To think I’m being used?

[Charlie554]

Looking for MN wisdom advice. Background first. 30 years had a relationship with John. Serious but ended amicably. Both moved on and married. Reconnected about 10 years ago. I was by then divorced. Kept in touch via FB . He now lives in Canada. We have loads of common. Twelve months ago he separated. Moved out. Beginning December tells me he’s coming to visit brother who’s not well and what am I doing for NY. as it happened I am staying at sisters farm looking after her horses in Cumbria. She said it was ok for him to stay which he did. Left today to travel to family in Carlisle. We talked loads . Went out for dinner. Walks on the coast. Nothing from him to suggest he wants to be anything other than friends. But he messages me every day just about. Sometimes more than once a day. I did ask him why he wanted to spend NY with me. Said thought it would be nice to see me. We’re both 55. I just feel I’m being some sort of emotional support. And yes - I was hoping it might lead to us rekindling the relationship . AIBU to think he’s behaving a bit weird?

Will you see him again before he returns to Canada? If not, then the chance to move the relationship on has gone anyway.
If you'll see him again before he goes see what happens but don't take the initiative as he seems to know you want more.
If you do feel he def wants to reconcile with his ex then just put up some boundaries or you'll be rebound/2nd fiddle. He might be trying to keep you on the back burner and you're worth more than that.

He’s only here for a holiday- he has no intention of leaving canada

He’s not divorced- separated. He did jump into another relationship immediately after separating. He wants to remain in Canada with the life he’s made there - with a whole host of friends and colleagues - which is why I find it strange that I get so many messages. And why he would want to spend NY with me. As I have said - maybe he thought he was doing a good thing by spending it with me so I wasn’t on my own. That’s fine - possibly I have read too much into it.

Unlikely to see him again before he returns.

Update. Got message. Yesterday he Invited me to a rugby game on Saturday- one of his friends sons is playing. I said yes - great.
today a message saying he’d call to arrange ticket collection and could he crash in my spare room . I live 30 mins from Mcr airport. Again just this feeling the invite was then to wrangle the stay to avoid getting a hotel.