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To think you should downsize your council house if it’s just you?

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OuchOuchOuchh · 12/01/2023 09:58

Oh my goodness I have created war at work and everyone is gunning for me.

My auntie has a huge 4 bedroom council house she has lived there since the 90s with her one son. That has now moved out.

All i said was I think it’s unfair that she’s living in such a big family home perfect for a family to bring their kids up in. Large garden backs on to the woods plenty of visits from deers and fox’s it’s beautiful! Anyway all I said is that if you haven’t purchased the property in a certain amount of time you should have to downsize if it’s just you living there.

Theres families overcrowded and can’t get anywhere then you have my auntie paying £100 a week in rent for a massive house for just herself.

please tell me if I am being an asshole! I appreciate it’s her family home but it just doesn’t seem fair to me.

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BashfulClam · 12/01/2023 17:55

Council housing isn’t for when you need it as a temporary solution. You have to decorate and carpet/floor it yourself. All minor maintenance is down to the tenant. So someone who has paid a lot of money and put a lot of work in shouldn’t just be turfed into a shell to start again. Flats are also not really the best option for many older folk if they have stairs etc as not all flats are on ground level.

Throwncrumbs · 12/01/2023 17:55

This thread amazes me. Big council house just one person living there is classed as selfish, should give it back to the council as it’s not yours, you are just renting it, the on other threads if you privately rent landlords are scum and it’s your home and they shouldn’t evict you… unbelievable double standards!

LakieLady · 12/01/2023 17:55

Delectable · 12/01/2023 12:40

Then it's sold to them at a 70% discount. Makes no sense. Perhaps why there's a shortage of labour. Some think it's better not to work.

The discount is capped at c. £75k (more in London). Ex-council houses in part of the SE go for north of £300k, so the discount is max 25% or thereabouts and you'd still need a fair sized mortgage.

RTB has pretty much died a death here.

Still shouldn't happen though, and never should have happened.

AllThingsServeTheBeam · 12/01/2023 17:56

MissWings · 12/01/2023 17:50

@AllThingsServeTheBeam

To be fair that is true. Yes it sounds like something straight out of the daily fail but I can assure they are not waiting for a decade like many white, British families are. Not a very woke thing to say I know.

There is an immigrant family who live near me who have been split up for a few years now in 2 separate houses. It isn't all, come over and get given a 5 bed with gold taps like the post read.

AllThingsServeTheBeam · 12/01/2023 17:57

Goldd · 12/01/2023 17:52

I haven’t read the whole post, but I would never argue for an elderly person to be kicked out a two-bed bungalow (my post referred to 4 bed houses). Im sorry if other people are saying that.

Yes there are posters who are saying this. She did actually get put on the list as she needed somewhere smaller than her house at the time. She couldn't manage the stairs anymore. They just didn't have any 1 beds.

Goldd · 12/01/2023 17:59

MissWings · 12/01/2023 17:40

@Goldd

I wouldn’t be able to afford mine, the right to acquire isn’t that generous. Also I’m a firm believer in council housing and this will go back to the stock once I’m dead. Also it’s very, very old. Would be a financial disaster to buy it in terms of maintenance etc.

I waited over a decade in cramped conditions before I got my house. Before us an elderly lady lived here alone and had to die before we were offered it. And no didn’t begrudge her, my own Nan kept her house before she died too. Personally I am a great believer in social housing and social cohesion so I see the benefits of lifetime tenancy’s. I certainly won’t be giving it up. I love my garden too much. I lived in flats for years and years even with small kids and it was shite. Noise, noise, no spacey, no garden. Never again.

It’s easy to blame those at the bottom of the social pile for the housing crisis but anyone with half a brain knows those problems we’re most certainly created from the top.

I definitely did not mean to refer to people buying their actual council property (aka doing right to buy) so I’m sorry if it came across that way. I agree with council stock staying council stock.

I agree that problems are created from the top.

It would be nice if people could make the connection of “living in a small flat with kids is shite” = “maybe now my kids are gone I should give up my council house so a family in that situation can have it”. (IF you can afford to privately rent).

I think the assumption is by your fifties/sixties many people will be on a higher salary, maybe have an inheritance, and really can afford a nice home without taking up a council home. But that only applies to the people it applies to, if that makes sense. People who can’t afford to give up a council house need not consider it.

ArcheryAnnie · 12/01/2023 17:59

goldfinchfan · 12/01/2023 17:47

I am not happy that migrants get given council/Housing Assoc houses.

