How often should you see someone in a new relationship?

[Supernova23]

I have been seeing someone for the last 2 months or so. I am happy with seeing him once a week at the moment, as I work more than full time with very long hours. I also need to make time for my friends, family, and sorting out life admin, the house.....as well as having some quiet time to myself.

He seems to hint that this isn't enough but in a pleasant way. He also works full time but does more "normal" hours than me. AIBU? should I be making the effort to see him more than once a week?

Mine moved in after 2 weeks. We were obsessed with each other! It’s all down to what’s going on in your life and your personality types I guess. I like lots of contact where as other don’t.

I completely disagree, but I think it comes down to personality type. Introverts get their energy from having alone time, whereas extroverts get their energy from being with other people (I tend to think of them as energy suckers 😂).

I couldn't bare to date a extrovert, it would drive me up the wall.

It doesn't sound like you're ever going to have any more time than you have though because what would have to give way to give you more time to spend with him?
He wants more than you can give. Neither are unreasonable but you're not compatible by the sound of it

Two weeks.
Wow, I thought I was a fast-mover at 2-3 months.😆

I don't know how people take it so slow. I had butterflies so intense I couldn't sleep or concentrate.

It’s interesting how different everyone is.

I think some people are making assumptions that if you don’t drop everything to focus on your new romance, you can’t be that into it. However, I do think life is more complicated than that and also people’s personalities clearly are too!

I am in a lot of contact with my new fella, there are massive butterflies and it’s extremely intense when we spend time together- however, we (mainly I) have a lot of baggage that takes up time and energy at the moment and we both have a lot of career commitments/goals that we need to keep up- this is actually something we find attractive about each other and is something we are both happy about! We are happy generally sticking to one 24 hour date a week, with the occasional lunch or dinner midweek as well, and we have also started planning fairly regular little trips away. This is important for me as it shows he is committed and thinking about spending more time in the future!

I suppose it is about finding a balance or what works for you both. If one person is dissatisfied with the amount of time spent together, then some change maybe needs to be made- maybe trying having more dates but if it really doesn’t work for you, maybe the relationship doesn’t have legs.

Compromise is important as long as it’s working in both directions and isn’t just one person dropping their boundaries.