So I have an almost 4 week old and I'm currently breastfeeding and recovering from a section. I'm really enjoying being a parent so far and have put a lot of effort into building attachment etc and establishing feeding.
I have absolutely lovely in laws, we get on really well and we see them regularly and they've been really supportive since baby came along. They're very much the doting grandparents which is lovely and I do really appreciate it. My only issue is they are busting to get babysitting/ take baby out for walks etc and want to visit/ have us over multiple times a week. I'm sure there will come a point where I would really appreciate a break, but right now I just don't want to be away from baby at all. The only person I really want to take him out is my husband (mainly because I want him to enjoy that time with baby too) but I really, really miss him when he's not with me. My fil keeps talking about taking him out for an hours walk a few times a week to give me a break and so far I've deflected or invited him round instead so I can still be there but I'm a bit worried they're going to start getting offended and I'm not sure how to keep saying no.
I know dh is really keen to go along with whatever they suggest, they're a very close family so he's used to that level of contact with his folks (I'm not from that type of family and can find it a bit intense if I'm honest but i am more inteoverted). Aibu to continue saying no to them babysitting without me present and ask dh to back me up more on it even if it offends his parents? Or is there a better way to manage it?