This takes away any fairness in the system as they always get to the top of the list, based on need.
That is if you come here seeking asylum you need help but if you are born here you have to sofa surf with family.

Also some migrants have more children and take up the larger properties.

Christ. I should've in truth made a bingo card.

Most asylum seekers I know are in unbelievably grotty hostel bedsits, sharing cooking and washing facilities with god knows how many other people. They and their kids eat cold food while sitting on their beds, because there's nowhere to go.

Eventually they get shoved in a car, often not even told where they are going, and driven out of London to a run-down flat in a run-down location where they are treated with hostility, because this cheap accommodation is often in places which are also suffering from chronic government underfunding. It isn't fair on anyone, asylum seekers or locals.

It's hardly the freeloading paradise you describe.

Eyerollcentral · 12/01/2023 17:59

DonnaBanana · 12/01/2023 17:48

If council housing isn’t subsidised by the taxpayer at all then they should build and rent out a lot more of it at zero expense to the public purse however that works.

Yeah they really should, wonder why they don’t? Oh yeah it’s because doing that doesn’t generate massive profits for private equity funds 🤷‍♀️

MudLady · 12/01/2023 18:01

I can see both sides of the argument TBH.
YANBU to say that under occupation of a scarce resource is annoying, unhelpful etc. There are many thousands of people desperate for affordable housing & the situation isn't improving.
YABU to suggest that people should be made to move... it's their home, that they've decorated (she wouldn't be able to get funds to redecorate a smaller place, tenants have to pay for it themselves). IDK if the council would even fund the full costs of physically moving house. There's no guarantee she'd find somewhere local so her friendships, job, support network etc would potentially all be at risk.

I'm very lucky, in a sense... DH & I got social housing a few weeks after we were made homeless. IDK what we'll do when (if) DD moves out. We were incredibly fortunate to be offered something local, most places I applied for were a couple of hours away.

TBH I think if people are willing to downsize, the government/council/whatever should be prepared to cover all the costs, including giving them a reasonable budget to redecorate. Not all social housing is in good condition & you often don't find out any issues until you move in.

MissWings · 12/01/2023 18:02

To be fair that’s what happens now to migrant families. That’s because the shit has really hit the fan.

Having said that certainly in past 1-2 decades they were most certainly housed exceptionally quicker than many white, British families. Right now though? Nope, everyone’s fucked now, but we can’t pretend that’s it’s always been like this.

IsItThough · 12/01/2023 18:02

"This thread amazes me. Big council house just one person living there is classed as selfish, should give it back to the council as it’s not yours, you are just renting it, the on other threads if you privately rent landlords are scum and it’s your home and they shouldn’t evict you… unbelievable double standards!"

Oh give over, you know these are different things entirely.

Council should rehouse their tenants appropriately, in a neighbourhood of their choosing, within a reasonable period. Private landlords evict for profit, primarily, not public good.

70sShmeventies · 12/01/2023 18:02

Not if she doesn’t want to. It’s her home and she’s invested time and money and has many memories there. It’s not her fault that social housing is in such a sorry state. Yes I feel desperately sorry for families stuck in temp housing but my anger is aimed at the government. Shuffling existing tenants round sounds logical but it’s a sticking plaster.

CatA27 · 12/01/2023 18:03

No, the answer is because 1 son still lives at home and my daughter has only just moved out 🙄

Soothsayer1 · 12/01/2023 18:03

Terven · 12/01/2023 17:44

if she were to move she probably would have to move to a flat. There’s not enough smaller properties for the elderly that like a garden. Personally I would never want to live in a flat again so I understand them. We need smaller houses to free up the larger ones.

most of us would love a spacious house with a garden, there isnt the room for everyone to have that, personally I think I should have a castle with a moat, but I live in a small flat, clearly lots of people would shudder at the thought of having to sink to my level😕

skyeisthelimit · 12/01/2023 18:04

YANBU. Years ago in the village where I grew up, the residents were encouraged to move from the council houses into the 1 or 2 bed council bungalows, once they hit a certain age. This freed the houses up for new families to move in.

ArcheryAnnie · 12/01/2023 18:04

Just FYI, @MissWings , many British families aren't white.

MissWings · 12/01/2023 18:05

@Soothsayer1

Sorry yes I would shudder. I’ve lived in small flats for absolutely years. Have had some awful, awful neighbours and it’s not a peaceful existence. Really effected my mental health. Never want to return.

