To have expected a card?

[Tuttifrutti25]

DP and I got engaged just before Christmas and told all close family and friends.

We have seen both sets of parents, all siblings and closest friends and nobody has given us a congratulations card.

DP said I ABU to expect anything, particularly at this time of year but I thought at least one person might have sent a card since the majority have been in a shop since we told them - I absolutely do not expect any gifts, just a nice card to acknowledge a milestone.

I always send cards even for new job/new home etc so maybe my expectations are too high.

I always send cards to congratulate friends on engagements, and I can't believe the number of people responding who wouldn't! We received approx 6 cards when we got engaged I think.

I assume that you're getting engaged you're reasonably young (for context, I'm in my 60s). Younger people seem much less likely to send cards than my generation and I don't think I've ever sent an engagement card.

As others have said, I would bring one, along with a present, to a party if you were having one.

I don't think people send cards like that now, but I'm sure it doesn't reflect on how pleased they are. Try not to take it personally. Congratulations on your engagement

Yes I send cards when friends get engaged. I also received lots when I got engaged so they are definitely a thing! Sold in all card shops so I don't see why this is a surprising concept to some posters.

I think I’ve come to the conclusion that maybe I send too many cards!

thanks for all the replies, very very helpful

It's a bit like Christmas cards - going out of fashion because there are so many more much easier ways to say congratulations either just verbally or via social media/private messages

Also if its just happened before Xmas most folk are just doing their best to get through this period without added stress of traipsing to busy Xmas filled shops to buy a card. Even online card purchases aren't necessarily any quicker due to strikes.

Also so many people hate hate writing cards they are glad to see the back of the tradition.
This weird expectation of cards for everything is an odd tradition I'm glad to see the back of , it's usually always only ever the women who have to do them as well - another reason to get rid of the tradition.

There are some people who like to do it & that's their love language which is fine but I suspect most people hate writing cards

I think I've only sent a sibling and a couple of friends engagement cards. I was surprised by how many we got when we got engaged as it's not something which is a must send thing to me.