To want to combat my laziness?

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I’ve become so lazy, literally sat on my arse all day when I’m not at work (very part time). I just can’t be bothered to do anything. I’ve been like this for a few years now. I spend hours scrolling social media and playing computer games. I often don’t leave the house for days. What is wrong with me?!

Im only 41, I shouldn’t be this lethargic surely? I look forward to bedtime every night.

A few years ago I was at the gym 4 times a week, out and about, going on holidays etc, I just can’t be bothered anymore. I can’t even be bothered to go on holiday! Anyone else like this?

I'm 36 and exactly the same, feel ashamed of how little I have a achieved this week and it's not fair on DD. I'm not being a good role model but i have no energy or motivation

definitely! I've also found my energy levels have dropped massively after having covid, it's been 4 months now since I contracted it and I feel like I've aged 10 years in that time. My energy levels have always been low tbh but they've definitely got worse lately.

I was going to do so much over the week between Xmas and New year in the house. Dh working and teenage DC in room alot but I have been so lazy. Done basic tidying and met a friend for a coffee and went to nandos with DC in the city but rest of the time just watched tv and had afternoon sleeps. Back to work tomorrow . I need to up my game. Even if a10 min workout on you tube.

In my case it's complete burn out not laziness. I don't know what the answer is just wanted to offer some empathy

What's your diet like? I was like this when I ate "beige". A week or so of eating colourful whole foods and I was like a different person.

I feel the same and I'm only 32. I've inevitably gained weight as a result of this.

Pre-covid I felt so good. Active social life, gym membership, studying at uni.

During lockdown I really enjoyed just being at home with the kids and not forcing socialising etc, I think I'm struggling to leave that mindset now. (I'm also 32w pregnant, but this has been an issue for a while)..

I know if I pushed myself I'd feel better and have more energy. But I really struggle.

I love this! Even just 1 drawer and 1 push up. I'm going to try and remember this.

Yep. This resonates with me. I noticed the less I do, the worse it gets.

I make sense of it through the theory of learned helplessness. Chronic stressors - (long) Covid, bereavement and complicated grief, work stress and numerous other troubles - precipitated my pattern of thinking and behaviour. I am finding it difficult to change as habits have set in. What helps a bit is reminding myself that I have, and constantly make, choices, and setting tiny and achievable new habits. Also writing lists, lots of lists... 😄

I'm exactly the same. I feel covid and lockdowns had a big impact, before that I used to go out with friends, read a lot in my spare time, take the children out to do something fun every weekend. Lockdown was terrible for me, stuck with an emotionaly abusive husband and my marriage thankfully came to a head and I asked him to leave. I'm now a full time single Mum to 3 kids, dealing with their emotions, helping with homework, work, college & the stress of a divorce has led to me being so lazy in my spare time. Hours spent scrolling on my phone, very few outings with the kids, my house is an absolute mess, I don't think I have read a book since before the first lockdown, I have zero energy and have put on 3 since. I just can't seem to get out of this rut

I loved Team RH but 4 years of marching on the spot has absolutely fucked my knees & I'm absolutely sick to the back teeth of every single walkable inch of my surrounding area 😂

Sounds like me. Pre-Covid, I was very active, went to gym a few times a week and cycled/ran. Then when gyms closed, I lost motivation and never really found it again. I've been going to the gym somewhat sporadically for the past year, but I haven't got into it properly again and it feels as though I'm getting nowhere - just getting lazier and fatter.

I agree that Covid/lockdowns has had a big impact on the forming of some questionable habits for most people.

I could very happily stay in the house for weeks on end. I've seen incredibly kind, humble people I loved become wrecked by alcohol & now be utterly awful, cruel, unrecognisable strangers. Pretty much everyone I know is fatter and more obsessed with boxsets. Everyone seems so angry & intolerant.

It's really good that you've noticed this tendency in yourself, OP. Now you've identified it, you can implement steps to change it.

I really hope you succeed and that I can do the same!

You'd do well to ignore the bad reviews.

There are a literal team of rivals out to destroy the company. They used to be a part of Team RH but left to set up a (VERY similar!) service. There is ongoing legal trouble between the two.

What Team RH do well is support and NO BULLSHIT advice.

If you're the sort to get your head down and crack on, it's fab. If you're the kind who faffs about, not doing a plan properly then blaming it for poor results, it's NOT for you! The boss will tell you straight if you're being a lazy arse, literally, and THAT is what some people can't take!

I personally love Richie. He can call me a lazy twat any day of the week- cus he'd be right!

I've installed an app on my phone that limits the time I can spend. Only been a few days but it's working and I've bee more productive - I enjoy SM but it's too much of a good thing, recently I was spending hours just scrolling. I've got things done, and been more present with family, its also made me more selective about what I browse if I only have 30 mins on an app.

My New Years mantra to try and combat the procrastination

And even after a decent start, i'm sitting here at 5.30 on a mess with no sign of being ready for tomorrow.

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Might be the winter. It's hard to be motivated when it's cold.

I feel similar. I used to love going for walks but since the Covid lockdowns when I seemed to just walk around my local area in circles I’ve started to dislike walking for the sake of it. It’s not that alone but it doesn’t help.
I’m starting 2023 with plans to get moving more and sort out my diet but I’ve been here before..

I wonder if it's worth getting your Vit D levels checked? I had a blood test after feeling like this for a while / falling asleep a lot and it turned out my Vit D was at "nursing home level", as the GP put it! I was given replenishment doses and saw a huge increase in energy, activity and mood.

Well, if it makes anyone feel better, I managed some tidying after my last post at what, 5.30. It's so easy to get late in the day and write it off...well, it is for me anyway. But the place looks okay now.

and, after my 15 mins exercise, I did about the same in stretching exercises.

tomorrow, I have weights on the to do list. I used to love weights, used to love the gym full stop.

Thanks for the tip re the Johann Hari book, I’m going to buy it with my Xmas voucher.

I am also in a slump. Been on anti-depressants for about 9 months, was doing well on them but feel back to square one. Not sure how much of it is down to the winter, too much booze, small kids etc. I’m going to start small and see if I can my groove back.

Found my people!

Any free time i have not dealing with the baby i just want to lie in bed watching crap tv or looking at my phone.

We can finally afford a holiday abroad after 4 years, but i can't even be bothered to look/book one, and i LOVE holidays!

Before covid i was at the gym 2/3 times a week, now i can never bring myself to even do pilates in my living room once a week.

As one of my more productive friends says "the problem with the internet is that it's there". True.

you will see me on here a lot less often! I can lose a whole evening on MN.