To keep correcting people about my name?

[marathonrunn]

My name is Amelia as in Ah-me-lee-a.

On a daily basis people pronounce is Ah-meal-ya.

It does my head in. This is people I've known for many years doing it too. It's not my name. When I correct certain friends they roll their eyes and can't understand why it matters. It matters because it's not my name. It is a constant occurrence in the workplace and I'm constantly correcting people.

Should I give up or continue correcting?

do "meh" as "me"tal or "me"s"me"rised

*i do

It's not an accent issue; it's a laziness issue.

It's also a lack of respect. The people who continue to pronounce your name the way you don't like are saying that your feelings don't matter and they can't be bothered to make a tiny bit of effort to pronounce your name in the way that you prefer.

The 2 pronunciations are very different. Fair enough to choose the "wrong" one the first time you meet someone, even to do it a few times for someone you don't see very often. But very rude to keep doing it.

Those posters are saying that it's no big deal and it wouldn't bother them are spectacularly missing the point. If it bothers the op then it matters.

I sometimes get called Mrs although I'm not married. I sometimes get called by my partner's surname. Neither of those bother me. But if they did bother me then I would expect people to listen and remember when I correct them.

I have a similar "-ia" name, and the same thing happens to me, although this is the first time I've really thought about it.
I would introduce myself using your pronunciation, but other people's pronunciation is usually down to the accent of the speaker. It's never bothered me in the slightest.

You could continue to correct people for that extremely small difference in pronunciation but don't be surprised if people start to avoid using your name or avoid you.

Yabu and a bit precious, it does sound more like an accent thing rather than ignorance. My name is traditionally Irish, you can only imagine the spelling and pronunciations I've had. I correct once and then move on, but it comes out differently when my northern grandparents say it to how my southern husband so unless it's completely incorrect (like Emilia) I would let it go

I could understand if, say, they were calling you Amalia or something, but the two versions you have presented sound pretty much exactly the same to me.

@cariadlet you got it. It's never an accent issue with Mark, Peter or Katie...
At least in my experience

Come the fuck back to your own thread @marathonrunn , in case some of us need to eat humble pie.

Is it A - MEH - LEE - A?

Sounds like you could do with someone who cares about you.

Why so nasty?

But it could be an accent issue with 'Pete-Ah' or 'Kate-Eh' but I highly doubt they were would be annoyed and correcting 'It's Pete - ER'

Is it just the length of the second e that's different? Some people say it longer and some shorter?

If it's not that, then I have no idea what the issue is.

Mark and Peter have to deal with rhotic vs non-rhotic accents. Would a West Country Mark or Peter be able to insist everyone pronounce the R? And Peter and Katie have to handle people using or not using glottal stops — not sure many people would adjust their pronunciation of Peter/Katie to include/not include a glottal stop because that's what Peter/Katie prefers.

The point is that you have asked them to say it properly and they haven't. They are clearly different pronunciations and I think it's just lazy and disrespectful to keep saying it wrongly when someone has clearly asked you not to. I'd tell them all again and again and again. It's bloody rude!

Get over yourself MiMi! 🙄

My first name is Katie and I can’t tell you how often it gets mispronounced and misspelled at work… incredible.

It sounds like an accent thing rather than mispronouncing your name.

If I said Amelia, it would be Am-Me-(lee-yuh) with the lee-yuh almost blended into one.

And Peter and Katie have to handle people using or not using glottal stops — not sure many people would adjust their pronunciation of Peter/Katie to include/not include a glottal stop because that's what Peter/Katie prefers.
This analogy sums it up to me.
Katie isn't going to go correcting all her friends that "it's kay-tee, with a t" because she doesn't like the glottal stop in her friends' accents.

Life is full of tiny irritations and in all honesty, this really isn't a hill worth dying on. Lots of people go through life with other slightly mispronouncing or misspelling their names - unless someone is doing it deliberately to make some sort of passive aggressive point or to be racist, then I'd try to chill a bit.

I feel your pain OP.
if you’ve told people your name, they should get it right.
It is lazy and insulting when people don’t care.

’oh your name is this? I am too lazy to say it right so I’m going to call you Nit.’

sigh

(Nit is just an example by the way, I am not suggesting that people are actually mispronouncing Amelia as Nit).

I get it’s annoying. I have a friend called Amelia and she has an American friend who pronounces it Ah-meal-ya, everyone else pronounces it the normal way. It seems quite sweet as a one-off but can imagine it would be annoying all the time.

It sounds pretty much the same, I would give up. It really shouldn’t be a thing.

I’m called Ruth and regularly get Roof or, from family who speak a language that doesn’t have the the “th” sound, Root. It doesn’t bother me in the slightest

I wonder if they're doing it on purpose now to wind you up, Or alternatively you have have hearing loss.

OP please can you clarify this? The spelling-out you gave meant that it's not clear to me which of these two possibilities you meant.