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Original poster

To have shouted at DH for laughing?

58 replies

OffredsNose · 01/01/2023 15:20

We’ve had our lovely dog for 4 years. She’s never been destructive, even as a puppy she never chewed or damaged anything and she’s had the full run of the house since she was 8 months old.

Just lately she’s become obsessed with my shoes. Only mine, nobody else’s. She constantly steals them, throws them around and hides them. She isn’t chewing them.

It’s been going on for about a month now. I’m finding my shoes on the sofa, in her bed, behind the chair etc.

Christmas day my son bought me some lovely new slippers. By Boxing Day one of them was missing. I was so stressed out trying to find it and DH was just laughing. Eventually found it under behind the sofa.

This morning I was getting ready for work and couldn’t find one of my work shoes. Searched high and low, couldn’t find it anywhere. Asked DH to help me, he was just laughing whilst half heartedly looking for it. Eventually found it in the garden, wet through, totally ruined. DH was in hysterics, I had to go to work in trainers (I’m a nurse). I ended up shouting at him to stop fucking laughing! AIBU to have snapped? He wouldn’t find it funny if it was his shit going missing and getting wrecked.

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Ihatethenewlook · 01/01/2023 15:23

Sorry op, but I’d probably find this funny too. He was laughing at the ridiculous situation, not at you. Why on earth are you continuing to constantly leave your shoes around for the dog to get them? Put them away in a cupboard or something.

bridgetreilly · 01/01/2023 15:24

Honestly, yes. It sounds as though you are stressed/tired/on edge about something else and the shoes are just the provoking issue. I can see why your DH is finding it funny.

TouchBlack · 01/01/2023 15:26

I'd have laughed to - not at you and not at the fact the shoe was ruined but just the dogs antics. I think you need to apologise to your DH.

I had a dog that would collect my shoes! I ended up just leaving 3 pair of old trainers within reach of the dog, she would collect and re-position those, and my actual wearable shoes I kept out of her reach.

Thelnebriati · 01/01/2023 15:26

I can't imagine still finding a situation funny if the other person is really stressed by it..

Nimbostratus100 · 01/01/2023 15:28

I think you need to put your shoes somewhere safe

Gwdihooooo · 01/01/2023 15:28

Sorry I agree with other posters. It’s annoying but funny. I’d have prob snapped too at the frustration of it all… esp if it’s making me late! I can’t cope with being late.

My mum makes us all put our shoes in a cupboard when we go to her house and warns us that it’s our own fault if we leave them out and the dog chewed them… even the gc know not to leave them out

Keyansier · 01/01/2023 15:28

I would have burst out laughing at this. Agree with the other posters, not laughing at you but just the situation, I can imagine you clomping around, pissed off, with one shoe on 😂

ShakespearesBlister · 01/01/2023 15:28

The real question is why is it that you know this is a specific issue with the dog, but you still leave them where the dog can access them? This is really so simple to resolve. Just shut them in a cupboard or get a shoe rack the dog can't access. Problem solved.

Abigail69 · 01/01/2023 15:28

You shouting was wrong but DH is wrong for lol when he knew you were upset.

So you are both wrong.

Newusernameaug · 01/01/2023 15:29

YABU, it is funny, I laughed as I read your op 🤷🏽‍♀️

MissyB1 · 01/01/2023 15:30

It’s not funny and he wouldn’t be laughing if it was happening to him. You had to get to work and your work shoes were gone, you do a vital and very stressful job. What was so amusing about that situation to your Dh?
Hide all his shoes then stand and laugh as he searches for them.

Thelnebriati · 01/01/2023 15:30

Hide your shoes and give your Ddog something with your scent on it. Its interesting she's picked your shoes.

Notimeforaname · 01/01/2023 15:31

I'm sorry op. I'd be laughing too if the dog suddenly started stealing my partner's shoes. I dont know why but I was laughing as I read your post.

Alvinne · 01/01/2023 15:32

I don't get why anyone would find this funny, sounds annoying as fuck. Especially the work shoes. Could you get a dog proof box or keep them in a cupboard OP?

Original poster
OffredsNose · 01/01/2023 15:32

Force of habit, it’s been 4 years of leaving stuff out as we know the dog doesn’t interfere with stuff. I’ve started putting them away when I remember but as I said, force of habit otherwise!

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Spectre8 · 01/01/2023 15:33

Yabu. Its been going on for a month and you still leave your shoes in a place where the dog can get them! That's on you.

I'd have been laughing about the whole thing to be honest. Lighten up and go put your shoes out of reach

sunlovingcriminal · 01/01/2023 15:34

I wouldn't have been happy with someone else laughing at my misfortune, and if they were a pair of shoes that my dp really liked I couldn't imagine laughing at him trying to find them, and laughing when he discovered a shoe was ruined. Seems a bit of an odd thing to laugh at.

luckylavender · 01/01/2023 15:34

Alvinne · 01/01/2023 15:32

I don't get why anyone would find this funny, sounds annoying as fuck. Especially the work shoes. Could you get a dog proof box or keep them in a cupboard OP?

This. Why the hell are people laughing on this thread? Weird.

Mybonnielad · 01/01/2023 15:36

MissyB1 · 01/01/2023 15:30

It’s not funny and he wouldn’t be laughing if it was happening to him. You had to get to work and your work shoes were gone, you do a vital and very stressful job. What was so amusing about that situation to your Dh?
Hide all his shoes then stand and laugh as he searches for them.

What a vindictive thing to say.

Frabbits · 01/01/2023 15:37

Laughing at someone who is clearly stressed and not finding a situation funny is a completely dick move.

largeprintagathachristie · 01/01/2023 15:39

Yes, I can see why your DH got tipped over the edge and laughed. It wouldn’t have been at you. At the dog and the situation and the fact it’s always your shoes.

You say it’s been going on a month. (This is also why it’s funny.) After the first time, why on earth didn’t you put your shoes somewhere the dog couldn’t get them?

PortableVirgins · 01/01/2023 15:40

MissyB1 · 01/01/2023 15:30

It’s not funny and he wouldn’t be laughing if it was happening to him. You had to get to work and your work shoes were gone, you do a vital and very stressful job. What was so amusing about that situation to your Dh?
Hide all his shoes then stand and laugh as he searches for them.

This. As a pp said, I can't imagine finding this situation hilarious if my spouse was very stressed by it, especially when trying to get out the door to work, and especially in a job with shifts spent on your feet where the right shoes are NB. Something that might be mildly amusing on TV isn't funny when it causes stress to a real person.

Aquamarine1029 · 01/01/2023 15:41

Given this has been going on for months, your "force of habit" excuse really doesn't cut it. Put your shoes away, problem gone.

canihaveawineyet · 01/01/2023 15:42

Wtf I can't for the life of me understand why anyone would agree that this is funny. My dog also steals things and it is the most infuriating thing. Your DH is a nob!

Theunamedcat · 01/01/2023 15:44

Throw one of his shoes out in the rain to get ruined?

Incidentally hows your health? Dogs have amazing sense of smell and feet are sweaty any chance she is picking something up?

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