To have expected a card?

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DP and I got engaged just before Christmas and told all close family and friends.

We have seen both sets of parents, all siblings and closest friends and nobody has given us a congratulations card.

DP said I ABU to expect anything, particularly at this time of year but I thought at least one person might have sent a card since the majority have been in a shop since we told them - I absolutely do not expect any gifts, just a nice card to acknowledge a milestone.

I always send cards even for new job/new home etc so maybe my expectations are too high.

Obvious answer but RM strikes and Christmas bank holidays are surely worth considering before jumping to conclusions?

I don’t think I’ve ever sent anyone a congratulations card for anything. Is it a thing?

I have never sent anyone an engagement card. Not ever. I didn't even know it was a thing. I'm assuming people said congratulations? That is 'acknowledging a milestone'. No one needs to spend a fiver and waste a load of paper sending a card to say exactly the same thing.

I wouldn't have sent a card for an engagement. I'd honky send a wedding congrats card if I was unable to attend a wedding having been invited.

I had no idea that was a thing. Presumably they said congratulations when told?

Is it even a thing?

Never ever heard of a congratulations on engagement card. Literally never.

And I'm one who does cards for houses, weddings, babies, jobs etc.

But would never ever occur to do an engagement card

Thanks for the replies, they are really helpful!

Do people even send 'engagement cards' now? I'm in my 60s and I've never sent one, so I expect younger people don't.

Op my parents didn't get us a card for our wedding day, I was a bit upset because all my husband's family made an effort as did my extended family. My parents also got a card for my sister when she got married. I did eventually mention to my mum when she came round and saw all our other cards but she was still pretty oblivious. Some people just don't think it's important

If you had an engagement party, and I was invited, I’d bring a pressie and card. Otherwise no, I wouldn’t send one.

I send cards for everything, including engagements, and come from a family who do the same, but clearly to lots of people that’s not a thing so I would try not to take it personally!

Never sent one, saying it in person is so much more meaningful. Or a text is as good as a card.

I'd have sent one definitely

It is a thing! I’m surprised some people haven’t heard of them, they’ve been sold in card shops for donkey’s years. My partner sent an engagement card to his friend’s son the other week. I wouldn’t have bothered myself, but he signed both our names on the card. I think it’s probably becoming less common these days generally though.

I would send one but you've got to take strikes into account.

We had very few Christmas (or wedding congratulations) cards in December.

I expect some will trickle through this month. (Or maybe not!)

The only engagement cards we've ever given has been when people had an engagement party. We got some engagement cards but they were from older more distant family members many of whom I'd never met at the time.

I would buy one and take it to an engagement party but it wouldn't cross my mind to send one otherwise.

Is it really a thing these days?

We barely bother with birthday cards. Prefer to spend the £ on a gift rather than on a piece of card which will be thrown away

Haha nope. Never you are being a bit precious

To be honest it wouldn't occur to me to send a card to someone on their engagement, but this has made me think that maybe I should do in future.

Don't think I've ever sent anyone an engagement card.

What is it with British people and cards..nowhere else that I know of is it such a thing. 😂

I never send cards for anything, waste of money.

Did people actually tell you/text you congratulations? Surely that is sufficient.

I got cards for my wedding, but I don't remember getting any engagement cards. Possibly one from DH's aunt.