Christmas spending

[Justnosing]

Aibu to wonder how people decide on amounts to spend on each other for Xmas?

I know it obviously depends on income, and probably how much Christmas means to you, but from what I see on here people spend around £50-£100 on their children, and less on their partners. Whereas where I live it is quite the norm to spend £500-£800 on kids and around £500ish on partners (I’m talking ordinary families, not wealthy)

What happens if you meet someone who thinks £50 is a perfectly fine amount to spend on you but you’re used to receiving £1000 worth of gifts from your significant other?

is it an age thing? Area thing? Have you ever been in this situation where you’ve over gave? Or someone’s over gave to you?

my DP and I never used to set an amount when we first met 12 years ago, used to spend around 450-500 on each other but that amount seems to have crept up over the years. Where does it end? I think I’d like to set one for next year!

this is a light hearted general thread, not for mud slinging

DH and I have never bought each other Christmas gifts.

we spend £300 each on the kids. I don’t buy anyone else gifts.

DP and I do exactly the same @WhatLikeItsHard. I highly recommend it

After our first year together we agreed that we both value experiences over stuff (hate the angst/stress of coming up with thoughtful, meaningful gifts all the time).

We take his young adult DC to the theatre + dinner in London as our Christmas gifts to them and each other, and we go on weekends away and/or lovely meals out for our birthdays and anniversary. Fortunately these are all spaced out quite evenly through the year! 😆

I have 6 children, 3 young and 3 older grown up with jobs. They all get the same. Way too much for how many children I have and I’m not working at the moment. I don’t get any benefits before anyone asks, until I go back to work after Christmas when my youngest starts nursery I’m living off 25 years of constant work and constant savings. Probably spend 350 each roughly more probably but I loose count. Same of my husband but he’s annoyed me this year so maybe he won’t get as much 😂

This year and last year we decided to just give the kids. 13, 9 and 19 and they probably had around £600 each. We didn't do presents as we've been saving for our forever home but we did spend more than usual on birthdays. Now we have our house, I was inclined to go back to buying Xmas presents for OH but we've decided we quite like just focusing on kids. Both sides of our families do secret sa ta so far easier and cheaper.

Good grief my family is way below par here!! Spending on partner is maybe £100 ish depending on if there's something he wants. We're not big on "things" but he's also not big on buying clothes so often gets socks, pants etc as well as a token gift. We do like gig tickets or a meal out if we can, but childcare is often an issue so unfortunately overnights are often out of the question.
Kids, I started out thinking £100 when we first became parents, but that's not realistic if someone wants a bike. I'd say £200-250 tops though. I have no idea how people fund these lavish gifts! I don't think my kids are hard done by though and if I was spending £500+ I don't know what I'd get them apart from bug Lego sets

What do you buy for so much money OP?

I don’t have a budget for gifts for immediate family- yearly costs depends on their ages and what they need / want. I’ve always spend my much less than I could afford. It’s only stuff! What on earth would you spend £1k on at Christmas?

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