AMA- I was a spoiled brat

[amabrat]

hi! This AMA may be crap so apologies in advance if it fails 😂

Ive heard people talking on here about people and children being spoiled brats etc. I was a spoiled brat when I was younger. I got what I wanted and it reflected in the way I was as a person and not always in a good way.

just thought I would do an AMA about it- as I said, apologies if it fails but just thought I’d give it a go☺️

It was a bit of both- they were brought up with money and they earned it through their jobs😊 (related to finance)

I know, it’s awful. It’s my deepest secret because I’m so ashamed of it! I’m saving it for when I have children and they make a bad mistake and get upset and I can tell them so they realise we all do silly things when we are young. Haha. I was primary age- maybe 10 or so.

Yeah I knew some families were suffering and going through terrible times and when I thought about it I felt empathy and so sad about it, but I had a good happy life and that’s all I really thought about to be honest so I just didn’t really think about the fact other people were sad. I suppose it’s like seeing Oxfam adverts, you momentarily think how sad it is and then seconds later go back to your phone or eating dinner or whatever you were doing. Or walking past a homeless person in the street and feeling sad for them in the moment, but walking past and not thinking about them anymore. The idea of other people suffering always made me sad, even as a child, but I suppose i didn’t realise it was actually real and wasn’t just a tv advert or program or movie.

I want my children to realise people are suffering and have awful lives and to be grateful, but I don’t want to use other peoples misery as teaching examples either IYSIM. I despise people, many of whom I know, who go to do gap years in developing countries and use other peoples suffering as a way to learn or develop. It’s not the poor peoples job to teach the rich people. Sorry I’m ranting now! Hope that all makes sense though

Thank you very much! That’s so kind of you to say 😊

Have your siblings now got a similar perspective to you, or are they different? Did they keep that attitude about benefits etc? Did they take money from your parents for bigger things like cats and house deposits (one of your previous posts suggested you did not?)

Hi OP, this is such an interesting thread :). You've obviously changed your perspective in life, what do your family think? Are you judged for having less affluent friends nowadays? Do they volunteer too?

This is a hilarious read.

Bit like the shopaholic series where you know what's right but just can't help yourself (with regards buying stuff).

Fwiw though you don't sound spoilt to me - you actually sound extremely emotionally intelligent with good self reflection.

I love your honesty.

Was giggling away to the childline card. I remember a stage where that was always the threat to parents because we had it summed into us at school to use them if we needed.

This was the 90's 🤣

We were not rich but I was absolutely spoiled too, I never did any chores or anything at all to contribute. My parents wouldn’t let me and gave me everything I asked for and never took a penny.
I hadn’t even a clue how to fill up my car with petrol as my dad always did that for me. I never learned how to budget or save or pay a bill anything practical like cleaning. Your parents sound very similar.

my question is , are you grateful about not finding out how hard life can be until you were an adult??

i certainly am and look back at that time like a beautiful happy world, similar to the one before I knew headlice existed at age 38.
It was heaven on earth.