DP and I (both aged 30) have been in a relationship for two years and living together for 18 months. DP has made it clear that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me, yet when speaking about our future and plans over the next couple of years, marriage is never mentioned. I asked him directly about this a few months ago and his response was that he would like us to get married “sometime in the future” when the time is right and the topic was quickly changed.
I have a number of friends around my age in relationships of a similar duration to mine, and many of those couples are either engaged or have at least spoken in quite a bit of detail about their timescales for will marriage and have even discussed wedding plans. AIBU in being a bit concerned at this stage of our relationship that the same isn’t happening here?
FYI I don’t know for sure whether or not I want to have children (I have known fertility issues, so TTC would be long and stressful), but before even considering that, I’d want us to be married, which does in some way make me feel as though time is running out.