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Manifesting? Do you believe in it?

51 replies

progessinmind · 30/12/2022 09:21

Every Christmas we end up with the dog in the vets.
For all kinds of reasons.
This year DP kept saying 'we better not end up at the vets again'.
This was said multiple times.
Then yesterday we woke up to our dog unable to move. He couldn't move at all. He was completely fine the day before. It was very sudden and frightening.
We ended up in the vets.
He was given an injection and will need medication going forward.

I know this could just be a coincidence.
But it isn't the only one.
There have been more times where something similar has happened.

Last night I was online and a video popped up about manifesting and vibrations etc. it said if you keep thinking something negative or something you don't want, the universe just hears the words such as, for example with mine 'the vets'. Not the part before 'we don't want to end up in.......the vets'.

What are your thoughts?

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carbonarya · 30/12/2022 13:15

No, this kind of thing has always been used as an excuse to ignore or persecute certain people. Well if you're poor/disabled/sick it's your own fault for not manifesting enough.

WhoWants2Know · 30/12/2022 15:43

I believe a person's mindset can effect their life, but not in an absolute way. People don't bring tragedy on themselves by thinking negative thoughts.

But if you practice focusing your attention on the positive things that happen in each day, you tend to feel that you're a lucky person, that you'll succeed, etc.

OhmygodDont · 30/12/2022 15:49

Friend believed in all this and woo and shakras and crystals. If it helps your mind feel better than you do you is all I can say.

beingsunny · 06/01/2023 08:08

@progessinmind just had a thought, if you are trying to understand it more, Abraham and Esther Hicks have a few books, or you can watch their stuff on YouTube. It makes sense to me but I don't live life by it by any stretch.

Oher · 06/01/2023 08:30

No. People who believe in manifesting are basically saying “If you life is crap, if you’ve been raped or robbed, that’s your fault.” It’s just a way for wealthy people to feel they deserve their good luck because they manifested it.

Your dog goes to the vet each winter because he doesn’t react well physically to winter.

MissTikMeg · 06/01/2023 08:38

It sounds just the same as "don't tempt fate" which is also nonsense!

IveHadEnoughNowFfs · 06/01/2023 08:42

I believe it 100%, I’ve seen too much happen with it to be in denial. Of course people here will tell you it’s pathetic, how stupid, all nonsense but that’s ok, let them live in their dull world 😊

Cue personal attacks and insults…

DrunkBetch · 06/01/2023 08:44

DH and I joke that Aldi is psychic. We talk about needing something, literally anything and then a week later it will appear in their special buys. 🤣
We don't actually believe in any of that stuff though!

RedCarsGoFaster · 06/01/2023 08:44

IveHadEnoughNowFfs · 06/01/2023 08:42

I believe it 100%, I’ve seen too much happen with it to be in denial. Of course people here will tell you it’s pathetic, how stupid, all nonsense but that’s ok, let them live in their dull world 😊

Cue personal attacks and insults…

How do you feel about prayer? Religiosity. miracles? Religion in general?

Can you give some examples of what you've seen?

86Emily · 06/01/2023 08:48

Utter nonsense!

If you're focused on something, you will simply be more aware of when it does or doesn't happen or you will take steps yourself to achieve/prevent it. Nothing to do with manifestations or vibrations.

Deathbyfluffy · 06/01/2023 08:52

Coffeeandtveasily · 30/12/2022 11:49

I have OCD so manifesting terrifies me. My intrusive thoughts are about people I love dying so the thought that I can cause this causes me so much anxiety and fear.

You can’t cause it, don’t worry - it’s nonsense

ShodanLives · 06/01/2023 08:53

IveHadEnoughNowFfs · 06/01/2023 08:42

I believe it 100%, I’ve seen too much happen with it to be in denial. Of course people here will tell you it’s pathetic, how stupid, all nonsense but that’s ok, let them live in their dull world 😊

Cue personal attacks and insults…

Better to live in a dull world that one where people are judged or blamed for things out of their control.

mondaytosunday · 06/01/2023 08:56

If it worked I'd be a size 12, have a loving partner snd be a lot richer!
I think if you think negatively about things it can seem like you attract it, but I think it's mindset. Positive people see possibilities, negative see barriers.
There is a thing where, for example, putting a image/thought in someone's head can make it happen, but in an incident like this:
Two kids are climbing a tree. One mum shouts 'don't fall down', the other shouts to her kid 'be safe'.
The first kid now is thinking he's going to fall. The other thinks he is going to be safe. Guess who is most likely to fall?
A vision board may well help keep goals in focus, and that helps motivate you, but I think people tend to see coincidence as proof of negative manifesting.

Mardyface · 06/01/2023 08:58

I think being focused helps achieve what you want. As someone whose marriage has lately got into the habit of tit-for-tat, though, well done for managing to blame DH for the sick dog! Score!

Refreshmentsanyone · 06/01/2023 09:01

Coffeeandtveasily · 30/12/2022 11:49

I have OCD so manifesting terrifies me. My intrusive thoughts are about people I love dying so the thought that I can cause this causes me so much anxiety and fear.

I think you might have this wrong. You are fixated on anxiety and fear. If the people you are thinking about died you wouldn’t have them to be worried about. So I think the universe is hearing that you want to be trapped in the thoughts rather than you wanting them dead.
Anxiety and fear are the opposite to belief. .Belief it can happen is the calm state of feeling like it will. The absence of worrying.