Hellybelly84 · 12/01/2023 18:06

AllThingsServeTheBeam · 12/01/2023 17:30

So she was just meant to say no to the 2 bed yes? She should just up sticks and fuck her life up because the government have fucked up? The guilt is not at my nans door mate.

I agree more social housing should be built (for those who have absolutely no other option) and better used to maximise the needs of the people living there i.e. A single person only needs a 1 bedroom property etc.

If you are living in a government owned property, you cannot expect the same as people who own their own home (like being overly picky about where you live). 30 seconds from relatives is not a reason to not move your Nan if she could be placed in a smaller property. Is there a reason she wouldn’t cope 10, 20, 30 minutes from you? Why would that ‘fuck her life up’?

If I was to use an example-if I went for an NHS operation, it would be poor use of resources to put me in a ward on my own (I know its the NHS, so probably lucky to get a bed right now!) and I would expect to be placed in a ward with other people (its a tax funded service so I wouldnt expect a room to myself). If I paid for a private hospital, I would be expecting a room to myself. There is a big difference in life between the services you privately pay for and those funded by the taxpayer and I dont see why council houses should be different to that. Its funded by those who pay tax (which does include ofcourse working council house tenants) so it needs to be used as efficiently as possible.

CatA27 · 12/01/2023 18:06

ArcheryAnnie · 12/01/2023 17:52

But - according to some of the arguments on this thread - you are still blocking a family with two or three kids from living in your family home. Why not buy a one-bedroom flat if you are single and your kids are grown up? Why prevent a family from buying a home big enough for them?

And the answer is presumably because you didn't want to live in a one-bedroom flat. And that's OK.

No, the answer is because 1 son still lives at home and my daughter has only just moved out 🙄

IsItThough · 12/01/2023 18:07

goldfinchfan · 12/01/2023 17:47

I am not happy that migrants get given council/Housing Assoc houses.

This takes away any fairness in the system as they always get to the top of the list, based on need.
That is if you come here seeking asylum you need help but if you are born here you have to sofa surf with family.

Also some migrants have more children and take up the larger properties.

@goldfinchfan you are wholly misinformed, the tabloids have clearly done a good job of misdirecting you. The issue is insufficient supply of decent affordable housing.

AllThingsServeTheBeam · 12/01/2023 18:07

skyeisthelimit · 12/01/2023 18:04

YANBU. Years ago in the village where I grew up, the residents were encouraged to move from the council houses into the 1 or 2 bed council bungalows, once they hit a certain age. This freed the houses up for new families to move in.

But now they've stopped making council bungalows and all the old stock are sold off. There are 8 next to me. 1 bed council bungalows. Well ex council. They're all private now. Along with all but 3 of the 3 bed houses.

Goldd · 12/01/2023 18:08

Shuffling existing tenants round sounds logical but it’s a sticking plaster.

On the one hand, agreed, it is a sticking plaster compared to what’s needed in terms of action from government.

On the other hand, even if one person who can comfortably afford to privately rent has a fit of conscience and gives up their three-bed council house, and one family crammed into a damp one bed flat gets to move into that house - that’s not a sticking plaster. For that family it’s life changing. Individual cases do matter, this is people’s lives.

Nospringchix · 12/01/2023 18:09

SandyY2K · 12/01/2023 11:17

Didn't they introduce bedroom tax some years ago... she would be paying for under occupancy under those rules.

Bedroom tax only applies to working age tenants who claim benefits.

Kabalagala · 12/01/2023 18:12

LakieLady · 12/01/2023 17:55

The discount is capped at c. £75k (more in London). Ex-council houses in part of the SE go for north of £300k, so the discount is max 25% or thereabouts and you'd still need a fair sized mortgage.

RTB has pretty much died a death here.

Still shouldn't happen though, and never should have happened.

Older tenancies (which will apply to many under occupiers) get a much greater discount. My FIL was offered his london flat for £91k last year...

MissWings · 12/01/2023 18:12

@Goldd

Youre missing the point. Why would anyone want to give up a secure tenancy for an insecure one and all the associated costs that that might involve? Youde have to be bloody stupid to do that. If you can afford private rent you can afford to buy. Some people manage that. The majority of people who were offered council housing in the first place were quite disadvantaged to begin with and it’s unlikely they’ll be able to afford private rent.

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