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The shit Christmas presents of 22 thread.

721 replies

ChristmasPresentsof22 · 25/12/2022 17:10

Another year, another round of presents from family that I cannot use. I have a serious food allergy and another health condition that means that I can't eat or use some foods/cosmetics. These are not new health issues, had them since childhood, yet there is not a single gift out of the few that I received that I can make use of. I decided to be blunt this year (after years of unsuaitable gifts) and tell the givers that I can't use their gifts due allergy etc but thanks anyway. Now I'm an ungracious brat. Am I? "It's not their fault I'm fussy." I'm really not, I just don't want to get sick. I would prefer not to do the gift thing as I'm not overly bothered about that part of Christmas, but I would be ruining it for everyone else, everyone else who gets decent thoughtful presents based on knowing what they like, it's shit when those thoughts are not reciprocated.

Anyone else want to join the naff presents club.

OP posts:
Mumof31981 · 27/12/2022 17:48

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 27/12/2022 17:32

gift giving between grown adults is on the while pointless and thankless

I agree with that, but in this specific case I don't think the problem is subscribing to arbitrary fashion rules. It's obvious common sense to think 'What a great bobble hat! I love that shade of pink. I don't need a hat myself, but I wonder if I could buy it for someone else? Who would appreciate it - who likes things of that style and bright colours? Who would it suit?' The answer in this case would very clearly not be @Mumof31981 for the reasons she's given! This smacks very much of 'I've got to give her something, this costs about the right amount, it'll do, who's next on the list?'

This is exactly what I mean, the giver loves a bright coloured item of clothing, I do not. For context it is from my dad's wife, so has known me for a while. Maybe I will save it for next Christmas to regift as I know she would love it!

Donewaiting · 27/12/2022 17:48

My brother in law and his wife got our 3 year old son a ride on car and some baby board books. He got virtually the same car for his first birthday. He's massively too tall for it, knees are on the floor and he can ride a balance bike so fast we can't keep up, and is way past baby ABC books. Appreciate any present but it's such a waste of their money. Feel like they've just bought the only thing left in TKMax...and they've had kids so it's not like they haven't had a 3 year old.

angela99999 · 27/12/2022 17:48

FuckoffeeBeforeCoffee · 27/12/2022 17:39

How old?

I think that making sure her room isn't too cold is basic parenting - I can see why she wouldn't want a blanket as a present. Her heating should have been sorted sooner.

36!
Lives in her own place...

cantbebothered101 · 27/12/2022 17:48

@ThomasHardyPerennial was your SIL not mortified who in a month of Sundays would give paper napkins TWICE 😂😂

GUARDIAN1 · 27/12/2022 17:48

I was happy with all of the gifts I received. Probably because one family member wasn't able to get over to deliver theirs - she bought me white chocolate (which I detest) covered in sprinkles (which I detest more) last year. Daughter and I swapped the presents we received from a family friend because we liked each other's more than our own. My mum gave me some money to buy what I liked and daughter knows my likes/dislikes and is always very thoughtful with gifts.

noodiedoodie · 27/12/2022 17:50

The out of date chocolates are always a favourite ... but my favourite was when my mother gave me a trouser press for Christmas! I don't think I've ever worn trousers with creases that need pressing so who does she think I am? I suspect it is a hint to smarten myself up but I'm afraid it never came out of the box and was re-gifted to Oxfam the following year.

Rhaenys · 27/12/2022 17:51

I did pretty well this year although I got one thing that was clearly a regift. I’ll probably still use it though lol.

JesusWearsPrada · 27/12/2022 17:51

An Adidas maternity hoody, complete with underbust-drawstring-to-accommodate-bump.
I'm single, 45 & perimenopausal.
(Has come in handy for hiding the Christmas food baby though, would recommend).

user1474549564 · 27/12/2022 17:51

janeeyreair · 25/12/2022 17:25

Crikey these presents are awful, my worst one was a Hotel Chocolat gift box, which I will re gift to a friend when she comes to stay for New Year. I obviously tell her!

I wouldn’t say that a box of expensive chocolate was a crap gift? Unless you’re diabetic or hate chocolate!

DetectiveDouche · 27/12/2022 17:53

Oh God bath bombs. Myself and DD got them from my mum.. AGAIN! I’ve told my mum countless times, “mum..we can use bath bombs.. they irritate our vaginas…” but once again, up they show

Mrshockallz1726 · 27/12/2022 17:55

Got given a scarf which I wouldn't wear as too pale. Went to take back to find the store would only exchange it for something else or a credit note if I had a gift receipt which obviously don't have and its a store I haven't shopped in since I was early 20s and I'm now late 30s

pollymere · 27/12/2022 18:03

My DH and DC bought me great presents because they bought exactly what I asked for. However, I get cross at people who give presents so they feel good. My MIL often regifts things so she can feel she's given me something and does the same to DC. I also have neighbours who give us things I'm unable to eat (who know I can't eat them). I once got a Bayliss & Harding secret Santa and I was so grateful that it wasn't alcohol or food I can't eat.

