To keep correcting people about my name?

[marathonrunn]

My name is Amelia as in Ah-me-lee-a.

On a daily basis people pronounce is Ah-meal-ya.

It does my head in. This is people I've known for many years doing it too. It's not my name. When I correct certain friends they roll their eyes and can't understand why it matters. It matters because it's not my name. It is a constant occurrence in the workplace and I'm constantly correcting people.

Should I give up or continue correcting?

You pronounce Julia as Jool-ay-ah? How posh.

You are pronouncing Julia wrong.

It's Joo-lee-ah.

Oh dear 😂😂

This is the most middle class first world problem I've seen in a while. You can absolutely correct the way people say your name if you like, they'll just think you're a pompous tit (and they'd be right)

Go and spend your time on something worth caring about.

The girl in question pronounced is Jool-at-ah I was taking her pronunciation on board.

My name is Cabdiraxman. It's a Somali name. The "C" at the beginning of my name is pronounced as a hard "A" and the "X" is pronounced as a hard "H". It should be pronounced all together as "Abdirahman".

I used to work with a Christopher who just used to completely ignore you if you tried to call him Chris.

It worked.

There as I know people who completely ignore you if you don't call then by a shortened version of their name.

I'm in two minds about this one.

I much prefer your pronunciation, OP, and if it was my name I would be thoroughly fed up. I'd like to think I would say something. But my own name has a middle syllable that people often leave out (similar to pronouncing Margaret as Margret) and although I hate that, I never actually tell people to their faces not to call me that, I just have a moan about it afterwards to my nearest and dearest. I guess I'm afraid of people thinking I'm being unreasonable or fussy like half the people on here are saying.

Essentially yes. Differences in accent are not mispronunciations.

Essentially yes. Differences in accent are not mispronunciations.

They're not mispronunciations, but they are not the same pronunciations either.

The median a is almost a short i or an eh in several places where I've lived. Where I am now it would be a standard long a and no-one would consider the possibly that it could be anything else.
All are perfectly acceptable though..

I do get that OP finds it irritating though . In A-meel-ya, the L is almost swallowed. I think that's the big difference that I haven't seen anyone recognise. When I say it, my tongue didn't go anywhere near the roof of my mouth, so the L isn't really sounded at all. That presumably sounds quite ugly to OP. But it's an accent thing and not a deliberate mispronunciation.

With regard to the teacher at my school who refused to even try to pronounce her Pakistani children's names properly, I'm only too aware that even though I tried very hard to do so, I wouldn't have pronounced then exactly as their parents did. The differences in our languages and or learned intonation prevented that.

I can hear the just perceptible difference between A-mee-lee-a and A-meal-ya, but it’s the difference between saying it at normal speed (the latter), and enunciating it overly slowly (the former).

You can continue to correct people, but there will be a lot of internal eye-rolling going your way.

I think that a different pronunciation, which very likely could be to do with accent (people learn accent to early, and it is quite presumptuous to tell someone that the way they say a word is wrong), is different to using a diminutive form when someone has introduced themselves, and always refers to themselves, with the full version. I think the latter is rude. Not intentionally, I’m sure - but it is thoughtless and tone deaf.

My DH has a traditional name with a common abbreviation - think Robert and Bob - but is always known as Robert, by those who pay attention. We met at work, and while most people referred to him as Robert, a few said Bob. So when things started happening between us, I asked him if he was Robert or Bob. He said “I’m Robert”, so Robert he is to me.

My name is Barbara. It can be pronounced either Bar-buruh or Bar-bruh, and to be honest I use both depending on how quickly I’m speaking. But do not SPELL it Barbra, because that’s not my name, and don’t call me Babs, Barb, or any other diminutive.

It's like insisting everyone around you has to say "I am" instead of "I'm", "you are" instead of "you're", etc

You are absolutely right to correct them and do it every time. It's your name not their interpretation of your name. I also admire people who have the chutzpah to correct others. My name is frequently changed by others and it drives me crackers but I can be terribly British and don't correct them until it's too late.

I once spent a week where my builder thought I was called Helen. It wasn't until my mum (who is coincidentally called Helen) came round and asked him why he was calling me Helen 😂. I felt so awkward having to fess up that he'd been wrong all week but it had been too late to let him know!!

I've had a lifetime of this, both spelling and pronunciation of mine. I gave up correcting people when I finally accepted that most won't change their pronunciation. I do correct the spelling though, as that's the important part, I think.

Jesus, some people really are clenched.

I have a forrin' name that often gets exchanged for the English equivalent. Something like being called Katy instead of Katya. I really, truly don't give a hoot. I've never corrected anyone (apart from the officials on the divorce papers 😁)

Stop being an arse!