Always asking others for present "ideas"

[EndlessRain1]

I kind of get it for children - especially ones you don't make an effort to see know very well - who may have a particular interest etc, but otherwise these isn't the practice of asking others for "ideas" (i.e. asking them to choose) pretty annoying? It's difficult thinking of ideas for presents for people sure, but thats half the job, and I am finding it so irritating to be expected to carry the mental load of doing this particular part of present given for my entire family every time Christmas or a birthday comes around.

(My post is triggered by the annual texts from DH's family members 3 days before his birthday asking what they should get him. I struggle enough thinking of something to give him myself, don't put it on me to choose what you give him too)

This, essentially. Also agree it seems a bit transactional to - in effect - place a present order through someone else for DH.

Also agree about it being perceived wife's work. For ages my ILs would text me about upcoming birthdays in the family, present suggestions for other family members, in the end I just told them to talk to DH.

Anyway, I have suggested vouchers. Next year I will be braver and say "no idea, surprise him".

As an aside it's odd how people on MN quicky assume someone is "worked up" when they express even a slight bit of irritation😂Noone is worked up here thanks!