . Maybe dad will take them to Downey land Paris and she will then take them to florida 😂

And if he doesn’t pay maintenance why are you allowing that ? Make him pay so instead of feeling resentful you can actually co parent efficiently

I think this is a perfect example of a parent not being able to prioritise her children's needs over her own.

I hope he takes you to court to fight that. Yabu as that's a very selfish reason not to let them go.

This.

It’s funny when people say why are you not allowing him to pay maintenance, I’m with the cms and my ex still doesn’t pay any maintenance!! Maybe that’s the same for the op? It’s very easy to avoid maintenance payments if you want to

CMS are utterly shite in a lot of cases.
But not all.

I’ve seen plenty of posts on here where women say they haven’t pursued it.
Of course there can be reasons for that - fear, sometimes.
But there’s enough people I’ve seen on here who haven’t even gone to CMS that make it a valid question.

How much is a trip to Lapland?

You need to grow up it's pathetic and your kids who will miss out. Very convenient that you've booked it for just after he intended to and you forgot to put that in your OP.

Point is people shouldn’t assume she hasn’t tried.

Yabu

How pathetic. Are either of you actually putting your kid's wants and needs first? Petty nonsense.

I know it’s hard when you put in all the hard druggery and it feels like he gets all the glamour and glory, but it will make your kids happy and give them a good experience so you really should do what’s best for them.

You’re putting your own interests in fro t of your children’s. Incredibly selfish.

This is so crazy to me…. Why do you matter seeing something first with the kids…. You should be thinking about your kids and if you wanted to experience it with them first then you had plenty of time. Obviously he is trying to make up for not being the FT parent. Ultimately you are punishing your kids for your resentment instead of being happy they are going to make an awesome memory with their dad.