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Was I unreasonable to accept this refund?

75 replies

tiredmama23 · 01/01/2023 10:32

Yesterday evening DH and I got a takeaway from our local Indian takeaway. I ordered it online for 7.30pm delivery. When it arrived, there were two items missing - one was a starter and the other a portion of rice (mine). I couldn't share DH's rice as he had mushroom pilau which I don't like, mine was plain pilau.

I called the takeaway and explained. They said the driver wouldn't have time to come back with another portion of rice until at least an hour's time, by which time my half of the curry would be cold (DH and I were sharing a curry). He said this was the best he could do given how busy they were. He wasn't particularly apologetic tbh and just said "we're busy it's human error, it happens".

So I was like fine, but can you at least offer to refund us the items we are missing since we aren't able to eat them but we've paid for them? (Around £4.50 total). He said defensively (and I'm not sure if he misheard me): "I can't refund the whole bill, I'll be out of pocket!!" I said, "no, I didn't say the entire bill, but we are missing items that we've paid for...?" He then said I'll tell you what I'll do, I'll refund £10 back to you as a good will gesture (the total bill was £22). I said that's lovely, thank you very much.

I then had a disappointing tea of oven chips with my curry!

Anyway... relayed this story to my friend this morning and she said I can't believe you took a tenner back off them! I said what do you mean, he offered, I just accepted 🤷‍♀️ She said if it were here she would have just said "no need for that, just refund me the cost of the missing items please". She said I've now swindled them out of £5.50, even though the takeaway owner offered me that money for the inconvenience.

Was I unreasonable to accept the £10 refund?

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IDontCareMatthew · 01/01/2023 10:33

I can't believe you waited around for oven chips to cook!

Namechangehereandnow · 01/01/2023 10:34

I’d have accepted the £10. It’s not just about the missing items - your meal was ruined.

TeaAndBrie · 01/01/2023 10:35

If he offered you £10 then why not take it!
I would be surprised if a starter and portion of rice only came to £4.50 anyway.
I hope what you did have was yummy :)

tiredmama23 · 01/01/2023 10:36

IDontCareMatthew · 01/01/2023 10:33

I can't believe you waited around for oven chips to cook!

I had nothing else to eat with the curry! I just ate some of the onion bhajis til they were cooked. Quicker than waiting an hour for more rice!

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FearEtc · 01/01/2023 10:36

Yanbu

Alexandernevermind · 01/01/2023 10:38

Of course you weren't unreasonable to a accept the refund. How can you say oven chip and curry is disappointing though! 😉

Naddd · 01/01/2023 10:38

Not unreasonable at all. Whilst yes mistakes happen they still have to be pur right and often a little extra is offered for inconvenience. They offered and you accepted. From what i've heard about the mark up on food they weren't out of pocket at all.

I don't get why your friend was so riled tbh even if it were a loss 5. 50 is hardly going to bankrupt them

ReformedWaywardTeen · 01/01/2023 10:39

I would have accepted it, I hate when take aways do this, how hard is it to read an order and package accordingly. And as for hour to come back to you, what a load of rubbish, it could've been put on the back of a bike with another nearby order.

Trust me, £10 refund is better for them than a poor online review.

ShutUpBaggyTits · 01/01/2023 10:40

Based on what he said, most piss takers people ask for the whole thing refunded when items are missing so he was probably pleased you accepted the tenner.

Don't worry about it.

Ragwort · 01/01/2023 10:43

I think it's fine to accept the refund ... but can't believe it's even a topic of conversation between you and your friend? didn't you have any rice to cook at home?

Sweetmotherofallthatisholyabov · 01/01/2023 10:43

This reminds me of a thread during lockdown when someone collected at a restaurant and her mains and possibly a starter was missing and everyone thought she was so unreasonable for wanting a full refund. But she had ordered (I assume) a really nice meal and between all the bits she got it was a complete waste. And everyone thought she was being unreasonable. It's no use if you don't have a proper meal to eat. I don't think you're being unreasonable.

Bananarama21 · 01/01/2023 10:43

You were given half a meal so I think it was only right to get the partial refund.

poefaced · 01/01/2023 10:46

Your friend needs to wind her neck in.

Judgyjudgy · 01/01/2023 10:49

I think it's ok as your meal was ruined

LlynTegid · 01/01/2023 10:50

Seems reasonable, especially at this time of year.

Figgypuddingpiggyfudding · 01/01/2023 10:53

In the nicest possible way, this seems like a non issue to worry about! It's up to the takeaway to offer you what they feel is acceptable and up to you to accept it or not.

I am also with a previous poster, not sure I would be relaying all this in such detail to a friend before 10.30am on NY day! 😄

tiredmama23 · 01/01/2023 10:53

Alexandernevermind · 01/01/2023 10:38

Of course you weren't unreasonable to a accept the refund. How can you say oven chip and curry is disappointing though! 😉

I was just so looking forward to rice! 😩 haven't had a good curry in ages. Also by time my chips cooked the curry was lukewarm at best 😞

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tiredmama23 · 01/01/2023 10:54

Ragwort · 01/01/2023 10:43

I think it's fine to accept the refund ... but can't believe it's even a topic of conversation between you and your friend? didn't you have any rice to cook at home?

No rice at home!

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tiredmama23 · 01/01/2023 10:55

Figgypuddingpiggyfudding · 01/01/2023 10:53

In the nicest possible way, this seems like a non issue to worry about! It's up to the takeaway to offer you what they feel is acceptable and up to you to accept it or not.

I am also with a previous poster, not sure I would be relaying all this in such detail to a friend before 10.30am on NY day! 😄

I text my friend most days. We are both awake with the larks as we have toddlers! 😫

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Figgypuddingpiggyfudding · 01/01/2023 10:57

So am I! But I'm not one for detail when telling a story so each to their own I guess!

Ollieharriet · 01/01/2023 10:59

We had an Indian last night too. Ordered in advance for collection at 19.30. Arrived at that time to be told the food had been ready for an hour (their mistake). They re-did the naan breads because they were cold! When I arrived home i realised there were no starters in the order and the sauces for the poppadoms were missing. Raging but the Food was delicious though! And I had to reheat the food. I expect to be refunded for the missing items.

DogsDryWineAndCheese · 01/01/2023 10:59

Yabu to not have microwave rice! This could have been solved in 2 minutes.
I’m not sure if have accepted almost 50% refund for that but you weren’t unreadable to accept his offer! Quite a none issue.

BoganKiwi · 01/01/2023 11:00

Oooh. Curry and chips though.

tiredmama23 · 01/01/2023 11:01

Figgypuddingpiggyfudding · 01/01/2023 10:57

So am I! But I'm not one for detail when telling a story so each to their own I guess!

She was telling me about the meal she went out for last night, I happened to say we had a disappointing Indian takeaway, she asked why, I explained, but said it wasn't all bad, I got half the total of the meal back... she was like you're a cheeky fucker 😂😂 (with laughing faces). I said why?! They offered. She said you should have just got the missing stuff refunded! I'm assuming by the laughing emojis that she's not re-evaluating the friendship over it, but yeah. It made me think, was I a CF?! 😬

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Holly03 · 01/01/2023 11:02

A good will gesture. This is stated as not a refund for the items, it’s more about the fact that half of your meal was missing and you have now been inconvenienced in making an extra portion yourself. This would have cost them more in petrol and time to deliver the missing items to you; so it worked for both them and you. 10.00 is a good offer and to be honest I find it reasonable

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