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To ask you if this is fraud?

147 replies

LucyLeopard · 13/01/2023 17:03

just as background - Colleague is a lovely person and also a single mum to 3 children. I think this must be incredibly tough!

We are fortunate in our job (carers) that we now get our mileage paid from home and not the workplace. It used to be workplace to someone’s home but it’s now from our own home! This has helped everyone with that extra little bit of cost and we can even claim for the drive to work!

the thing is colleague is claiming from an address she doesn’t live at. She actually lives say 2 miles from the workplace but now she’s claiming from her mums house which is 34 miles each way!

I realised this from when she asked me to scan both our mileage sheets in. She’s now making over 100.00 per week in mileage. i know she definitely only lives 2 miles from work as she only invited us round at Christmas.

im really torn, I feel like I 96% should keep my mouth shut but 4% of me has that niggling doubt I should say something!

wwyd?

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SleeplessInEngland · 14/01/2023 09:40

Mumsnet probably isn’t the best place to ask - many posters here would demand you report someone for using too many paper clips.

My take is that if you think she’s good at the job otherwise, say nothing.

Tandora · 14/01/2023 09:51

StubbleAndSqueak · 14/01/2023 09:35

@Tandora you sound very immature, you cannot ignore the fact she is gaining money by lying, it's just wrong

No need to resort to personal insults is there?.

If “immature” is minding your own business and avoiding passing judgement / interfering in other’s circumstances of which you know little in ways that have the potential to cause harm to your friends, then count me in

CecilyP · 14/01/2023 09:54

Stopthebusplease · 14/01/2023 00:31

As she's supposed to be your friend OP, I think I would ask her if everything is alright. When she asks what you mean, you could say 'well, I noticed you're claiming mileage from your Mum's, when I thought you were living at ....' She may then say, 'oh yes, I only live with my BF at weekends', or 'I've split up with BF and am back at Mum's for the time being', or 'Mum's broken her leg, is sick, whatever, so I'm temporarily living back at hers'. If however, the answer is, 'no everything's fine, but I thought as when I joined the company I gave them Mum's address, I might as well claim from there, and make a few extra quid a month, as it's not hurting anyone', then I would point out that she's actually committing fraud, which makes you feel uncomfortable, and in actual fact isn't fair on you, or other staff who aren't making the extra few quid a month, and tell her she needs to amend her address and start claiming properly. You don't need to say you'll dob her in, but I think the inference would be clear, then after that, it's up to her.

I think this is the best you can do. She could get away with it long term unless you’re in quite a small organisation, as personnel will have her address but not expenses. The longer she gets away with it, the more likely she is to be prosecuted as £4,800 a year is quite substantial!

9outof10cats · 14/01/2023 10:25

Tandora · 13/01/2023 19:21

It doesn’t even remotely put the safety of vulnerable adults at risk though. has nothing to do with safety and , she doesn’t actually know if it’s fraud she just suspects.

You need to educate yourself on what 'vulnerability means'.

www.carecheck.co.uk/the-definition-of-vulnerable-adults-and-the-services-they-receive/

Someone committing fraud, i.e. stealing, brings their trustworthiness into question. How do you know this person would not also steal money from her clients??????

If this is okay with you, then we obviously have different standards of moral behaviour, so we will have to agree to disagree.

Tandora · 14/01/2023 10:37

9outof10cats · 14/01/2023 10:25

You need to educate yourself on what 'vulnerability means'.

www.carecheck.co.uk/the-definition-of-vulnerable-adults-and-the-services-they-receive/

Someone committing fraud, i.e. stealing, brings their trustworthiness into question. How do you know this person would not also steal money from her clients??????

If this is okay with you, then we obviously have different standards of moral behaviour, so we will have to agree to disagree.

Lol I know exactly what vulnerability means, and I do not accept that this woman’s travel related expenses have anything to do with safeguarding.

yes we have different values clearly. You sound like you have a very “black and white” way of thinking, which causes you to be highly judgemental and interfering in others affairs. These are not qualities I admire or value.

9outof10cats · 14/01/2023 10:38

9outof10cats · 14/01/2023 10:25

You need to educate yourself on what 'vulnerability means'.

www.carecheck.co.uk/the-definition-of-vulnerable-adults-and-the-services-they-receive/

Someone committing fraud, i.e. stealing, brings their trustworthiness into question. How do you know this person would not also steal money from her clients??????

If this is okay with you, then we obviously have different standards of moral behaviour, so we will have to agree to disagree.

And just in case you think elderly clients never get financially abused by their carers.

www.google.com/search?q=carer+stole+from+elderly&oq=carer+stole+&aqs=chrome.0.0i512j69i57j0i512l2j0i22i30j0i15i22i30j0i22i30j0i15i22i30i625j0i390l2.4202j0j7&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8

DeadDonkey · 14/01/2023 10:40

@Tandora out of interest what is your cut-off when it comes to stealing from your employer?

StubbleAndSqueak · 14/01/2023 10:44

Really @Tandora , you wouldnt question her integrity? She sees nothing wrong with lying and stealing from her employer
Would you employ her in your home?

