To wonder how the Cambridge children are so beautifully behaved?

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They sat through the Christmas carol concert so perfectly, and are just so incredibly well behaved when on public outings. They seem delightful and are always so well turned out. As a mum myself, I can’t help wondering - what is Kate and William’s secret? Kudos to the both of them, because they always seem to keep the children in check, but they do it in such a lovely and understated way. They are clearly both naturals with children, because there is no way my unruly brood would be that well behaved at a carol concert. Parenting goals and then some!

And also you know several of the highest trained and paid private nannies, top private schooling, everything you’ve ever wanted, and parents who don’t work and have never had any of the stresses of normal life would be beneficial to most kids’ behaviour. So…

My two DS are 10 and almost 7 so similar ages. They’d be able to behave the same way in public or at an event for a similar duration. They aren’t always behaved behind closed doors but know when they have to.

I think the Cambridge children are well behaved but not exceptionally so.

It’s sad if it’s generally accepted that the majority of children need a pack of Haribo and an iPad to behave.
How about engaging with them and engaging them with what is going on around them instead?

@Outandover that's probably it in a nutshell.
Remember too the RF will have nannies trained with psychology or access to child psychologists to advise on the best way to handle each child and their personality.

Not muddling along like the rest of us. Trying to parent without any proper training

The oldest two children are 7 & 9. Do you really feel it is ‘impossible’ for children of that age to behave themselves in a normal situation? Were your children at 7 & 9 incapable of sitting nicely through a school day or a church service without bribing them with bags of snacks and toys?

My DD would behave the same.

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Mine have always been impeccable when out at events. But I ea brought up where just a look from your gran or mum was enough to pull you back in line. I've done the same with mine. They've always known how to behave. In public.

I find it quite sad, but not surprising, how many people think the royal kids are somehow unusual or special for being able to behave.

Sure, but there comes a point when they just get bored and no more engaging will work. Particularly for toddler aged kids.

My 5 year old sat through a 3 hour long classical ballet and was beautifully behaved. I communicated my expectations of her behaviour very very clearly.

Also pure luck.

most dc will behave with lots of people watching you, cameras etc.

They are all school age though. They have only just started including youngest. The children weren’t expected to sit through long public events as toddlers.

Mine have always been impeccable when out at events. But I ea brought up where just a look from your gran or mum was enough to pull you back in line. I've done the same with mine. They've always known how to behave. In public.

that's amazing, most adults can't manage to behave impeccably in public!

That. I wouldn't have dared misbehave
Stuff like interrupting if my dad was on the phone or talking to someone was a total no no

It won’t be popular to say on MN, but my 2 DC have also been in private school since Reception. There is certainly an expectation/standard about behaviour - sitting in assembly, prize giving, carol service, not fiddling about, respecting teachers. Although I’m pretty sure at Reception age, it’s exactly the same at state.

I was one of 5 children , in the late 1970's we wouls all eat out with my parents and one of us would ever have shown ourselves up by playing up, we often got complimented as a family, no threats, no bribes, my own children were exactly the same, they just enjoyed days out and saw no reason to misbehave. My eldest siblings children were the same, however the children a decade younger are a nightmare. Spoilt and demanding.

I watched an interview with Mike Tisdale after the Jubilee and he said all the children, including Louis, had been eating a lot of sweets and taking breaks back stage. We didn't see that via the media though explains Louis' mischief a little. I expect they have training on how to be royal, especially the older two, but I'd also bet on some bribing and coaching. My 9yo will do anything for a match attack tin, including sitting still in a 3 hour carol service.

Remember that Kate and William have access to the best parental advice available.

@AlwaysGoingBackwards didn’t the Jubilee go on for about 4hrs though? That’s a big ask for any 4yr old. Mine could do a 2hr panto at that age, but much more, he’d be climbing up the walls.

Er, why not? It's about the royal family. I have muted that topic and would also like not to have this crap on the main page.

I don't understand why people think they are so exceptional. 1. They are used to doing things like that. And 2, no doubt they get told beforehand that if they behave well they will get to something fun as a reward and if they don't behave they won't, along with little reminders said under their breath during said event ..same as how any other parent would handle it surely?

Because it’s about the Royal Family.

It’s a parenting site and we are talking about how children behave, doesn’t have to be hidden in the RF section.

The older 2 are are 9.5 and 7.5 so not little xhildren.
They both have firm form for public misbehaving. Charlotte sticks her tongue out and
George and charlotte fought at the queen's funeral and Charlotte cried because camilla told Kate to take them away

Yep. And you never, ever interrupted if your parent was talking to someone equally boring in the street. And you never asked 'can we go yet?', at least, not in earshot. I might be seen as old fashioned, but it's how I've trained mine.