OverTheRubicon · 06/01/2023 09:02

Agree with @mondaytosunday that it can help by getting us to identity and focus on an outcome that we want.

In this case though, it's a pretty horrible way to blame your husband for your sick dog.

bowlingalleyblues · 06/01/2023 09:22

I know it works in the positive sense, I think of it more as positivity / mindset that allows you to see opportunities and take action. When I don’t approach life with that attitude thinking “there’s no point”, “it’s hopeless” and “I have no way of making this happen” take over. I don’t think it’s ‘vibrations’ but it is I guess a positive mental attitude so even when things are hard or bad stuff happens you can keep going.

IveHadEnoughNowFfs · 06/01/2023 09:28

RedCarsGoFaster · 06/01/2023 08:44

How do you feel about prayer? Religiosity. miracles? Religion in general?

Can you give some examples of what you've seen?

I’m one of those annoying people that says they’re spiritual not religious 😂 but I do think prayer is very similar to manifesting.

One example is a few years ago, me and my husband were really struggling financially. I was hearing about manifesting left right and centre and started to implement some of the techniques and within 6 months he had a huge windfall that made it possible for us to be mortgage free, buy the cars outright and go fully self employed. There is no way on earth it would have been possible other than the way it happened, and the way it happened was nothing short of a miracle.

I know people probably won’t believe what I’ve written but hand on heart on all I hold dear it changed my life and continues to help me.

Buzzinwithbez · 06/01/2023 09:28

Jaybird43 · 30/12/2022 10:54

I believe in this. I am petrified of brain tumours - like literally whenever DC say they have a headache, I jump to “brain tumour”. My dad has just been diagnosed with a brain tumour… no symptoms at all. Devastated.

I don't believe in it, but I do believe (and this is just as woo I know) that our Spidey senses can pick up some events that happen.
I'm sorry to hear about your dad. I hope it is treatable

MintyFreshOne · 06/01/2023 09:34

Coffeeandtveasily · 30/12/2022 11:49

I have OCD so manifesting terrifies me. My intrusive thoughts are about people I love dying so the thought that I can cause this causes me so much anxiety and fear.

Yes if you don’t have this you won’t understand.

I try to tell myself it’s magical thinking and my thoughts cannot manifest into reality 😔

dustofneptune · 06/01/2023 10:02

I used to be HEAVILY into Law of Attraction / manifestation culture. There were a lot of odd things that came up as a result of it. Synchronicities were also a thing - having a song stuck in my head, then having it keep popping up in my life over the next 24 hours. Seeing certain numbers, signs, etc.

Little things happened. I thought "I'd like to try Ecover products" and "I fancy a yum yum cake" (lol) - and DP would randomly come home with those exact things, despite us never buying them before, not talking about them, etc. I once imagined receiving an exact amount of money from freelancing, then got paid that exact amount - down to the pennies. I also once wanted to manifest a partner and said "I'll know she's the one because she will look like X celebrity" - and my next partner exactly like that celebrity. Financial bits happened too - deals and discounts and opportunities and gifts that just landed in my lap.

The problem is that because I thought I could manifest things, I spent all my time thinking about it. Fantasising, believing, really deep down the rabbit hole. I was also very anxious, very obsessive about it, and felt guilty if I manifested "failure". Also, when I did act, I just believed it would lead to massive success - which isn't realistic. If Richard Branson fails at stuff, why the hell would I succeed at everything?

Manifestation is often discovered when we are feeling lost and frustrated, so we latch onto it as a form of hope and escapism. But in many cases, it just causes us to actually be stuck in our existing reality, because we're so caught up in the thinking that we aren't really DOING much about the bigger picture.

So now I try to ignore thoughts of manifestation. I think more about taking chances on myself, believing in myself, being ok if things don't pan out, etc. Basically riding the wave of life, knowing that I can only control myself and my actions.

I do, however, still wonder if what we're talking about isn't actually manifestation at all, but instead predicting or sensing things that about to happen. Sixth sense, intuition, human psychic ability that isn't yet backed by science, or just simply a normal subconscious ability to feel patterns.

I also think there might be some bias involved. Someone happens to get into manifestation, they want to make a big sum of money, and they get a windfall. They're likely to attribute that to manifestation. Same thing if someone makes six figures and attributes it to hard work. Yet someone else can be into manifestation, work hard, etc., and never experience the same results.

I hope your doggy is ok <3

Jaybird43 · 06/01/2023 11:19

@Buzzinwithbez thank you and I know what you mean - I experience so many Deja vu's and it was just like that, so I guess I always knew this would happen :(

VladmirsPoutine · 06/01/2023 12:02

I don't know I think people are thinking about too much in the literal sense iyswim? Of course people have dreamt about winning the lottery but are still up at the crack of dawn everyday to keep the wolf from the door working themselves into exhaustion but I think it comes down to maintaining as much as you can a positive outlook. I think having a positive mentality helps no end - if you can deal with life's challenges without spiralling into a negative twist it does help you in many ways which is why things like mindfulness do eventually work. I think manifestation as a branch of that can work.

SleeplessInEngland · 06/01/2023 12:04

Nah, it's fanciful gibberish, a bedtime story for people who want more control of their lives than they have.

Stayathomenamechange · 06/01/2023 12:06

It's funny how the all-powerful Universe seems to prioritise granting the wishes of a minority of Western women who've joined up to MLM schemes.

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