To stop breastfeeding cold turkey

[Newmama93]

Hi mums,

I still bf my 21.5 month old, he wakes me up 15/20 times a night to feed, screaming for hours on end if I say no, I give in and feed. I’m tired, I have stopped ovulating due to the constant night feeds and want another baby.

my husband was doing nights and my son slept so good, only feeding in the morning. He got sick and reverted straight back to wanting me all night and is feeding 5 times in the day, all naps, whenever he gets hurt or tired. I can’t do it anymore, it takes me an hour and a half to get him to sleep at he swaps sides and sucks and sucks then lays down then sits back up and sucks again.

my husband is off work and I ha e said I’m going to stay at my mums and get him to put DS to bed, my DH said I need to totally wean in the day as well or this won’t work and he’ll revert back soon (km going away with DS in 2 weeks where it’ll just be me ahh help)

some people are saying this is cruel to my son and I should wean slower at his pace,
but I’ve tried, it doesn’t work, he cries for hours until I give in. I’m tired, help

Not only that, but I actually found having two easier than having just one. And there was only 13 months between them. It’s actually our fourth child who is the one who is testing, despite all the older children being teenagers! So ignore that nasty piece of work who clearly has no idea what they’re speaking about, just here to be spiteful. Sad.

By the way, you’re stronger than me. I caved and fed her - combination of a shitty week for me (ill parent abroad) and boobs were painful and she was being really sad. But this morning we’ve spoken about how she is 3 now and there are little babies who need milk magic. We’re going to pick a toy today too as a celebration, I loved the idea of a cuddly toy that someone shared on here, then when she asks for milk, I can remind her to cuddle her new toy.

Take 2, here we go!

I caved tooooo! Now we do a feed or two in the day but very clear that there is no milk at night. I’m happy with this for now, it’s sooo much less than before and after one night of hysterical hellish crying he knows we mean business and is listening well. When he’s done feeding in the day I say that’s it you’ve drunk all the milk for today and it’s gone now. And he’s been getting cheeky milkshakes instead because he’s a big kid haha