To wonder how the Cambridge children are so beautifully behaved?

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They sat through the Christmas carol concert so perfectly, and are just so incredibly well behaved when on public outings. They seem delightful and are always so well turned out. As a mum myself, I can’t help wondering - what is Kate and William’s secret? Kudos to the both of them, because they always seem to keep the children in check, but they do it in such a lovely and understated way. They are clearly both naturals with children, because there is no way my unruly brood would be that well behaved at a carol concert. Parenting goals and then some!

If your kids go to private school or church then they will all be able to do this. It's really not particularly remarkable. By the time they are prep age they will have assembly for about an hour each week, be expected to sit through carol services, plays, speeches, prize giving etc without causing a fuss.

They have a highly trained Norland nanny in Maria - can't remember her surname. She probably spends more time with the children than Kate does, and she will be well aware of the need for the children - the older ones anyway, to behave well for the cameras. They have been trained since they were young.
As others have said, Kate used to tell Charlotte off occasionally when she was younger.

9 7 and 4? The older two are well used to it - I'd be pretty disappointed in my kids if they couldn't behave themselves at that age!

Ffs, I’m sick of these threads. George is in year 5- two years off going to secondary school. They aren’t that young anymore. We only see glimpses of their behaviour, the camerawork is very clever. And they have one of the strictest upbringings possible and like all royals are highly media trained.

And at private schools they will be regularly expected to sit through assemblies etc.

And maybe they enjoyed the Carol concert. I think I would have at age 9 - I enjoyed the music of church, if not the services, and especially enjoyed Christmas carols.

I think they adapt the degree of participation required and the way in which it was done in order to allow the child to stay out of the limelight somewhat, to avoid some of the more intense sensory experiences, to give them space away from the cameras etc.

All of this happens in state schools too…

Oh sure yeah definitely. Normal.

They have basically had a "supernanny" to train them since before they could talk. It's not surprising this yields results.

They behave like the rest of the RF, emotionless. Can you imagine being expected to shake hands & be hugged by strangers at that age? We bring children up to understand that they don't have to be touched or hugged by anyone they don't want to.

We only see a small glimpse
My DC are adults now but would have been able to behave perfectly on public occasions at similar ages without devices
I set out my expectations in advance and was a fairly strict parent

Half decent parenting.

They have been reared by a Norland nanny, not their parents. They are trained by Nanny to behave in public. I did not have a nanny, but was a hands on mother who was consistent in expectations of my 4 under 4 children, last 2 twin boys (scream). They never misbehaved in public, they knew not to, as do the Wales', most of the time.

I think most kids by the ages of 7 & 9 can sit quietly for a couple of hours and watch whatever is in front of them. I’m more surprised when children this age are fidgety and inpatient. There’s no secret and they haven’t been ‘trained’ - just do what loads of other parents do and tell them we are in church so sit still and listen and you will get some Haribo afterwards

Yes exactly. If your 9yo child (NT) can’t be trusted to behave themselves in public then the parents need to look closer to home rather than consider another family something of an oddity

My children 'behave beautifully' at church/weddings/funerals/restaurants because they know what we expect of them and they have personalities that respond well to a quick whispered reminder or comment to say well done. On the other hand, they don't behave beautifully all the time and they certainly push the boundaries in the comfort of home territory! I imagine the Cambridge children will also have been reminded that people are watching them at public events, so to be on best behaviour (other people witnessing behaviour can often be an influencing factor).

They have literally been trained from popping out on how to behave.sit.eat.talk.move. thousands money no issue training. Creating neural pathways of behaviour of training of actions.
When we are teach our how to colmb hair.spoon shredded.put shoes on.walj across the road they mimic it.they do it right?
Well the royal do this but by their own definition of it.there own standard.
It's training nothing else.if you were giving a list of what to do to be royal.yoh too could enforce it from birth.
And some rightly don't survive it or it ducks them up a bit. Harry.meghan.diana. to name a few.
I'm sure William in his time.
And his kids, behind closed doors I have no doubt they've had tantrums and refused to do it.bur rinse and repeat they eventually do.
And over time their childhood is slowly sucked out of them.and robots of goodness they become

@kateandme you’re drunk, go to bed.

As for everyone claiming that the children will be secretly miserable - aside from the fact that’s weird and a probably huge projection, it’s just bloody well untrue. If you think the RF, including children, lie in bed dreaming of a poorer life where they can go down the pub with the factory workers rather than their wealthy extravagant life they actually live, I’m afraid your naivety surpasses you.

The footage is chosen. We only see what they allow us too.

Although when they play up, I suspect K and W are pretty good at handling it

I was taken to Matins from the age of 3. Anything other than sitting, standing and kneeling at the appropriate places was unimaginable and unthinkable.
At 10, I joined the choir and ate sweets during the sermon.
Horses for courses.

What an unbelievably horrible thread. They seem like perfectly normal, nicely behaved children. How do any of you know how much time they spend with a nanny or how much time with their parents or how they behave in private.
They are barely seen in public.

Oh god almighty, can people stop this constant talk about them?

Remember that Kate and William have access to the best parental advice available.

And yet lots of parents manage to bring up well mannered children without "access to the best parental advice available". It's about teaching children your expectations and not letting them do whatever they please.

My dd would definitely have managed that age 7. She went a couple of funerals at this age, behaved as expected, and to young voices from age 7 as did many of her classmates. They needed to be impeccably behaved during the concert to ensure they performed correctly and didn’t distract each other or play up when the solo artists were performing. They also sat through a full rehearsal before the audience arrived, which apparently took longer than the performance as it included talk throughs and technical logistics. As for age 4, she would have struggled more. But no more than Louis, I imagine.