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SIL invited us over for Christmas but changed the plan

104 replies

Noresto · 25/12/2022 03:07

SIL invited us over for Christmas.

She initially said she had a surprise for us, so I'm unsure whether it is actually a change of plan or if it was the surprise all along.

She just told us that instead of hosting the Christmas Dinner at hers and bil's, we would go out to Karen's dinner to have dinner there (it is apparently open tomorrow afternoon!)

She also asked us not to explain the concept of Karen's diner to my parents and PILs.
So she essentially wants this to be a huge prank and thinks it would be hilarious. She likes trends and I guess wants to follow this one but I think it's taking it too far. She's got a few thousand followers on her Tiktok account, so I'm assuming she wants to film the experience for views (it wouldn't be the first time).

AIBU to be miffed as it essentially means no one has done any Christmas food shopping (besides sides and drinks that we were planning on bringing) and gutted we would be eating fast food burgers and to think this is not funny at all?

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ChristmasJingleBalls · 25/12/2022 07:47

Oh come on, this isn’t real.

OrigamiOwls · 25/12/2022 07:57

I would be furious - she's happy to ruin the family's Christmas for her own amusement/for her followers. She's being selfish.
Between the rest of you can you cobble together enough food & space to host Christmas? I wouldn't be going to SILs and I would also be speaking to the rest of the family to be pre-warn.

poefaced · 25/12/2022 08:01

I think you’re safe OP, there’s no mention of being open on Christmas Day on their Facebook page 🙄

MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 25/12/2022 08:07

So she wants to humiliate both sets of parents for Christmas? And eat crap food? Is not good and I’d tells everyone about what she’s planning so they can make their decisions. Not funny

Sceptre86 · 25/12/2022 08:07

Is she your brother's wife or dhs sister? Why would she think it appropriate on Christmas of all days? I'd be honest with her and day you don't fancy it so won't be going. I'd probably tell the parents or inlaws so that they can decide what to do for themselves.

Schnooze · 25/12/2022 08:25

I wouldn’t mind trying Karen’s. It sounds quite fun - but not on Xmas day!

Timepasse · 25/12/2022 08:45

I had no idea what this was, having Googled it… completely grim on any day of the year for me personally.

Bestcatmum · 25/12/2022 08:47

In what way is this vile prank funny. I'd be telling her where to get off and informing the rest of the family about her plans. She sounds like a complete moron.

ReneBumsWombats · 25/12/2022 08:53

No. No. No. No. No.

Ablababla · 25/12/2022 08:54

You sure she’s not pranking you OP? You warn your parents and then there’s a perfectly normal Xmas dinner experience?

Womencanlift · 25/12/2022 08:55

I saw one of these videos filmed there where the older relative didn’t have a clue what was going on and became really upset while her family thought it was hilarious

Felt very uncomfortable to watch. Bad enough doing that to your parents on a normal day but definitely not today.

I would be telling your SIL where to go, bring your parents to yours and order a takeaway. Yes it’s not the Christmas you planned but better than going there for “laughs”

MrsToothyBitch · 25/12/2022 08:57

Surely they're closed? I'd ring her up and ask very sharply what's actually going on as social media says they're closed.

35965a · 25/12/2022 08:58

Try harder

AnyFucker · 25/12/2022 09:01

Give over

LunaAndHerMoonDragons · 25/12/2022 09:03

Pinkbluebells · 25/12/2022 03:33

Prank her right back by not telling her you have no intention of turning up. I'd warn my own parents though.

This but warn PILs too. It'll be hilarious when no one turns up. I'd also never agree to her hosting or planning any special occasions again until she grows the fuck up.

good96 · 25/12/2022 09:11

Karen’s Diner? Wtaf?
Not a chance on Christmas Day!! Sooo immature and I don’t know them!

ReneBumsWombats · 25/12/2022 09:11

MrsToothyBitch · 25/12/2022 08:57

Surely they're closed? I'd ring her up and ask very sharply what's actually going on as social media says they're closed.

Surely they are...

SoSweetAndSalty · 25/12/2022 09:14

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insufferableknowitall · 25/12/2022 09:17

Karen’s Diner for Christmas dinner? I would tell her I won’t be going.

Original poster
Noresto · 25/12/2022 09:18

Thank you for your replies everyone.

SIL since texted me to tell me to just come directly to her house instead and to forget about the restaurant.

I'm not sure if it was a weird joke and I just don't get her sense of humour (or she was testing my loyalty to her, to see if I was going to tell families? Lol) if someone in the family spoke to her and she decided better or that it was a last minute attempt of hers that failed. I think it's the latter, as it seems she does have food at her house to cater for a traditional Christmas dinner. But then again, surely she would have prepped some of the food in advance?

Fuck knows

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Oysterbabe · 25/12/2022 09:18

Urgh that sounds absolutely awful.

Iamnotausername · 25/12/2022 09:19

Please tell your family.

A burger would be disappointing but not the end of the world. I'd probably just roll my eyes at that one.

The theme is horrible though. I know I would take it personally and it no doubt some of the comments would stick in my mind. I couldn't let someone go there not knowing what it is. The restaurant is designed to humiliate people and your SIL is also planning on doing that.

Please give your family the option to chose.

Original poster
Noresto · 25/12/2022 09:20

Noresto · 25/12/2022 09:18

Thank you for your replies everyone.

SIL since texted me to tell me to just come directly to her house instead and to forget about the restaurant.

I'm not sure if it was a weird joke and I just don't get her sense of humour (or she was testing my loyalty to her, to see if I was going to tell families? Lol) if someone in the family spoke to her and she decided better or that it was a last minute attempt of hers that failed. I think it's the latter, as it seems she does have food at her house to cater for a traditional Christmas dinner. But then again, surely she would have prepped some of the food in advance?

Fuck knows

Oh God, sorry for all the spelling and grammar mistakes. Haven't gotten much sleep and it shows

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Southwig22 · 25/12/2022 09:20

What a trashy thing to do! I'd be mortified.

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Noresto · 25/12/2022 09:21

Iamnotausername · 25/12/2022 09:19

Please tell your family.

A burger would be disappointing but not the end of the world. I'd probably just roll my eyes at that one.

The theme is horrible though. I know I would take it personally and it no doubt some of the comments would stick in my mind. I couldn't let someone go there not knowing what it is. The restaurant is designed to humiliate people and your SIL is also planning on doing that.

Please give your family the option to chose.

My thought exactly. Why anyone would pay to willingly experience that is beyond me. On any day of the year

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