Tandora · 14/01/2023 10:44

DeadDonkey · 14/01/2023 10:40

@Tandora out of interest what is your cut-off when it comes to stealing from your employer?

I don’t steal from my employer, so my cut off is zero. Nor to I involve myself in the expense claims of my colleagues/ friends as that is neither my job, nor my personal business.

Coffeecreme · 14/01/2023 10:46

why iwhy is it up to you

i would query it with her personally if i felt i had to do something.

Lampzade · 14/01/2023 10:49

worstusernameeverx2 · 13/01/2023 19:25

She's you're friend for christs sake- close enough to have you round on Christmas! And you're considering snitching on her. Maybe tell her you know and say you're worried that's she'll get find out, but don't tell on her ffs.

Moral of the story

  • Do not get involved in fraudulent activities
  • Don’t trust anyone - not even someone who you regard as a friend .
Throwncrumbs · 14/01/2023 10:51

JimHensonWasAGenius · 13/01/2023 19:41

So by your logic if they took £2-3 out of your Nan's purse or £5 out of your your DS who had SLD's wallet that would be OK too?

Again, I am not accusing this person of anything, just pointing out that being a carer is a highly trustworthy role and IF she is doing this it puts her whole moral stance in question.

Indirectly the cost to the clients will be increased due to increased mileage costs, so basically ‘your Nan’ will be shelling out more money for a carer because somebody is committing fraud. I can’t see how any one thinks this is ok. Unless of course the people who do think it’s ok have their own little fiddles going on, justifying this to justify themselves. Shocking really!

Throwncrumbs · 14/01/2023 10:53

Lampzade · 14/01/2023 10:49

Moral of the story

  • Do not get involved in fraudulent activities
  • Don’t trust anyone - not even someone who you regard as a friend .

She’s already involved because she’s input the timesheet that she knows is wrong. When the woman gets caught out (and she will) the OP will be asked questions!

DeadDonkey · 14/01/2023 10:55

Tandora · 14/01/2023 10:44

I don’t steal from my employer, so my cut off is zero. Nor to I involve myself in the expense claims of my colleagues/ friends as that is neither my job, nor my personal business.

So you’re happy for others to steal from your employer, even if that could impact on the business as a whole. I wonder what else you’d let slide - A few pounds here and there from the till or petty cash? Benefit fraud? Driving without insurance? Driving under the influence? Shop-lifting? After all it’s not your business…

Ravenclawess · 14/01/2023 11:07

9outof10cats · 14/01/2023 10:25

You need to educate yourself on what 'vulnerability means'.

www.carecheck.co.uk/the-definition-of-vulnerable-adults-and-the-services-they-receive/

Someone committing fraud, i.e. stealing, brings their trustworthiness into question. How do you know this person would not also steal money from her clients??????

If this is okay with you, then we obviously have different standards of moral behaviour, so we will have to agree to disagree.

This is someone I know personally. She now works in community care as a carer.

(Name changed)

LlynTegid · 14/01/2023 11:09

In my opinion it is.

Question is whether you should talk to her first. You could frame it that someone else could say something and should not put her job at risk.

DeadDonkey · 14/01/2023 11:13

@Tandora I suppose I should thank you. I’ve had to dismiss people in the past for gross misconduct, I’ve always focussed on the individual and not really looked wider at who might be facilitating their behaviour in the wider team. It’s given me plenty to think about.

KarmaStar · 14/01/2023 11:19

You're in a not great position as if you mention it to her and she doesn't amend her claims then when she gets caught she may say you knew but didn't report it so she thought it was ok,how your employers would view that we can only imagine.
if you do report her and she is sacked,how would you feel then?
be guided by your instincts.

DrinkFeckArseBrick · 14/01/2023 11:27

Yes it is fraud

If you've seen her time sheets and not said anything then I don't know if you could be implicated as well as in a lot of jobs you have a duty to report fraud if spotted

So she might have inadvertently put you in a difficult position.

A lot of people claim a bit extra on expenses so she might not even realise its fraud.

Could you speak to her and say you've found out so it's only a matter of time before someone else does (eg she will slip up and mention her local pub / shop as being in the 'wrong' location etc) and she should let them know her new address before she gets found out

maryofthevirginkind · 14/01/2023 11:29

I would escalate this, it's theft.

vivainsomnia · 14/01/2023 11:45

OP, you need to look at you job policies. Something similar happened in a previous job. Some staff/friends started to question about another staff taking money. They didn't have clear evidence, but some things they told them didn't add up. In the end, one of them reported it.

All got disciplined because managers pointed to a policy that said that all staff had a duty to report anything suspicious. They kept their job but it was a horrible time for them. It turned that staff has been fiddling funds in other areas they suspected and badly defrauded the company.

topcat2014 · 14/01/2023 12:25

Re reading the thread. The OP knows about this "as part of her work" rather than just kitchen chat.

When the shit hits the fan the OP will be asked if they knew.

If I were the OP I would not want to be the one having to say "not my job to check" given that I knew the claims were duff.

I would resent the fraudster for dragging me in.

I have worked somewhere where my line manager was stealing. Believe me it is horrible when it all comes out.

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