Ex taking the kids away

[Starsandsky23]

so my ex sees the kids once a week. 5 and 3 year old.
That’s 52 times a year. Add on 15-20 days for when he’s taking them more.

So I’m obviously the full time parent. I’ve tried my absolute hardest for him to have the kids more to no avail.

he’s a good dad ‘when’ he has them.
he’s in another relationship (just over a year) I like the new girlfriend. She’s good with my kids that’s all I want.
anyway my ex has asked to take the kids to Lapland. I’ve said no. I want to be the one to experience it with the children first.
If he had the children more and didn’t just play ‘fun dad’ for 24 hours then I wouldn’t mind. Why should he have that glory?! AIBU

unreasonable

This is odd ,you have both booked to go to Lapland a week.apart ,how what are the chances 🤔

And 4 flights in 10 days for young children after 2/3 days in a freezing cold place

This. And I'm a single parent too.

This just sounds like point scoring.

Claim cms
cancel your booking to Lapland and do something else fun with the dc
while they are with their dad, do something fun for you

Massive drip feed.

Yes say you've already booked a trip to lapland so you'll save him some money and is there anywhere else he can think of?

Yes I mean one of you has to realise how ridiculous this is for the kids. Can you cancel yours and save the money?

You are being selfish imo because unless you have now booked Lapland the. It means your kids will go without an experience because you want to compete with him . It’s petty

It’s at least 5-6k for 4 people for 3 nights … could take them to lots of other places.

Who booked first?

So they miss out because you have a general idea you want to take them?

What is best for the children?

Take them to Disney? That is something special to look forward to and the kids get Two mega holidays x

Yabu to deny your children a holiday and fun experience with their dad. Yanbu to have an issue with him booking the exact same trip a week before you. Does he know about your trip and does he have a history of trying to point score in this way?

if possible, I’d transfer your booking to something else at a different time eg Disneyland Paris in the spring?

No turns out she's actually booked it!

Shes booked already aparantly

Is this actual lapland or lapland uk?

You sound like a petulant child. Stop making a competition of this and put your children before your daft feelings.

Why doesn’t he pay maintenance? This is what you should be moaning about?

Actual Lapland as Lapland UK tickets for 2023 aren’t even released yet.

Taking the kids to Lapland twice in the space of less than two weeks is just utterly absurd, and YABU to sulk about him getting to do it 'first' when presumably as the FT parent you've had most of their other life firsts?

Can you change yours to the following year? More sensible than twice on the trot and a different experience as they'll each be a year older. The younger will probably remember more of it at that stage too.

But realistically you haven't booked it, you're more likely saying that because these replies didn't go how you hoped.

You are being childish.

£5 says OP won’t come back

I’ve said no. I want to be the one to experience it with the children first.
🤣

100% this. If the OP had booked it that would have been the purpose of the first post. Its a pretty crucial detail to miss out.

There's no way it slipped her mind that she too was taking them to lapland.