To be outraged

[SharonB2]

That my dd 12 is having a sleepover and her friend brought alcohol????

How well do you know the parents @SharonB2 ?

They’re year 7 or 8? They’ll be showing off, I’d have a word with parents but they could well have just taken it without parental knowledge.

Don't ostracise the girl, I bet she mentioned to the girls that she had seen it at home in the fridge and they egged her on to bring it. Don't call her parents, don't kick her out.... just take it away and let them have fun.

Put clueless on and leave them to it.

Wow & I was worried about Prime consumption!

how does one transport half a bottle of wkd? aren’t they bottle top? once opened it would be pretty difficult to sneak into a bag, although it’s been about 16 years since I’ve had one..

All these cool chill mums in this thread are okay with their TWELVE year olds having alcohol? Okay then

Amateurs. My grannies generation put whiskey on their babies gums to help teething.

(sarcasm, for anyone wondering...although the whiskey on gums is true, it was common years ago)

Yeah that’s bad. I’d be pretty horrified. 12!!

At Yr8 I'd expect many to push this boundary. Early but not extreme. It's hardly whiskey or vodka

This is what I'd do. The Yr8 I know are all pretty streetwise & whilst my DC mates wouldn't do it we know plenty who prob would. May have come via older sibling.

Umm that’s how I teethed… wooden clothes pin soaked in whiskey or brandy

I’m not exactly lining up fo a place in the old folks home either.

I probably shouldn’t tell my mum’s alternative to cough medicine was when I was little… mumble mumble…two tablespoons of brandy…mumble

Not exactly outrageous! Some people really need to calm down.

Obviously you were right to pour it away and you should mention it to parents.

But no way should you call the school/ ban her from the house etc. it's just kids pushing boundaries and trying to grow up too quick

Half a bottle of WKD is really nothing to get worked up about.

Christ, your DD will be having fun making friends going forwards with you as a mother

I would be concerned at what other ‘adult’ things the friend is interested in.

These posts just keep getting more bat shit

So she's smuggled half an alcopop out of her house, probably egged on by all her friends (I imagine if you see the group chat beforehand) and you're outraged and people think the school should be informed because of safeguarding.

Jesus. H. Christ.

This is pre-teens being stupid. It's been poured away. Tell the parents on pick up, so they can deal with their DD being irresponsible and they can tell her it is absolutely not to happen again. Frankly could have been any of them, she just happened to be the one who, on the night of a sleepover, found half an alcopop and between them they got over excited and smuggled it in.

Poured it down the loo? You should have poured it down your neck.

WKD is not really an ‘adult’ drink in the true sense. I don’t know anyone that drinks it other than teens at parties.
I don’t think it’s the gateway to Heroin or anything.

Kids want to try stuff. My Mum gave us 'alcohol' once a year at new year when we were 10.. basically it was a soft drink with a smitter of something.. we thought we were special.. she also allowed us to taste whisky or sherry - I mean a tiny taste - (my parents drank this) when we were young.. 12 or over.. if we asked.. before that we never asked..

What her motives were was to 1) let us ask and she knew what we were doing 2) to put us off alcohol at an early age 3) know that we could always ask in a safe place (i.e. at home) and not outside being lured into trouble by others..

My own kids I did the same.. they did discover WKD by age 14 but it was literally 1 bottle each on our holidays or at a birthday or new year... and i've done the same with them as my Mother did.. let them ask & try...

But, in your situation, if my kid was 12 and her pal came over I'd say to the pal.. "sorry, you are too young and I am responsible for you tonight" - put the WKD aside and give it back when she was going home.. explain to my daughter the same.. too young.. and your friends shouldn't be taking alcohol to other peoples houses...

Don't be mad or fuming at them - they were actually very honest with you - your dd asked first... they didn't hide anything... which tells me someone is doing something right.. and they both sound like decent kids.. no need to kick the friend out or contact authorities - they are honest, curious kids and now you have a heads up that your dd is asking questions. you are now prepared for the next stage in her life and that's a good thing, you can guide her, not scold..

p.s. I am Scottish so our 'culture' is very pub/drinking orientated BUT, like I've said, good parents teach us not to be daft when we are young but let us ask & try in very small doses with parental supervision! I never started drinking till I was 23.. neither of my kids drink at all, except at new year and they are over the legal age now.. must be doing something right!!!! Good Luck

What happened to the other half?
Possible it was something just left in the fridge at home and she thought it cool to lift it?
As long as it’s gone down the sink I’d just do a five minute chat on the risks of alcohol on young bodies and then let them get on with their sleepovers.
Apparently my brother, aged about 9, had a couple of friends round to play, he offered them a sherry each.

It's a silly kid showing off. I would tell the mum tomorrow though so she's aware and make it clear to your DD that it's not acceptable.

To all those who would hit the roof. You do realise that behaving like this will ensure that your kids keep secrets from you don't you? It'll come back and bite you on the arse I can assure you.