To be outraged

[SharonB2]

That my dd 12 is having a sleepover and her friend brought alcohol????

Call her parents to pick her up?

Wtf. Yep, she should go home.

Yep, straight home!

Wow, that is a bit shocking. I'd send the friend home, if parents can come and collect or you can take.

Yeh send her home, 12 years old is far too young to be bringing alcohol!!

Are you hosting the sleepover? I'd pass this info on to the school to be honest so that the safeguarding team can help.

That’s going far (telling the school or kicking her out).

I’d confiscate it, tell her she can’t do that, and then tell her parents. I wouldn’t humiliate her by sending her home. I’d just make sure she’s not invited again.

Get straight round there and collect immediately as if anything happens with or from your child and drunk it’ll be your responsibility and something in that moment could ruin everything - do not risk it - may
sound extreme but I would not accept this, I’d feel inclined to report the parents too!

If you're hosting then I would call her parents and tell them you're not willing to have her over, she needs to go home and if be telling them exactly why.

I'd also be trying to reign in the friendship.

Yikes!! Not clear if you are hosting or your DD is elsewhere but either way I think I'd want my child or the other out of the situation ASAP. Good luck!

Oh for gods sake, it's just kids pushing boundaries. Confiscate the booze, bit of a bollocking, let them have their sleep over and hand the bottle over to her mum when she picks her up.

Of course you’re not. Call her parents.

Take the alcohol off them , I'd let her stay.
Parents might not even know she's taken it, just speak to them about it tomorrow.

I'd just take the alcohol away and allow her to stay. We were shocked when we had a get together at our house with parents and their children. In front of everyone in the room one of the 12 year old girls asked her Dad to go home to get her Wickeds - I said she wouldn't be allowed to drink it in our house.

it was half a bottle of wkd
my dd actually came in to tell me and ask if she could have a bit
I don’t want to go mad when she’s told me but it’s been tipped down the toilet! Swear o didn’t start this until I was 14!

Half a bottle of wkd and you're outraged?? There's probably more alcohol in a swig of mouthwash.

Pour it down the sink, let her stay if you want or send her home but tell her parents. 12 is young but I thought you were going to say 2ltrs of cider or something!

I'd be concerned for the gild who brought it. I'd check to find out if any if the children had consumed any but I wouldn't be angry at a child.

Outraged at half a bottle of WKD? I'd definitely mention it to the parents when they come to pick her up tomorrow but I wouldn't be "outraged" if a high school student had a bit of WKD.

I’d be pretty shocked and confiscate it like you did / get rid of and then tell her parents tomorrow when they pick up.

I’d also be a bit wary about continuing the friendship / allowing future sleepovers.

It could be a simple misunderstanding like she stole the alcohol but Wkd is an alcopop so I’d be worried the parents let her drink it at home.

12 is way too young for that. 15 maybe at a push, but not 12!

yabu. I thought you were being over dramatic even before you added the massive drip feed.

To be fair I was originally told alcohol but my dd then upon checking it was half a bottle of wkd it’s down the toilet
Still shocked though!

You did the right thing confiscating it, but wouldn’t take it any further personally.

Any alcohol at TWELVE is a massive red flag. Something has gone wrong in that child's home life. I wouldn't send the kid home now it's been thrown away but I'd be having words with her parents tomorrow.

Alcohol is alcohol, and they're 12 years old, FFS. It's a very big deal.

im fairly chilled, but my eyebrows have yet to descend