FiL is 84 and over the last year his health has become increasingly fragile. He lives alone and independently still, at the moment. But he could need to be put into a home or hospital - or heaven forbid could die - at any time. It's been a tough year for all the family as he is much loved.
FiL has an 8 yo dog, a medium-ish sized rescue (20kg?). He's a nice dog, what I've seen of him. Barks for extended periods during the day and doesn't get walked anything like often or far or fast enough. I don't see FiL often as we live a long distance away. So I don't know much about the dog or its behaviour.
Dh & I & our 3 teenaged dc have a small dog. And because of that, the wider family (dh has 4 siblings) are looking at us and looking at FiL's dog - and I know what's coming.
I do not want this dog. We live in a large upstairs flat in a block. I love taking our ddog for walks. Love having a dog. But one is enough. Ours is half the size of FiL's and trained to be a good neighbour (critical in a flat). It's a lot more mess and hassle and noise, and our dog does not get on well with FiL's dog.
DH also does not want the dog. But DH will melt like butter. He is a mad animal lover and we all know what rehoming might be like for an 8 year old dog that barks indoors. Dh will stand firm if I do.
No one else in the family will take the dog. No one else owns one currently.
So... am I being unreasonable to refuse straight up to take this dog?
I really don't want another dog.
YANBU Refuse the dog
YABU Take the poor thing