Brackensmomma · 27/12/2022 18:07

After a conversation 2 weeks ago with my cousin (who is my only blood family that I have contacted with) about chocolate and how thanks to the menopause I've gone off chocolate not eaten it for months.
I get the worse present ever.
A box of chocolate truffles and liquors.
That even if i liked chocolate I wouldn't eat.
Am I ungrateful or fussy.
I'd say neither. Especially after the conversation we had. In the bin they went. As I don't know anyone who world eat them.
No one is fussy if its for medical reasons it could be deadly if you eat or use something you know is going to hurt you.
Those who give these presents obviously don't listen or care.
My one and only present went to the bin. Great. Christmas 23 is cancelled.

heidihigh · 27/12/2022 18:11

Babooshka1990 · 27/12/2022 00:25

My Mum bought me a plastic glittery light up oil diffuser, in the shape of a clam. I don’t know how to describe it fully, it’s the tackiest thing I’ve ever seen. It changes colours! I don’t have anything glittery in my house or ocean-themed.

I’m glad I bought myself a present this year (velvetiser)

We received one of these too... Blush

Miisty · 27/12/2022 18:11

porcelain mug with chocolate stick to put in warm milk All our family have got the same 4young grandchildren and6 adults My husband and I don’t like drinking out of porcelain mugs any ideas .Seems like a. Job lot

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 27/12/2022 18:23

It's been a recurring theme on this thread and previous that the one thing someone can't eat/wear/use is the one thing they get given. My explanation for this is that the thought process (if one can call it that) goes like this.

A: Funny how tastes change as you get older.
B: [not really listening] Uhu.
A: Yes, I used to enjoy a bit of chocolate occasionally, but I can't be bothered with it now.
B: [still not listening properly, distracted by something else] I love chocolate.
[Conversation moves on.]

Time passes. B is struggling to think what to buy A as a present. In a blue funk, B tries to remember anything A has said recently about what she likes or needs. The word 'chocolate' comes into B's head. Chocolate! Everybody likes chocolate! That'll do. Another tick on the list ...

SaponificationQueen · 27/12/2022 18:25

My brother used to be the worst gift giver when he was alive. One year in particular was the worst. He apparently got a deal on some wool sweaters that were XXL. I’m allergic to wool, as are a lot of people. It was also several sizes too big. I think I was in a medium or large size at the time. It hung down about 4” past my finger tips. He freaked when I said I was allergic to wool. He screamed, “how come everyone says that!” I told him a lot of people were allergic to wool. My poodle thought it was great. He snuggled up in it and was happy. My brother, on the other hand, was pissed that I let him lay on it. What could I say, I couldn’t use it. It was my poodle or the charity shops.

Whynobreadpudding · 27/12/2022 18:31

We only buy adult kids chocolates or nice biscuit tins/pjs. Nothing else. Every gift is all eaten and pjs are used throughout the year. We don’t receive anything, which is fine.

astralpiano · 27/12/2022 18:32

astralpiano · 27/12/2022 17:27

Cat food

We don't have a cat.

I think they got us confused with someone else.

fetchacloth · 27/12/2022 18:33

YANBU OP - Trust me you're not alone : I have skin allergies (born with), asthma (had for 30+ years) and I don't possess a sweet tooth.
Nearly all my presents are either perfumed cosmetic products, chocolate, biscuits or scented candles. 🙄🙄
Oh well there's always hope for next year.😎

Bigboysmademedoit · 27/12/2022 18:38

In a house which is tight for space, always cold and with a large family I got a massive stuffed animal doorstop! The most frequent cry in this house is ‘close that door, you’re letting all the heat out!’ This is the second one this relative has bought me - I gave the other one away to the local charity shop.

ClaireVictorias · 27/12/2022 18:41

janeeyreair · 25/12/2022 17:25

Crikey these presents are awful, my worst one was a Hotel Chocolat gift box, which I will re gift to a friend when she comes to stay for New Year. I obviously tell her!

Why is this a bad present?!

Missingpop · 27/12/2022 18:45

The knack to sorting this out; re-wrap all the gifts now; ready for Christmas 2023 & just give the people back the shite they’ve just given you!!!
I did this with three of my sister-in-laws honestly the gifts I got from them I swear they got from a charity shop or car boot sale; I know you don’t give to receive; but I was really insulted I’d put a lot of thought into their gifts so, I went home & re-wrapped them put them away & waited & on Christmas Eve I handed the back to them they all looked horrified & only one said anything; so I told her I didn’t have any use for it & you obviously liked it so much as you brought it, so I thought I’d re-gift it back to you. It worked we all stopped giving gifts after that & the drive home was hilarious I’d told no one what I’d done so my Dh & Dc thought it was genius & hysterical.
You’ll have done all your Christmas shopping wrapped it & packed it away you’ll feel great I promise 😂😂😂😂😂

ScreamingFrog · 27/12/2022 18:46

listsandbudgets · 26/12/2022 22:53

A pineapple from a far flung relative who happenedto be with us at Christmas. a nice pineapple in a nice gift bag.. but... why?

She gave everyone else chocolate.. is this some kind of barbed hint about my waistline or did she forget all about me until the last moment and grab the first handy thing that would go in a gift bag?.Oh well at least I Iike pineapple ..

Pineapples are traditionally given as a gift to signify hospitality.

havamalgifting.com/blogs/gifting/the-meaning-behind-pineapples

Islandgirl68 · 27/12/2022 18:55

Sounds like a nice present. As it is toweling she could use it after her bath or while wearing he PJs.