Me and ex split some time ago. When I was applying to a new job I realised I had left some documents at her place and needed them back in order to have proof of ID. I sent her a civilised message asking if she could post the things back to me, and I would reimburse her for the delivery and packaging costs. She agreed, but said she didn’t want to be reimbursed. I said I’d feel more comfortable if I covered the costs. I sent her a few things back in the post too, and a birthday card and some small gifts.
She sent them, but didn’t tell me when she sent them (which is fine, she doesn’t have to), and she ending up sending them to my old address. My ex flatmate got a card through the door saying “sorry we missed you” and it was sent back to the sorting office. Ex flatmate said she would pick it up for me as I was working early morning shifts and would miss the opening times of the sorting office, and she lived down the road from there.
Ex flatmate said she had “forgotten” and when I rang the office they said they only keep the parcels for so long and then discard, so mine had been discarded.
I felt terrible that I hadn’t picked it up after my ex went to the trouble of posting it. I sent a massive apology message to my ex, thanked her again for sending them and said I would sort it out.
She didn’t speak to me for a month and has now sent me messages calling me self-centred, manipulative, and that I have humiliated her and wasted her time. I apologised again, thanked her again, but she said I have made a fool of her.
AIBU!